As I am
amazed by my clients' eagerness to become more tomorrow than today, one client
who appeared early in my coaching endeavors stands out to me this week.
Margi, a
top notch professional, was energetic and wise beyond her years. She could find
humor and meaning in a rock. Margi always looked toward her future.
She
contacted me shortly after turning 30. Instead of looking back at the fun and
mistakes of her 20's, she was intent on creating her next decade. "Here's what
I am going to look like and 'be' when I turn 40!" she announced during an early
session.
WOW, I
thought. So many of us try our hardest to hold on to the past, dressing and
acting like who we were during the 'good years,' denying the brilliance of who
we are today and who we're becoming tomorrow.
This is
especially true when we begin a new decade. There's often sadness around what's
behind us rather than an excitement of what's possible right in front of us.
Margi's
vision of turning '40' was to be in a loving relationship, surrounded with a
few people who truly care for her...and a lot of people whom she enjoys (not
merely tolerates.) She wanted to enjoy, thrive in and be proficient in her
profession with a loyal and appreciative clientele.
She's a
beauty today. Looking forward, she wanted her appearance to reflect a solid,
slightly more mature, always stylish confidence. She'll have a strong
foundation from all of her
experiences in her 20's and 30's, not just the good ones.
Why was
Margi's vision so important to her? She saw too many people overwhelmed with
regrets of the past. They were either sad for the lost youth or regretful for their mistakes. Margi chose to focus instead on all she is today and who she's
becoming.
Her vision
elevated her thoughts and choices, both personal and professional. Life was
simple for her. For example, "Will this person, job or activity support who I
am becoming? If not, I choose now to eliminate it from my life instead of
waiting."
"If I am
going to look and feel as great as I envision on my 40th birthday,
I'd better have that workout today, eat in a manner that makes me feel great
about myself, and eliminate sabotaging thoughts that appear out of nowhere."
If you
think you are today all that you were intended to be, you are not being honest
with yourself, and you are holding yourself back from the remarkable adventure
ahead. I invite you to be motivated by Margi's lead this week.
What is
your next milestone birthday? Who do you want to be on that day? With whom do
you want to surround yourself? What do you want to feel like? Who do you want
to see in the mirror?
No matter
what age you are, this is the time of your life. Look forward and enjoy every
moment of continued growth and development.
