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10 Ways to Say No - Without the Guilt
8 Tips to Empower a Loved One During Chemotherapy
 

The SECRET to HOW SHE DOES IT

 

 

You've heard about the movie "I Don't Know How She Does It"? You may have wondered the same about someone who "juggles" so many responsibilities it's exhausting to think about, all while seeming to achieve work/life "balance."  The truth is, it's not really juggling or balancing. It's choices. We make choices based on what's important to us. And our actions shout what that is.

 

Saying Yes to something means saying No to something else (the truth behind "you can't have your cake and eat it, too.") We have many choices about how to spend our time - a very limited resource. And in order to say Yes to what's important, you must be able to say No to what's not.

 

If you feel your life is "out of balance," you may be having difficulty saying No to what's not important to you.  The article on the right offers help.

 

Remember, saying No to something doesn't have to mean it won't get done at all. It just means you're not willing to shortchange what's important to you by doing it yourself.

 

And this is why California Concierge exists.

  

Our clients have made choices about what they want to do - and what they don't want to do. They count on California Concierge to handle things they choose to say No to...things they don't want to spend precious time doing. That way, they have freedom to enjoy what's important - to them.

 

   

 
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Serving You Since 1999OCTOBER 2011

Greetings!   
The movie I Don't Know How She Does It has started a discussion about "How Do YOU Do It?"  Our side-bar and lead articles offer ideas for this timely topic.
 
Also, October is National Breast Cancer Awareness Month.  If you know someone going through chemotherapy, be sure to see our tips below for ways you can help her.

10 Ways to Say No - Without the Guilt

You're asked to do something you don't really want to do or have time for, but you feel guilty saying No.  Sound Familiar?

 

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But saying No is not being uncooperative.  It's recognizing your limits - you don't want to do a sloppy job by overwhelming yourself.  It's also being selective in what you choose to do because you don't want to take away from the truly important things in your life.

 

So how can you say No nicely and without guilt? David Posen, in his "Little Book of Stress Relief" says, most of the time, you don't even have to use the word No.

 

1. Express your wish to help: 

"I'd like to do that for you, but I'm not taking on new projects at the moment."

 

2. Give an explanation: 

"I have a doctor's appointment" or "I have another commitment." You don't have to get personal.


3. Offer an alternative:

"I won't be able to do it, but I can show you how to do it."


4. Find someone else who can do the task:
"I think Sally would be better for the job, and I know she loves to do (those kinds of tasks)."man says no

 

5. Admit your limitations: 

"I don't have experience in that, so I can't help you" or "I'm not comfortable with that."

 

6. Offer to do it later: 

"I can't help you now, but I can do it next week."

 

7. Offer to do a part: 

"I'd be happy to do this part for you."

 

8. Ask for the priority: 

"I'm in the middle of several projects, which one would you like me to set aside to do this?"

 

9. Give yourself time to think about it: 

"Can I get back to you? I'll have to check my schedule" or "I've had a few things come up and need to deal with those first"

 

10. The simplest way to say No is to smile and say: "No, but thanks for asking" without launching into the why. People aren't really interested in your busyness - they're too busy themselves.

 

So evaluate and come to terms with your limits: what you're able to do, what you're willing to do, and what you want to do.  After that, give yourself permission to say No without guilt and have more time to enjoy the things you really want to do.  

8 Tips to Empower a Loved One During Chemotherapy 

 AftePink Cancer Ribbonr a woman is diagnosed with cancer and her doctor prescribes chemotherapy treatment, how can you help her?  Here are 8 ways:

 

1. A woman's typical nature is to make sure everyone else is taken care of. Give her permission to take care of herself now with things that make her feel good.

 

2. Encourage her to wear lipstick and blush every day - a small thing, but she'll feel the difference every time she looks in the mirror.

 

3. It's the little things that show you care.  Music, comedy, surprises, something cozy or yummy, hugs & kisses, communicating your love, a great movie, group get-togethers, inspirational books/CD's are just a few ideas.  

 

4. Find out what services your local American Cancer Society provides. They may offer a number of support programs including free transportation for her.

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5. A woman going through the unexpected shock of total hair loss because of chemotherapy still wants to feel pretty. Great wigs, bangs on a headband, hats & scarves can help her do just that. Help her find the right wig consultant. Ask for referrals from friends & nurses. Call first - you're listening for warmth & knowledge.

 

6. Help her check reimbursement benefits for a "cranial prosthesis." Insurance benefits won't cover a "wig," but, if they cover a cranial prosthesis, her oncologist will write a prescription for one.

 

7. Purchase a gift certificate for her first wig and go with her to help her choose. Or invite other uplifting friends to join her, too. This lightens the experience & supports her.

 

8. Medical challenges are sometimes "dis"-ease in the body. Remind your loved one that she is good enough to experience all the joys she can imagine in her life.

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If you dream of feeling more "in balance," call or email us to find out all the ways we can make that happen...customized to give you more time for the truly important things in your life.
 
Do what you love, and let California Concierge take care of the rest. 

 

Sincerely,

Susan Hamersky
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