September, 2009 Volume 5, Number 26
Here it is the end of summer; it's Autumn, back to school or
for some, back to work....and all of my friends sound like they are making New
One is starting a monthly museum day with a hired docent for several girlfriends;
another is taking a film class; and still another is committed to making
healthy lunches. Something about this time of year seems to get all of us
thinking about learning or experiencing something new, growing in some way or
even changing something.
IAC Center is responding with more groups in more locations,
and possibly something for everyone! We really believe in groups for both learning and lifting
spirits. In fact here are the 5 top reasons to join a group:
- Overcome isolation - Groups provide emotional
connections when people feel isolated from friends and family in relation
to their issues. Participants
enjoy communicating with like minded people
- Build resilience, which is defined as the
capacity to adapt to difficulties; and to discover or try new
opportunities for personal growth and change. According to the American Psychological Association
"Nothing helps more with adversity and stress than to feel the
support and understanding of other people. Creating connections is the
number one way to build resilience."
- Learn something new, perhaps a resource or a
- Feel validated and enhance self-esteem - discussing issues with others
provides the members with a greater sense of perspective and control, and
this may be the impetus to become more proactive
- Feel better - Improve your mood and
decrease the feeling of emotional distress
to sign up or if you would like more
We get that not everyone is a group lover!
If you are a more private person you may prefer getting your
sense of connection by talking to a very close friend or a counselor;
or even attending a workshop where your role can be a more observational one allowing you
to feel the emotional validation and learn something at the same time. We offer counseling and workshops in Pennington,
Red Bank; Montclair or Summit NJ; or in NYC. Contact firstname.lastname@example.org
if you need help determining the best choice for you.
You may just want to take a few moments
to read a new article about infertility or adoption
, and then get on to your other Fall
goals and pleasures.
Or, find out about IAC Center Fall workshop
See the Calendar
for more events of interest; and IAC Center Presentations at conferences and
for professional organizations
If you are considering
adoption or are an infertility or adoption professional, join us for our popular Crossing the Bridge from Infertility to Adoption Workshop
on October 17, 2009
at the Princeton Hyatt. Professionals
will be happy to learn that for the first time this workshop is also available
for 5 NASW CE credits
IAC Center Baby Care for Adoptive Parents
will be held on October 24, 2009 in
Pennington, NJ. Home study certificates are available if approved by your agency.
This workshop will be offered again on April 10, 2010 and we are seeking a NYC
location for some time in 2010.
Adoptive Parents may want some specific back to school tips to
prepare their child and his teacher for questions about adoption in the
- I always like the clear and concise articles in the September
issue of Adoptive Families Magazine. Start with Back-to-School Prep where you'll find downloadable handouts for your child's teacher, inspiring
ideas for adoption presentations, creative approaches to sticky assignments,
Check out the Concerned Persons for Adoption (CPFA) website at www.cpfanj.org and click on the link to PDF to see the new section For
Educators / School Personnel as well as parents of school-aged children. These twelve
pages of information were an outgrowth of research, presentations, and
experiences regarding adoption issues in the school. CPFA says you can feel
free to print it out and give it to any parent or especially an educator who
you feel can profit from it.....just be sure to credit CPFA.
excellent book choice for you or to gift to your child's school is Adoption and the Schools: Resources for Parents and Teachers by Lansing
And I hope you get to spend lots of time enjoying the many other
IAC Center Director
One of my Fall Goals is to join June, a local Korean woman
and friend of IAC Center, for a Korean lunch and
An IAC Center group member attended the lunch this summer,
and shares her experience in an article, Cultural and Culinary Delights
. If you would enjoy this, a special invitation
is below. I
plan on going in September. In
case you haven't picked this up yet, I am a true foodie. So please send in any other ideas for
special food events or restaurants directly to me at JMantellMSW@iaccenter.com!
IAC Center's resolution for the new year
is to meet the needs
of individuals and families whose lives have been touched by infertility and
Upcoming IAC Center Workshops
To sign up contact IAC Center at 609-737-8750 or follow the links above to locate registration links.
If you were at the IAC Center Holiday Party you
met June, a local woman who was serving the most delicious pears
and wearing beautiful clothing from her country. Now June is
inviting families to her house for an authentic Korean lunch and presentation.
June has extended an invitation for you to join her on:
September 13 or September 27
Place: at her home in Ringoes, NJ - directions will be
June is a lovely, sincere and generous woman
and we believe that you will find this to be a wonderful opportunity to
learn about either your child's birth culture or this culture if you do not
have a personal relationship to it. Please note: this event it not
limited to families formed through adoption from Korea. June welcomes anyone
interested in the culture.
RSVP - please contact Emily at email@example.com
Counseling offers a non-biased overview of family building options to facilitate individuals and couples in making timely decisions that are mindful of long term implications. Using a life-long short-term counseling model, counseling is available throughout the adoption life cycle for all adoption triad members.