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Colada
A drink of Knowledge Wisdom and Change
"Each man (is) the architect of his own fortune."
Appius Caecus
TWO BAD WORDS
"Every line a man writes, and every act in which he indulges, and every WORD he utters serves as unescapable evidence of the nature of which is deeply imbedded in his own heart, a confession that he cannot disavow." Napoleon Hill
There are TWO BAD WORDS that I would like you to replace in your life from this point on, NO, NOT THOSE TWO WORDS although that may not be a bad idea. These TWO BAD WORDS when used, and they are used a lot more then you may think. Stop more people from moving ahead then any other WORDS I can think of.
These TWO BAD WORDS are used by Presidents, Kings millionaires, school teachers, bosses, big kids, little kids, dads, grandparents, and even MOTHERS.
If you look back in history, you find millions of life and events that would have been changed if someone had not used the TWO BAD WORDS. The TWO BAD WORDS are one of the reasons why history repeats it self, and you stay were your are in life.
What are these TWO BAD WORDS you ask? Drum roll please, they are
IF ONLY
Think about how those TWO WORDS,IF ONLY has keep you from moving forward. IF ONLY, I had pay attention to my mother, teacher, etc, etc. IF ONLY I left a few minute earlier. IF ONLY I had not taken that last right. IF ONLY I had taken that shoot, swing the bat, asked him/her out. IF ONLY, I had taken out the trash last night. IF ONLY I put gas in the car yesterday.
How about, IF ONLY you would have clean you room. IF ONLY you had taken the time to study. IF ONLY you would have save your money. IF ONLY you would have listen to me. IF ONLY you would have asked for directions. IF ONLY, IF ONLY, IF ONLY, IF ONLY IF ONLY..........................IF ONLY.
What happens to your THINKING (and what you think, you become) when you or someone else uses the TWO BAD WORDS.....IF ONLY. Let me said this, the TWO BAD WORDS can only be used to look at things that have already happened, not things that have not. You can not say to your kids, IF ONLY you get up early next Saturday, we will go to the park. How about, IF ONLY you come to work next week I will let you have time off to take your kids to the park.
First, when you or someone else uses the TWO BAD WORDS, it is the start of an argument or the beginning of excuseites. (excuseites has been around for as long as man, but most people will not admit they have have it that is why you will not find it in the dictionary non will you find hubsickness,head up butt, if you ask your doctor, which a lot of people also have.) IF ONLY you put out the trash. First of all who said it was my job, second I had to work late, I was busy, I though you were going to do it.
IF ONLY.......... I made the BEST DECEPTION, I mean, choke, arr, arr, arr decision (excuseites) base on the information I had at the time. I tried to call and ask you about this but you did not answer the phone. I wrote down the directions just like you gave them to me. It was my understanding that this was not due until next week and that it was YOUR JOB.
When you got out of bed this morning and I hope the reason you are having this COLADA, is to move forward not backwards in life.
The second thing those TWO BAD words do is make you do a 180.
You got out of bed, your on auto pilot, your thinking of what needs to be done now, today. And you are hit with, IF ONLY. Now your thinking has to do the 180 and think about what happened yesterday, that awaken this UGLY MOSTER CALLED IF ONLY. You are now going to argue or make a excuse and it does not matter which one you do, you are now stuck in the past, NOT GOING FORWARD.
Now, I hope you know that you can not change the past, and if you get enough IF ONLYS today. You will be spending all of your time in the PAST.
If you do not want to spend all of your time in the past and you do not want to have history (your past) keep repeating it's self. Then you have to look at your history going forward so that you can learn from it, but not relive it.
I can see this is another one of those, What are you taking about Jack! If you put your hand or you saw someone put their hand on a hot stove, I would hope that going forward, both of you would not do this again. That's learning from the past. Reliving it: IF ONLY I had not put my hand on the stove, I would not have burned myself 20 years ago. You may still put your hand on a hot stove tomorrow.
I am going to give you TWO NEW GOOD WORDS to use that will keep you going forward and not have you living in the PAST.
NEXT TIME
NEXT TIME I will make sure that I understand the directions. NEXT TIME I will get up early so that I will not be late. NEXT TIME I will remember to put out the trash, even if I have to make a note to my self. NEXT TIME I WILL.......... NEXT TIME WILL YOU PLEASE ............
Can you see that using NEXT TIME, you are making a PLAN as to how you are going to live your life in the future if what ever happens, happens again. Think about how you will not be so tied at the end of the day from all your time travel back and forth to the past.
Since you are going to be spending a lot of time in the future don't you think you should have a plan as to how you are going to live there? NEXT TIME is one plan.
Something to think about: How do you think things would change in your life if you made a small card and not only carried it with you all the time but LOOKED AT IT SEVERAL TIMES A DAY. On one side you would had the MAGIC WORD and the other TWO GOOD WORDS.
KAIZEN
NEXT TIME
Jack Boston | 
