January 2012 IssueVol 3, Issue 7


I Did Not Know 

What To Say  




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Featured Article... More Than Words Can Say by Lori Pederson. When someone is grieving, the emotional pain can be so deep that it can be difficult for them to see the love and support that surrounds them. Today I share with you a personal note of gratitude that I sent a friend of mine many years ago. As my Thank You note demonstrates, all the big and small things you do for someone matters, even if they are unable to express their gratitude in the moment.


Be sure to visit our Twitter and Facebook sites during the month of February for special posts on how to assist a grieving loved one during Valentine's Day.


Virtual Book Tour...Be sure to check-out our Virtual Book Tour featuring interviews with authors that have written inspirational books on grief and the healing process.


Do you have an inspirational story you would like to share? We invite you to submit your inspirational stories, letters that have reached your heart, a favorite quote or poem, an unforgettable outing, or a book that touched your life. We would love to hear from you.


With Love and Gratitude,




"Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around."

Leo Buscaglia

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Last year, The Note Project started a global movement to encourage millions to write Thank You notes to express their appreciation to those that have positively impacted their lives. When I learned of the Note Project, I began to go through my old letters and found a copy of a note I sent to a friend of mine after my mom passed away. It reminded me of how important friends and family are throughout the grieving process.


I decided to share my letter not only to express my gratitude but to also show what an impact you can have on the life of a friend that has lost a loved one.


"I wanted to send you a note to let you know how much I appreciate you and your friendship. Words seem too limited to express the love that our friendship demonstrates.


I can never thank you enough for being there when I truly needed you. From making phone calls, to bringing food, to the most important part - being there when I needed a friend to listen.


Thank you for taking the time to stand by me when I felt like I was going crazy. Thank you for checking up on me and seeing me through the hard days. You can't imagine how blessed I feel to know that I have such a wonderful friend.


Thank you again for the hundreds of things you have done and said to make my life a bit easier over the last few months. I can't imagine life without you!"


Love Lori


When someone is grieving, the emotional pain can be so deep that it can be difficult for them to see the love and support that surrounds them. At times your loved one may feel numb and it may look on the surface like what you are doing does not really matter. As my Thank You note demonstrates, all the big and small things you do for someone matter more than words can say.


I have been deeply blessed with loving family members and caring friends that were there for me throughout the grieving process. Their thoughtfulness inspired me to create the website www.IDidNotKnowWhatToSay.com, where we share resources and inspirational ways to support a grieving loved one. We invite you to share your story.


The greatest healing therapy is friendship and love. 
H. Humphrey


2012 Lori Pederson

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Visit our Thoughtful Sympathy Gifts page for a wide variety of sympathy gift ideas for your loved ones.  We hope the thoughtful gifts listed on our website inspire you to give warmth and joy to your friends and family in their time of need. 

VirtualVirtual Book Tour & Interviews

We invite you to explore our Virtual Book Tour and Interviews with tips on how to assist a grieving loved one.

If you are an author or an expert in the grief recovery field and would like to be interviewed, please contact us at info@ididnotknowwhattosay.com.

To order these books and preview other inspirational books, be sure to visit our Helpful Books page.


About I Did Not Know What To Say.com & Lori Pederson
LoriLori Pederson created I Did Not Know What To Say in April 2009 as a platform to inspire and provide resources to people that wanted to help their friends and family through the grieving process. 
Lori's expertise comes from those experiences that only life can provide.  Over the past twenty years, Lori has lost many family members, including her mother to ovarian cancer, as well as many friends, colleagues and pets.  She is no stranger to loss and the grieving process.
Throughout her life she has been blessed with many friends and relatives that were there for her as she experienced these great losses. She understands that although people want to help, they often don't know where to start.  I Did Not Know What To Say.com was created out of Lori's desire to assist people find the words when they don't know what to say or do.
You can learn more about Lori and her organization by visiting www.ididnotknowwhattosay.com, reading her personal Blog or contacting her at:
Lori Pederson

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IDidNotKnowWhatToSay.com is a website created to inspire and provide you with tools to assist a love one through the grieving process.

With Love & Gratitude,


Founder, I Did Not Know What To Say

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