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"Each man (is) the architect of his own fortune."

Appius Caecus

BUTTONS AND TRIGGERS

     "If you are exploding, it isn't because someone pushed your buttons, it's because you pulled your trigger." Elizabeth B. Brown

     Who is that person, that every time you see them, you shake with rage, your body starts pumping the adrenaline and you know that you are going to be IN the fight of YOUR LIFE?

     MORE THEN LIKELY, it is not a mugger, but someone you LOVE. You know that almost every time you are with this irregular person, you find yourself hotly defending yourself, your job, or some other thing that this person dislikes.

     You may even get so furious and out of control that you say things that later you wished you had never said. (30 second rule) Later as you look back on this time of chaos and hurt feelings, with a sense of FAILURE, do you think that THEY or you should CHANGE.

     Lets look at different BUTTONS in your life. You have buttons on your cloths, on you radio, TV remote, washer and dryer, and maybe to get into your car. Now take a REAL, REAL CLOSE LOOK AT YOURSELF and you will see that you are covered with BUTTONS and they are put on you to HELP YOU.

     BUTTONS stop you from putting you hand on the hot stove, from going down that dark street, or as a pressure valve to release built-up tension. They are our early waring system for DANGER.

     When someone PUSHES YOUR BUTTON, it's YOUR REACTION, (PULLING THE TRIGGER) that blows up your WORLD.

    As a kid, (and I still do when I find it) I loved to watch the ROADRUNER. The roadrunner was always out just doing his thing, running. Now Willy E Coyote, Genius, would come up with all kinds of ideas to catch and eat the roadrunner.

     But even being a (genius), everything he did, backfired and he was left under a rock totally blown away. And the roadrunner would turn and go "BEEP, BEEP" stilling running.

     Are your encounters ending like Willy? You pickup yourself and go back to the cave and you keep doing the same thing over and over because you did not learn anything.

     You see Willy could not CHOOSE how he ACTED. HE WAS PROGRAMED TO REACT. YOU ARE NOT A COYOTE.

     You can CHOOSE to stop seeing this person, or YOU CAN CHOOSE A DIFFERENCE RESPONS. You do not have to agree or disagree with anything they say (you do know that it take 2 to fight). Or YOU CAN

STOP PULLING THE TRIGGER!

"BEEP, BEEP"

                                                                                                    Jack Boston