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"Each man (is) the architect of his own fortune."
Appius Caecus
DON'T CRITICIZE
OR BLAME
"All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you." Wayne Dyer
When we criticize, blame or judge others it says nothing about that person, but something about our own need to be critical, right and somehow BETTER that that person.
When you look at all the criticize, blame and judgment going on around you, at home, work and in the news, can you honestly say that, 'It has helped made things better, of for that matter changed anything?' I would say NO.
In fact, I would say that it not only has not solved any problem, but has cause nothing but anger and distrust in the world. None of us likes to be criticized. A person that is being criticized will do one of two things, become defensive and will attack or lash out, or will retreat in fear or shame.
Think about the last time someone told you that you were WRONG. Did you say, "THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR POINTING OUT MY FLAWS. I REALLY APPRECIATE IT." Or maybe you said something like, "THANK YOU FOR SHOWING ME THAT I WAS WRONG AND YOU WERE RIGHT. NOW I SEE IT, BOY ARE YOU SO GREAT!!" Would I be wrong, if I said NO? I don't think so.
When something does not meet OUR EXPECTETIONS, many of us assume that, 'It must be someone ELSE'S FAULT.' Something is lost, someone else lost it, the house is dirty, I did my part to clean it, project not done on time, must be my colleagues not doing their fair share. We still sound like the kid telling his teacher that , "the dog ate his homework."
On a bigger level, look at all the frivolous law suit, the ridiculous excuses that are being used to get criminals off. We are in a habit of blaming other for just about everything from our stress, frustration, anger to why we are not HAPPY.
This does not mean that
you do not hold people accountable for their actions or lack of actions. I know that sometimes other people or circumstances are going to become your problem. This is the time for you to RISE ABOVE THE MESS and BECOME ACCOUNTABLE FOR YOUR REACTIONS.
CIRCUMSTANCES DON'T MAKE A PERSON.
When you blame or criticizers others you not only use an enormous amount of mental energy, you may even feel a little deflated and ashamed. This happen, because you are telling the world that you are NOT in charge of YOU.
When you stop blaming and criticizers others, you will regain your sense of personal power. Some of the thing that you might think about:
At a church meeting one night, people were sitting around talking about the philosophy, "TO LIVE EACH DAY AS THOUGH IT WAS YOUR LAST." "Well," said this sweet old lady, "That's a find saying, but for the last 20 years I've been using a philosophy that's a little different. It's this: "TREAT ALL THE PEOPLE YOU MEET EACH DAY AS THOUGH IT WERE THEIR LAST DAY ON EARTH." Barbara Reid
"Don't ever be afraid to admit you were wrong. It's like saying you're wiser today than you were yesterday." Robert Newell
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