June 2012 IssueVol 4, Issue 1


I Did Not Know 

What To Say  


Dear (Contact First Name),

WELCOME EVERYONE! We are grateful that you have chosen to be a part of our online community.


I hope everyone is having a fun and safe summer.  We just got our power back on this evening after one of our Virginia summer storms yesterday. You don't realize how dependent you are on electricity until you don't have it for 24 hours.


For those in Colorado...Our hearts go out to all the families that have been affected by the Colorado fires. The last few years have been a tremendous time for so many facing numerous challenges and life changes due to natural disasters. We have you all in our hearts and in our prayers.


Featured Article - The grieving process can be unpredictable and can cause most of us to say and do things that are out of character.  Please Cut the Grieving Some Slack by Maribeth Coye Decker, reminds us that we are all human and that we need to let kindness and forgiveness guide us when we encounter strange behavior from those that are grieving. 


Do you have an inspirational story you would like to share? We invite you to submit your inspirational stories, letters that have reached your heart, a favorite quote or poem, an unforgettable outing, or a book that touched your life. We would love to hear from you.


Each month our newsletter will feature a new article giving you a different perspective on how to assist your friends and family through the grieving process. Please feel free to pass our newsletter on to anyone that may benefit from our articles and inspirational messages.


With Love and Gratitude,



For those in the USA...Happy 4th of July!




"Enjoy the little things in life, for one day you'll look back and realize they were big things." 
Kurt Vonnegut
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featurePlease Cut the Grieving Some Slack

by Maribeth Coye Decker


One of the disconcerting things I remember about grieving after my husband died at the age of 45 was that odd things came out of my mouth. I also recall some of the odd things my family said as well - they were grieving as deeply as I was. In addition, there were the unexpected emotions that surfaced and seemed to explode like a volcano. It was a time in my life when I was not always able to present that public persona of a rational and civil human being.


I am a recovered alcoholic. Looking back, those occasions of blurted, strange outbursts almost seem akin to my bad drunk memories - embarrassing behavior, wondering how Imaribeth   could have said or done that. What was I thinking?


I'd like to ask everyone to be really forgiving of each other when someone is grieving. It's as if the useful gatekeeper that monitors our words and feelings to ensure their appropriateness and thoughtfulness goes on vacation at odd moments when we are coping with grief.


If you encounter strange words or behaviors from those who are grieving, remember how much you like or love the person or the person who died. Cut them some slack and respond with as much kindness and forgiveness as you can muster. And believe that when you are grieving, you will be met with kindness and forgiveness as a gift earned from your kindness to someone else.



About Maribeth Coye Decker, CMT, MS, MGA

Sacred Grove Bodywork 


 My soul purpose is to reconnect people to their joy by helping them bring lasting change into their bodies, their minds and their world. 


Maribeth Coye Decker is an energy healer whose credentials include certified Quantum-Touch practitioner, Reiki Master and certified massage therapist in Virginia. She has been trained to assist people's bodies heal by moving the life force energy (also called ki, chi or prana) through her hands into a client's body.


Thoughtful Sympathy Gift Ideas

Sympathy Gifts 


remembrance candle Sympathy Remembrance Candles

Visit our Thoughtful Sympathy Gifts page for a wide variety of sympathy gift ideas for your loved ones. We hope the thoughtful gifts listed on our website inspire you to give warmth and joy to your friends and family in their time of need.


Virtual Book Tour & Interviews

We invite you to explore our Virtual Book Tour and Interviews with tips on how to assist a grieving loved one.

If you are an author or an expert in the grief recovery field and would like to be interviewed, please contact us at info@ididnotknowwhattosay.com.

To order these books and preview other inspirational books, be sure to visit our Helpful Books page.


About I Did Not Know What To Say.com & Lori Pederson
LoriLori Pederson created I Did Not Know What To Say in April 2009 as a platform to inspire and provide resources to people that wanted to help their friends and family through the grieving process. 
Lori's expertise comes from those experiences that only life can provide.  Over the past twenty years, Lori has lost many family members, including her mother to ovarian cancer, as well as many friends, colleagues and pets.  She is no stranger to loss and the grieving process.
Throughout her life she has been blessed with many friends and relatives that were there for her as she experienced these great losses. She understands that although people want to help, they often don't know where to start.  I Did Not Know What To Say.com was created out of Lori's desire to assist people find the words when they don't know what to say or do.
You can learn more about Lori and her organization by visiting www.ididnotknowwhattosay.com, reading her personal Blog or contacting her at:
Lori Pederson

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