April 2012 IssueVol 4, Issue 9


I Did Not Know 

What To Say  



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As we look to celebrate Mother's Day in a few weeks, we are reminded that Mother's Day can be a difficult time for those that have lost a child, have had a miscarriage or have lost their mother or grandmother. For those grieving a loss our hearts go out to you. May the love of your friends and family surround you and fill your heart during this difficult time.


Featured Article -Mother's Day Remembrance - Tips on how to support a loved one who is grieving the loss of their mom on Mother's Day, offers several suggestions on how to reach out and support a loved one this Mother's Day.


Loss of a Parent- Visit our website for additional resources on how to support a loved one that is grieving the loss of a parent. If you have a resource or story to share, please email us at info@ididnotknowwhattosay.com. 


Virtual Book Tour - Be sure to check out our Virtual Book Tour, featuring interviews with authors that have written inspirational books on grief and the healing process.


Do you have an inspirational story you would like to share? We invite you to submit your inspirational stories, letters that have reached your heart, a favorite quote or poem, an unforgettable outing, or a book that touched your life. We would love to hear from you. 


Each month our newsletter will feature a new article giving you a different perspective on how to assist your friends and family through the grieving process. Please feel free to pass our newsletter on to anyone that may benefit from our articles and inspirational messages.


With Love and Gratitude,





A mom's hug lasts long after she lets go.
~Author Unknown

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Tips on how to support a loved one who is grieving the loss of their mom on Mother's Day


Mother's Day for many is a day of family celebrations. But for those of us whose mothers have passed away, Mother's Day can be a day filled with sadness and longing to have one more day to spend with our mothers. 


If you have a friend or relative whose mother has passed away, here are a few suggestions on how to reach out to them on Mother's Day. 


  1. Acknowledge the loss. Take a few minutes to let your friend know that you are thinking about them and remembering their loss by sending them a card or giving them a call on Mother's Day.  
  2. Listen, Listen, Listen. One of the most important things you can do is to make yourself available and truly listen.
  3. Don't minimize the loss if they are older. Losing one's mother is a significant loss, no matter what age the person is when it occurs. Don't trivialize the loss if the person is older.
  4. Send a gift of remembrance. Consider sending a personalized gift that honors the memory of your friend's mother.  Some suggestions include: a personalized picture frame, a memory book with photos of their mother, a tree memorial they can plant in their garden, or a special piece of jewelry that reminds them of their mother. Click here for more gift ideas.
  5. Take them to their mom's favorite place for brunch or to a special spot. Is there a place that they traditionally took their mom on Mother's Day?
  6. Send flowers. Consider sending them a bouquet of their mother's favorite flowers and include a card with a message "Thinking of you and remembering your mom today."
  7. Write a tribute. If you knew their mom, write a tribute and send it with a card or if they have a memorial site, post it on the site on Mother's Day.
  8. Help them plan a Mother's Day Memorial. Help create a day of celebration that friends and family can share stories and pictures that celebrate the life of the mother that has passed away.
  9. Take them on an adventure. Holidays can be heavy, filled with a wide array of emotions. If your friend is up for an adventure, think of activities that will bring your friend joy. Go for a spa day, play a round of golf, take them to an amusement park, or go away for the weekend to a place they always wanted to go. Make it fun and stress free.
  10. Respect their decision on how they would like to spend Mother's Day. Understand that there will be times that your grieving friend may want to be alone or may want to completely ignore the day. There were many years that I would go to the beach by myself on Mother's Day to be alone with my thoughts.  

Holidays, like Mother's Day, birthdays, and the anniversary of the person's death can be difficult, particularly the first year. A simple act of kindness that is delivered with an open heart during these special occasions lets your loved one know they are not alone. 


Do you have a special tradition or celebration that honors your mom's memory on Mother's Day? We would love to be able to share your story with our readers. Please email your story to us at info@ididnotknowwhattosay.com.




2012 Lori Pederson  


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Thoughtful Sympathy Gift Ideas

Sympathy Gifts 

mother's day globe 

Mother's Day Remembrance Gifts
Loss of a child, Miscarriage/Stillborn, Loss of a Mother & Loss of a Grandmother


Visit our Thoughtful Sympathy Gifts page for a wide variety of sympathy gift ideas for your loved ones. We hope the thoughtful gifts listed on our website inspire you to give warmth and joy to your friends and family in their time of need.


"A Mother's Love is Forever"
Musical Waterglobe


Virtual Book Tour & Interviews

We invite you to explore our Virtual Book Tour and Interviews with tips on how to assist a grieving loved one.

If you are an author or an expert in the grief recovery field and would like to be interviewed, please contact us at info@ididnotknowwhattosay.com.

To order these books and preview other inspirational books, be sure to visit our Helpful Books page.


About I Did Not Know What To Say.com & Lori Pederson
LoriLori Pederson created I Did Not Know What To Say in April 2009 as a platform to inspire and provide resources to people that wanted to help their friends and family through the grieving process. 
Lori's expertise comes from those experiences that only life can provide.  Over the past twenty years, Lori has lost many family members, including her mother to ovarian cancer, as well as many friends, colleagues and pets.  She is no stranger to loss and the grieving process.
Throughout her life she has been blessed with many friends and relatives that were there for her as she experienced these great losses. She understands that although people want to help, they often don't know where to start.  I Did Not Know What To Say.com was created out of Lori's desire to assist people find the words when they don't know what to say or do.
You can learn more about Lori and her organization by visiting www.ididnotknowwhattosay.com, reading her personal Blog or contacting her at:
Lori Pederson

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