"Let Go of Perfectionism"
Your Success Thought for the Week of July 12, 2006
~ Pastor to Ashley Judd We’ve heard it since childhood that “practice makes perfect’, ‘that was the perfect pitch’, ‘perfect school, teachers, grades, friends, accomplishments’. Were they really all that perfect or was this an illusion that would later sabotage us? Tom Peters had it right in his landmark book, In Search of Excellence. Why not In Search of Perfectionism? Was this because he knew too many burned-out executives who had destroyed careers and relationships through seeking perfectionism-- something that was not attainable? A study of CEO’s showed that nearly 60% were still trying to please their fathers--possibly through perfect results? In Why CEO's Fail, David Dotlich lists perfectionism along with arrogance and volatility as key reasons for the demise of highly successful individuals. He points out a theory that I see daily in my coaching practice. Weakness is the ‘shadow’ or opposing side of strength. Perfectionism may be the naughty, distracting, little brother to such strengths as precision, accuracy, excellence or passion. I’ve enjoyed Ashley Judd in all of her movies (especially when matched with Morgan Freeman.) She appeared to be the less-troubled member of the Judd family and a rare model of health and vitality in the Hollywood scene. As such, I was amazed to learn that she’s just come out of a 47-day treatment program for “codependence in my relationships; depression, blaming, raging, numbing, denying and minimizing my feelings." (Glamour Magazine, July 2006) Because these behaviors are not chemical addictions, people are not typically treated for them. Perhaps Ashley will serve as a role model for how damaging our emotional wounds are. Perfectionism was both a sign of the problem and her problem. In my client’s words, previous perfectionist behavior prevented them from success in the following ways:
What is the difference between perfectionism and excellence? According to Healthline.com, perfectionism is: The tendency to set unrealistically high standards for performance of oneself and others, along with the inability to accept mistakes or imperfections in matters of personal appearance, care of the home, or work. Webster simply defines excellence as: very high quality or standard. Which would you rather be? Which mode of behavior and thinking will bring you more peace, creativity and productivity? Which will enhance your relationships and self acceptance? Catch yourself as you swing between excellence and perfectionism this week. Sometimes there is a very fine line. If you find yourself uttering the word perfect, try changing it to ‘excellent.’ Notice your results and energy level with both approaches. Enjoy your discoveries and have an excellent week. Ann
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