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Summer 2011
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Welcome to the Summer edition of the Continuing Connections newsletter. 

Happy Summer Everyone! Whether it's camp, vacations, sea shores or just hanging around, we hope you're celebrating summer in whatever way your family sees fit!

 

This edition includes a message from Dale & Raquel, and a preview of our recent Adoption Choices Blog posts. If you haven't done so already, we invite you to browse the blog and read their entries. If you have a reaction to something you've read--feel free to comment! 

 

Contact Lucia (lcarballo@jfsmw.org) if you are interested in sharing a personal story, becoming a blogger, or if you have a question for Dale & Raquel.
 olivia at the fair

Welcome Home!
Michelle and Drew Clemens welcomed home Ilan Jikang Clemens, born 4/1/10 in Korea

Kelly Lawson and Jim Mulligan welcomed home Ciaran John Mulligan, born 4/25/11 in Ohio

Rachel Tunick and Peter Staab welcomed home Jocelyn Aubrey Tunick-Staab, born 4/20/11 in Florida 
 
Kelly and Andrew Viera welcomed home Claire Ashlynn Viera born 5/23/11 in Wisconsin

 Congratulations to all the families!
jocelyn tunick-staab and sister
claire viera

Stories from our AC Bloggers 

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Love and Regret by MyDaughtersMom

 A few weeks ago we had a wonderful visit from my youngest daughter's birthmom, her husband, and their 3-month-old daughter. My daughter's birthmom's youngest daughter, is also my youngest daughter's half-birth sister, however we just call her, Baby Sister, to make life simpler.  We were all under one roof for three days, and our house was full of the love and happiness of two moms, two dads, two big sisters and one baby sister. For the kids, our visits are full of visits to the park, dinners out and in, school visits, bedtime stories, and being tucked in by everyone my kids love at night. For the mama, mommy, dada, and daddy, our visits are time to reconnect, to continue getting to know each other, and of course to snuggle beautiful, sweet, lil baby sister.

 

The foundation of my relationship with my youngest daughter's bithmom is built from hefty stones of regret, pain, loss, hopelessness, and grief. We both carry these stones, putting them down, and having a seat on them once in a while to talk about how heavy they are, how much they make our back break, and how they can make our soul wince with pain. However dense these stones are, they seem weightless as pumice when we see our daughter happy, or jumping for joy as she introduces her birthmom to her teachers and classmates at school, or when she cuddles her newborn sister and gives her kisses.

 

We put down our stones in strange places; in the baby section of Target, or driving on our way to pick up our daughter from school, or in the Deli line at the supermarket. However, we put them down, and we talk. Which I think is one of the most important parts of our Open Adoption....

 

Our First Family Adventure by Lushters 

My husband and I have been contacted by 2 families within the past couple of months who are preparing to make their journeys to Korea.  Just like we did in May of '09, these families will board a plane with their own suitcases, plus one extra duffle with the items they hope will make a good impression on their new little family member.  I am envious of the thrill and adventure they have ahead of them!  I always tell people that adoption is the biggest, most thrilling, most mind-blowing leap of faith you can take.  As fulfilling as my life is, I don't think I will ever experience anything so exciting as the anticipation leading up to and meeting our son for the first time.
 

My husband and I recanted our stories and coached the families on what to bring and do.  I thought about my huge red duffle that I packed with 60 pounds of "what ifs" and "just in cases".  "What if he has allergies to the soap we use? I'll pack unscented detergent and soaps."  "What if he doesn't like cotton and prefers fleece?  I'd better bring 2 blankets!" "Just in case he gets a rash, flu, or fever, I have my emergency medical kit!".  What I didn't know was that #1, his wonderful foster family would send us home with everything we could have possibly needed, including a big stuffed bumblebee, formula, diapers, pollock soup, burp cloths and several outfits.  #2, much to our relief as first time parents, Maximus didn't really need anything else.  At 8 months, he just wanted to be clean, fed, and entertained....

 

To read the full posts, visit the Adoption Choices Blog at www.adoptionchoices.wordpress.com. Entries dated 6/8/11 and 5/5/11. 

 

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From Dale and Raquel 
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We're all still enjoying the many pleasures of summer but autumn is not far off! The subject of adoption may seem like an odd fit alongside math and reading-but it's important nonetheless.

 

Misconceptions, unanswered questions and natural curiosity sometimes get the best of us, adults and children alike. Start the school year off on a good foot for you and your child by offering to give a talk about adoption to your child's class. Adoptive Families Magazine has resources to assist you in this endeavor and has created a well thought out downloadable flier to distribute to the class as a take-home for parents after the talk.

 

Their handout is an easy-to-read and informative break down covering the basics of adoption and how to continue a discussion of adoption with children using accurate and age-appropriate information, such as adoption myths vs. realities and possible responses children may hear from their peers when they ask questions about adoption. The handout also contains positive adoption language-"was adopted instead of is adopted, adoption plan instead of giving up for adoption" and recommended reading divided into age groups.

 

As summer winds down and you begin to gear up for another school year, consider reaching out to your child's teacher and giving an adoption talk to the class. After all, learning and growing happens in many different ways-it's not all reading and math. Helping a child who was not adopted better understand adoption is just as important a learning experience as 2+2.

 

Wishing you all a happy fourth of July and a wonderful rest of summer,

Dale and Raquel

Upcoming Events
**In lieu of our September picnic we are planning an event in November to celebrate National Adoption Month and Dale's 25 years with Adoption Choices!  We also plan to launch an exciting new initiative at this event and we hope that you will all join us.  More information to follow. **

 

Free Fun Fridays presented by Highland Street.  Free visits to museums and other cultural attractions in Massachusetts (e.g. Museum of Science, Franklin Park Zoo, Old Sturbridge Village, Basketball Hall of Fame, and lots more). Visit www.highlandstreet.org for more information.

 

Adoption Journeys Presents: A Day at George's Island in Boston Harbor

When: Wednesday August 10th

9:30AM--Group meets at Long Wharf in Boston (Aquarium T stop) to catch ferry.

Ferry leaves promptly at 10:00AM!

3:00PM--Group meets at the Ferry dock on George's Island.

Ferry Leaves promptly at 3:30PM!

Families should be back to the city by 4:00PM.

Cost: Free, lunch will not be provided but families are welcome to bring a picnic lunch and there are concession stands on the island.

RSVP: Adoption Journeys 617-776-8030

JFS Agency News: Cooking Matters at Wilson School
 

cooking matters Late this spring, JFS partnered with the Metrowest Foundation for Community Health and Share Our Strength's Cooking Matters to bring a new program to the Woodrow Wilson School in Framingham.

 

The Cooking Matters course is provided free of charge to families at risk of hunger who want to learn how to prepare healthy and affordable meals.  Each six-week course is taught by volunteer culinary and nutrition experts and is coordinated by a Cooking Matters Massachusetts staff member.  The weekly lessons combine collaborative food preparation-using nutritious, readily available, low-cost, culturally appropriate ingredients-with essential nutrition, food budgeting, and physical activity information that is shared through discussion and activities.

 

This spring the kids had fun cooking culinary delights and increasingly their awareness about what goes into the things they cook, both at home and in the classroom. Their parents received the tools to make smart shopping choices and buy healthy on a limited budget. It was a great opportunity and experience for the families that took part.


 We are currently looking for volunteers for our after-school programs at Wilson which run during the school year. The mentors who take part in our All-Stars and Wizards programs work with third graders on homework skills and increasing math and reading retention (All-Stars) while female only mentors work with a group of fifth grade girls as part of the Wizards program to strengthen math and science skills. If you or anyone you know may be interested, please e-mail Diana O'Brien dorbrien@jfsmw.org.

About Adoption Choices
Bailey GoldfarbSince 1982, Adoption Choices, a non-profit, licensed adoption program, has been providing Massachusetts families with comprehensive adoption services. Our program is designed to meet the needs of the adoptive parents, birth parents, and adopted persons by providing a wide range of educational and counseling services.  Adoption Choices provides home study services, support and educational programs for waiting families, and traditional agency and parent-identified adoptions with a wide range of openness. We welcome couples and single individuals of all ages, religions, ethnic backgrounds and lifestyles.

For more information, please visit our website at:Adoption Choices
 
 

Please send us comments and suggestions; we want this to be your newsletter. Let us know about books, movies, etc. you think others would enjoy. Keep us informed of adoption/family related events in your area and we'd be happy to share them. Forward this email to friends, family and colleagues by using the "forward me" link at the bottom of the page.
 
We would like to thank the following people who contributed to this issue: Dale Eldridge, Raquel Woodard, our bloggers, and all the wonderful families who shared their photographs with us.


Sincerely,

Lucia Carballo

 

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