"You’ve Changed; Now What?"
Your Success Thought for the Week of March 7, 2007
You’ve made a big change in your world and you want everyone else to notice, be thrilled for you, and respond accordingly. You are no longer the person you used to be.
You’ve started your own dream business; have that new promotion and fancy title; are three months into your exercise regime, feeling stronger than ever and determined to never go backwards; are off the market since you’ve fallen head-over-heals in love.
Your changes may be the direct result of years of planning and due diligence, or they may have happened quickly. Regardless, they’ve happened and you’re elated. Now there’s a new challenge? No one else seems to notice how different you are now?
I hear this often from clients who have brought amazing changes to their world: “Why does Phillip still treat me as if I’m the person I was six months ago? Doesn’t he see how different I am today?” Why do your friends, associates and relatives still expect you to be readily available to hang with the gang, eat pizza, and go out with that friend of theirs with the great personality? Don’t they know that you’re a new person now? Doesn’t it show?
Actually, unless you’ve taken action to demonstrate or communicate your new changes, those around you may not notice your changes as rapidly as you would like. Two obstacles prevent others from seeing and reacting to your valiant change:
1. They need proof. What is different about you? Just because you’ve made this change, how would those around you know to treat you differently? Great as they are, others in your world are typically far more concerned with their own lives than yours. If you want someone to treat you in a different manner, it is up to you to give them a reason. We are constantly teaching those around us how to treat us. For example, if you want more respect, then give them a reason to respect you. Demonstrate in words, actions, body language, appearance, or heightened interest in them just how different you are now than you were before. While appearance is the fastest way to alter one’s perception of you, each one of these tactics has merit.
2. They need time and consistency. Your changes may have taken months, perhaps years. Allow others to catch up with you. Your change may have been big news last week, but now it’s a new week and they have other items on their agendas. It's possible that they may either doubt or be threatened by your change. Patience allows those near and dear to you time to get comfortable with your new direction. Consistency proves that it is not a flash-in-the-pan modification. It is here to stay, and they can trust it, along with trusting the new-and-improved you.
The only certainly in life is indeed change. Take time this week to look around you. How have you changed, and what has brought about that change? What is changing in your workplace, home, family, social settings? What changes do you foresee this coming year? How can you stay ahead of the game?
Enjoy this never-ending process of modifying who you are and how you see your world. Keep tweaking the small things to produce even more amazing results. Notice and acknowledge the changes in those around you. We are all better off for allowing and even encouraging change to occur.
Enjoy your discoveries and have a great week!
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Ann Golden Eglé, MCC
Executive Coach & President
Golden Visions Success Coaching, LLC
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