After 30 years, I have finally figured out the answer to the question, which helped me battle my own bouts of life depression. Ready? Life depression is anger turned inward, due to his or her judgment of how they performed or did not perform in a life event. Now that I can understand the whole idea and I can

sink my mind in to it. For example, when our country or any other country, performs poorly economically it goes into a period of depression by national and global economic standards. Humans respond in the same manner. If we lose a job, a relationship or a sports contest we experience feelings of depression.

Our society has become so performance based. Some of the highest paid, most revered and judged individuals in our society are sports figures. Being #1 is a value and values are very important in this society. Our performance is rated constantly by others and by ourselves and how we perform in different aspects of our lives; education, job, marriage, parenting, sports, social situations, and relationships to just name a few. We deeply feel that our performance rating defines us as a person, our status and our values. No wonder we get depressed or down on ourselves when we do not perform to an "expected level". Unfortunately most of the time it is not our expectation we are measuring ourselves against. So we withdraw from others and speak angrily to ourselves. Pondering statement like "I am not good enough", "you could have done better", or "I am not worth anything, I do everything wrong". Or we consider why we cannot do anything right or are perfect. 

What happens when we judge our performance so critically? Well, we get depressed. We review life events from outside ourselves like a gymnastic judge rating a gymnast over minute details of a routine from behind a judging table. "Why didn't you do this?" or Why didn't you said that" for a given life event. Looking for why we did not perform perfectly. Meanwhile we are not experiencing our lives.

I will share piece knowledge I learned along the way about self-judgment. "If you are in state of judgment then you're not in a state of self". Meaning, a human has to symbolically stepped outside of themselves to be able to view their performance. One has to view self in order to make a comment of any form; critical, negative or positive". That accounts for the feeling of not being self when in a state of depression.

Enough, no matter what I do or not, someone is always judging me. How do I correct this? A saying that I have adopted is in my life is as follows: "life is self defeating enough without your help." I have worked hard on this saying to enhance my ability to experience the here and now I have worked so hard to achieve. So next time you have depressed feelings as the result of a life event, look at what you are judging your performance against and at what or who's standards. Recognize those feelings, identify what you have learned from the experience and then make an action plan to improve your situation and life. Get back in the game.

 Dr. Bill