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Newsletter   March 2010
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Decisions: Sharing the News
College Visits Beyond the Official Tour
March To-Do Lists
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College Decisions: Be Proud of Yourself, but Be Gracious Too!
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Tim logs into the account that he created when he applied to Elite College at 5 pm on March 31, just as he was instructed to do. He has been waiting for this moment for a long time, and he fervently hopes he will be admitted. The decision is there--and the first word he reads is Congratulations. Tim is in. He logs into Facebook and posts on his wall: I did it. I am going to Elite College next year!

Across town Reid has also logged into his account for the same college. However, the news isn't promising. Reid, along with hundreds of other students, is on the waitlist. He and Tim are friends, and they have very similar grades and SAT scores, and are both actively involved in activities and leadership roles in their high schools and larger communities. Reid sees Tim's message and quickly logs out of Facebook.

When students receive good news about the colleges of their choice, they have every right to be proud and excited, and it is only natural that they want to share that information with their friends. Likewise, when students are disappointed, they need to move on, embrace the choices they have, and be happy for their classmates--even if they perceive that their friends have fared better than they have in the college decision process.

Is this easier said than done? Here are some questions to think about:
  • How might my friend, who is just as worthy a candidate for this college as I am, be feeling about not being accepted?
  • What can I say to my friend who received disappointing news?
  • How do I hide my own disappointment and express my congratulations to my friends?
As you ponder these questions, here are some actions you might consider:

Delay posting on Facebook -- Think about waiting one day before posting so you can see how your classmates are faring at school the next day.  In your rush to post, you might appear insensitive or like a bragger.

Don't begrudge others' success -- It's a red flag that you have the wrong attitude if you find yourself saying things such as "she only got in because she is a legacy," or "His SATs weren't that good, but his dad has connections." Not only is it unkind to gossip in this way, but students also do not really know their classmates' academic profiles and what they have accomplished, nor do they truly understand what a college might be seeking.

Put yourself in their shoes -- One student we know found out early that she was admitted to an elite college because she received a likely letter as an athletic recruit. She elected to keep this exciting news within her family until after her classmates received their early decision (ED) notifications. "A lot of people from my school are applying there and are nervous," said the high school senior. "I don't want to add to their stress."

Even if the admissions' outcome wasn't what you had hoped for or expected, the good news is that every student is likely to have many wonderful options for life after high school. After an often stressful and arduous college admissions process, it can feel good for students to leave the competition behind and support one another as they head toward graduation.
Off the Beaten Path: College Visits Beyond the Official Tour

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Even though spring break can give you some well-deserved time-off from the rigors of junior and senior year, these periods are also the time you might be thinking about visiting college campuses. For juniors, it is the perfect time to start looking at schools; for seniors, it gives them one more opportunity to visit the schools to which they have been admitted as they try to decide where to matriculate.
 
The college tour is the traditional way to let students see a lot of campus sights in a short amount of time, but there is much more to visiting colleges than just the official tour. Besides watching a cheery student ambassador walk backwards while spouting off facts about the college, you also gain a great deal of insight into a college (and whether it is right for you) by doing a little of your own research and legwork. While this takes a little more effort than simply signing up online for a group tour, the benefits of tailoring a visit to your interests and needs are considerable. Here are some tips to help you go beyond the tour and get the most out of your campus visit.
 
Go to Class
Attending a college class is one of the best ways to find out if the college is a good fit for you. Contact the admissions office to see if any classes allow prospective students to sit in and observe. Not only will you get a taste of what a typical college class is like at that particular college, but you will also get a better sense of the school's faculty and students.
 
"Visiting classes can give you good insight on the students by showing you their level of engagement with the subject matter," says Karen Miller, a college sophomore. "Class visits are especially helpful for getting a handle on the teachers--do they facilitate discussion well? Are they interesting lecturers?
 
In this same vein, observe what happens at the end of class. Are the students able to interact with the professor to ask questions or get help?  If you have the choice of visiting several classes, opt to visit one that is in your area of interest. Besides being a topic that you are already interested in, this allows you to see what majoring in this particular subject might be like.
 
Spend the Night
Many colleges, including Williams and Vassar, allow prospective students to spend the night in the dorms. Besides getting to see dorm life up close, spending some time with your host (usually a freshman or sophomore at the college) will give you a better feel for the college and its student body. Whether you are looking for classmates who love the nightlife or ones who want to spend time in the library, chances are you will get a chance to see what happens on the campus after dark.
 
Pursue Your Interests
If you are passionate about a particular subject or extracurricular activity (and you plan to continue it in college), your campus visit is the perfect time to find out more about the college's offerings. Don't hesitate to request meetings with professors in departments that interest you. Talking to a professor or department head can give you a better perspective on the program's offerings and accessibility, especially if you are interested in taking courses in a particular subject but you might not want to major in it.
 
Besides academic offerings, you can also ask admissions if you can tour specific facilities, such as the school's art studio, theatre or athletic facilities, or if you can speak with the program's participants, instructors and coaches.
 
Call in a Few Favors
If you are visiting a college where you have a friend or relative (or even a friend of a friend), try to get in touch with this person to see if he or she can show you around. This is an authentic and low-key way to get to sit in on a class, learn about the campus hot spots, and get a candid opinion about the college in question. Unlike the typical tour guide, this person does not have a vested interested in selling the school and its talking points, so getting his or her view can be very valuable.
March To-Do Lists

Juniors
  • Compile a list of colleges with the help of your counselor. Research and take notes on each college. You can learn more by reviewing books such as the Fiske Guide to Colleges and college web sites and blogs. 
  • Keep your grades up and, if necessary, meet with teachers to develop a plan for improvement such as regular extra help sessions or engaging a tutor. Evaluate your study habits and environment to identify obstacles such as use of Facebook or cell phone during homework time.

Seniors
  • Write thank you notes to the teachers and counselor who wrote recommendations on your behalf.
  • Keep your counselor informed as decisions come in so you can respond appropriately to deferrals, wait lists or other unexpected outcomes.
  • Avoid senioritis and keep your grades up. Most colleges will request a final transcript, and while it very rare for a college to rescind an admission offer due to poor senior grades, it can happen.
Juniors: It's Time to Start Planning for College

Educational Advocates offers a range of services to support you through the college admission and  application process. Call us at 617-734-3700 for more details.
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Joan Kelleher Casey, President
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Newsletter editorial staff:
Joan Casey
Terri Suico