The same phenomenon occurs when we are in the presence of someone who is magnetic; better yet, when we feel undeniably magnetic! Our posture improves; we are focused and sure of ourselves; our communication is crystal clear.

The dictionary defines magnetism as ‘the strong attractiveness of something; for example, the power of somebody’s personality to influence others.’ Last week we talked about how our physical and verbal presentation guides other’s perception of us.

What about our attitude, level of confidence and emotional state? Being more transparent than you think, people easily read when you are confident or not.

“Katherine Hepburn once referred to her arrival in Hollywood by saying, “I was bringing myself as though I were a basket of flowers!” How wonderful to feel that way and to be able to say it!

“If Hepburn hadn’t had her confident sense of self she could never have swept through Hollywood as triumphantly as she did. The prevailing idea of women in her day were cuddly, sexy, pretty—nothing like the independence, aristocratic strength, individuality, and racehorse beauty she projected.

“People do walk through the door of your expectations—especially if the expectations are unquestioning and sure. Katharine Hepburn’s sense of self was so powerful that she not only became a star; as everybody knows, she stayed one.” Doe Lang, Ph.D., in Charisma, Discover and Unleash Your Hidden Powers.

I often hear people say that toning down their weight will make their confidence soar. 'I’ll feel much better about myself and then I’ll ask for that promotion.’ This is conditional acceptance. Do you want conditional acceptance from others? Then why limit yourself? Your sense of self is more wisely developed through the fascinations that occupy your mind and your heart.

You’ve seen very large or animated individuals walk into a room and own it. They accept themselves as who they are here and now. It doesn’t matter if you are tall or short, thin, overweight or have a bad hair day, your level of confidence determines how people respond to you. Your magnatism is noticed and remembered.

Magnetic people like John Kennedy, Katherine Hepburn, Marilyn Monroe, Jimmy Buffett, Martin Luther King, Oprah, Denzel Washington are listened to and have the ability to influence people.

This week, consider what makes these and others in your world magnetic. Be specific. Think of celebrities, politicians, individuals whom you respect and those whom you do not as they are still your teachers.

What common traits do they have? Which of these traits do you have? Under what circumstances do you allow these traits to shine? Which traits would you like to develop? You’ll get extra credits if you position yourself in a place to be around individuals like this, and are magnetic yourself.

Enjoy your discoveries and have a great week!

Ann

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