March 2010 Issue Vol 1, Issue 9


I Did Not Know 

What To Say  



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This month we are pleased to feature our interview with Mary-Suzanne Peters on the benefits of Reference Point Therapy and how it can be used in the grief recovery process.  Mary-Suzanne has been a dear friend of mine for many years and her wisdom in this area is priceless.  Mary-Suzanne is a multi-faceted woman that has many talents.  She is an accomplished business woman as well as a professional photographer.  Be sure to check-out her inspirational Angel in the clouds photo below.


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Keep knocking and the joy inside will eventually open a window and look to see who's there. 

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What is the basic concept around Reference Point Therapy (RPT)?

Reference Point Therapy (RPT) is a new healing modality from Australia that uses the principles of Quantum Physics to release and clear trauma and negative emotional vibrations from their point of origin (which is usually before birth).  These vibrations create the beliefs and feelings that paint with negative paintbrushes on the reality of our lives. 

Can Reference Point Therapy be used to heal depression or grief?

I've used RPT to heal grief and depression both in myself and in others. Feelings of sadness and loss are a natural and healthy part of the process of letting go of someone who has passed from this physical reality.  It is when they are compounded by already existing patterns of loss and sorrow that there can be cause for concern.  If there's been a lot of grief or depression in a family for generations, then it is likely that members of the family will have inherited this in their cellular biology


How does Reference Point Therapy work?

RPT works from the point of origin to allow these emotional vibrations to release.  It is a gentle and easy process of allowing that usually smaller first vibration to let go.  Also, at the point of that first vibration associations are made between the negative vibration and survival, safety or love and with these associations in our subconscious anything that is a minor threat is also triggered.   It is this source vibration and the associations that like the cartoon snowball starts to grow through the generations and becomes an avalanche of emotional tones such as grief and depression.  With this in play, it makes dealing with the losses throughout our current life seem insurmountable. 

If a friend is suffering from grief or depression, how would you suggest talking to them about using Reference Point Therapy?


This is a tough question because it depends so much on the situation and the friend to whom you are speaking.  First and foremost, be sensitive to the situation.  Many have tried so many things for grief and depression that they just don't believe anything can work.  The good news about RPT is that you don't need to believe in it.  However, you do need to be willing to be a part of the process. Often a difference can be felt in one session, so probably the best way is to ask "what have you got to lose" in checking it out. 

What has attracted you to using Reference Point Therapy in your own life?

RPT is the most powerful and fastest energy change modality I've found.  I've been on a quest for most of my life to find ways to heal deep feelings of not being good enough, being unloved, second best and feelings of loss.  This journey has led me though many healing modalities, so I feel that I have the experience to judge.  When I found RPT, I was already developing something along the same lines myself.  RPT was much more elegant and simple than what I'd been using, so I adopted it. 

About Mary-Suzanne Peters

Mary-Suzanne Peters is a well-known Southern California spiritual teacher and healermsp with over 30 years experience in personal growth training, workshop development, facilitation and personal counseling and coaching.  She has taught over 100 classes in various aspects of healing and writes a popular blog,, which deals with issues of healing and spirituality.

Suzanne grew up in the Appalachian Mountains of Virginia and realized early on that she felt more anxiety and negatively inside her than others. This was the driving force that led her on her healing journey toward the self-love that she now feels.  Her journey led her through NLP, est, LifeSpring, Insight Training Seminars, Conyers Consciousness Clearing and eventually to become a Theta Healing teacher. Like Simon Rose, founder of RPT, she, too, was puzzled as to why certain people healed and certain ones didn't and had been experimenting on her own with new ways to achieve faster, fuller and easier methods of emotional and physical healing.  Upon finding Reference Point Therapy, her response was "Yes!  Yes!  Yes!."

She is also a professional photographer, artist and marketing/creativity consultant.  Spring boarding from a position as an Executive Vice President of a management consulting firm, she founded several companies and has been an executive coach, workshop facilitator and leadership development consultant to Fortune 500 companies including Taco Bell, Nike, Kentucky Fried Chicken, American Express and Resorts International.  Believing that action and learning go together, Ms. Peters facilitated workshops centered around golf and scuba diving.  She incorporates synergistic interaction, fun, laughter, joy, and movement in her classes as well as her private coaching.  Her current clientele include people from around the world. 

Suzanne sees clients face to face in the Los Angeles area and via telephone and Skype.  She also conducts group RPT synergy healing classes via teleconferences.

"My greatest joy is seeing the sparkling diamond that is our true beingness emerge as the limiting vibrations and trauma that has clouded our forward progress dissolves." -- Suzanne

To Schedule your RPT session, contact Mary-Suzanne at (818) 590-0062!

This Month's Inspiration
Life Wishes
 - Someone Watching Over You
Photography & Inspiration by Mary-Suzanne Peters 
The Universe speaks to us, answers us, if we ask; it is our job to listen.  One day I took an action that I knew would change the course of my life -  an action that involved standing up in more of my own individuality.  As I drove down the freeway, I silently asked the universe to let me know that I had stepped in the correct direction.  Exiting the freeway, I looked up into what for miles had been a cloudless sky and saw this cloud.  I took this as a "Yes".   I feel very blessed to have had this cloud appear to me and I feel that it carries an  energy of protection and guidance.
Discussion Topics
We invite you to join our on-going discussions on our Facebook page.  Not on Facebook?  We have also posted our discussion topics on our Blog.  Current topics include:
What is your favorite inspirational quote?

What is your favorite inspirational gift?

What NOT to say to someone that has lost a loved one.

What is your favorite inspirational prayer for someone that has lost a loved one?

Express your Gratitude for someone that was instrumental in assisting you through the grieving process.

Do you feel it is acceptable to send sympathy messages on Facebook, Twitter or by email?

What helped you most in your time of need?

Thoughtful Sympathy Gift Ideas
Visit our Thoughtful Gifts page for sympathy gifts ideas for your loved ones. 
We hope the thoughtful gifts listed on our website inspire you to give warmth and joy to your friends and family in their time of need.
Visit our website for special discounts from out Thoughtful Gift vendors.
Events & Interviews
Viritual Interviews 
Posted on November 8, 2009
- Author, Jean Reagan - Always My Brother
Posted on December 1, 2009 - Author, Marcy Kelly - From Sorrow to Dancing
If you are an author or an expert in the grief recovery field and would like to be interviewed, please contact us at

To order these books and preview other inspirational books, be sure to visit our Helpful Books page.
About I Did Not Know What To & Lori Pederson
LoriLori Pederson created I Did Not Know What To Say in April 2009 as a platform to inspire and provide resources to people that wanted to help their friends and family through the grieving process. 
Lori's expertise comes from those experiences that only life can provide.  Over the past twenty years, Lori has lost many family members, including her mother to ovarian cancer, as well as many friends, colleagues and pets.  She is no stranger to loss and the grieving process.
Throughout her life she has been blessed with many friends and relatives that were there for her as she experienced these great losses. She understands that although people want to help, they often don't know where to start.  I Did Not Know What To was created out of Lori's desire to assist people find the words when they don't know what to say or do.
You can learn more about Lori and her organization by visiting, reading her personal Blog or contacting her at:
Lori Pederson
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