Top Five Fears

The results are in on the fear survey. I want to thank everyone that participated in the survey. There was a greater response than I would ever expect. 120 people from all over the country and one person internationally answered the question "What is the one thing you fear most in life?"

Per the survey, here are the Top Five Fears in Life.

#1 Loss - loss of self, death of a loved one, being deprived of or having things being taken away

#2 Being alone - not being wanted, abandoned, or not deserving

#3 Failure - not good enough to, able to meet expectations of or failing others or self in

                      academic, employment or relationship situations

#4 Life will never change - never getting out of abusive, negative or threatening cycles,

                      situations or relationships

#5 Afraid of Myself - due to anger, hate, loathing, programming, resentment or disowning

What was most interesting from the survey was the level of emotionalism that came along with the answers. Even though I asked for only one or two word answers, the majority of participants explain their answers to me in detail.

In my evaluation of the survey answers or fears that were submitted, I believe that they all come from rooted beliefs originating from a false perception of weakness. Those weaknesses are either in one's ability to perform in life situations or in some part of self. As I have seen during my years of interacting with survivors they tend to focus on their weaknesses and not their strengths when under stress. What the survey tells me is that in order to get what you want out of life, the rooted beliefs that cause thoughts of weakness needs to be uncovered and shifted into beliefs that will be empowering. This in turn will improve your ability to perform and begin the healing process.

Thanks again for the time and effort each one of the participants' took to be a part of the survey. I hope that each one gains some support or increased knowledge from the survey. I know the survey has helped me to think past the obvious and discover what is embedded.

Sincerely,