|Your Success Thought for the Week of March 4, 2009
wants to be 'heard.'|
leaders claim to be excellent 'listeners.'
a rarity that a highly accomplished client comes to me enthusiastically stating
that he or she is 'heard and completely understood' by their ________ (fill in
the blank--board, CEO, boss, team, spouse, partner, kids.)
Our unwillingness or
inability to listen damages relationships, gives others an unpleasant view of
us and it robs us of valuable (often insightful) information.
What do we gain by listening
to what another person is sharing-verbally, emotionally and physically?
Here are some techniques to
experiment with this week to enhance your listening prowess:
of Mind: Positive feelings and actions are the
result of effective communication which begins and ends with mutually
Ego: You may think you have the best solution; however,
someone on your team may just have a more creative, viable option.
Listening to them opens the door for others to contribute as well and
creates a more collaborative and productive atmosphere.
Assumptions: You may not give a
board member credit for their input yet this time they are right on
target. Active listening with an open mind livens up the entire meeting.
Focus: If your intention is to listen to
another then your overall focus increases.
It's like building a new muscle that gets stronger and stronger.
What will open up to you
this week will if you simply take time to honor and listen to those most
important to you. Take the motto 'listen
and learn' everywhere you go and see what surprises come to you.
- Paraphrase and use your own words to show you understand
the message. (Parroting back the
words verbatim is annoying.)
- Look for what the person really wants to communicate. What does he or she want for or from
- Pause and be patient. Wait for a cue that the other
person has completed his message before jumping in with a question or
eye contact and body language
to communicate that you are listening-lean forward toward the person
speaking; look directly at them; nod; avoid glancing at your watch or
others in the room for their reaction.
judge. People know when they are being judged
and know that you are no longer listening.
You don't have to agree with a person to listen to them.
questions rather than assuming that
you know what they are saying.
(Anyone who has been in a long term relationship knows how often we
are incorrect in assuming what our partner is communicating to us.)
Enjoy your discoveries and
have a grand week.|
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Ann, thanks so much for all of
your inspiration and leadership throughout the year. You are one special lady.
All the best to you and yours in 2009! : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : :
~ Jim Lee, Executive Director, Coril, Bend, OR
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