THE
FOUR EMOTIONS THAT CAN LEAD TO LIFE CHANGE by Jim Rohn
Emotions
are the most powerful forces inside us. Under the power of emotions,
human
beings can perform the most heroic (as well as barbaric) acts. To a
great
degree, civilization itself can be defined as the intelligent
channeling
of human emotion. Emotions are fuel and the mind is the
pilot,
which together propel the ship of civilized progress.
Which
emotions cause people to act? There are four basic ones; each, or a
combination
of several, can trigger the most incredible activity. The day that you
allow these emotions to fuel your desire is the day you'll turn your
life
around.
1)
DISGUST
One
does not usually equate the word "disgust" with positive action. And
yet
properly channeled, disgust can change a person's life. The person who
feels disgusted has reached a point of no return. He or she is ready to
throw down the gauntlet at life and say, "I've had it!" That's what I
said
after many humiliating experiences at age 25, I said. "I don't want to
live like this anymore. I've had it with being broke. I've had it with
being embarrassed, and I've had it with lying."
Yes,
productive feelings of disgust come when a person says, "Enough is
enough."
The
"guy" has finally had it with mediocrity. He's had it with those awful
sick feelings of fear, pain and humiliation. He then decides he is not
going to live like this anymore." Look out! This could be the day that
turns a life around. Call it what you will, the "I've had it"
day,
the "never again" day, the "enough's enough" day. Whatever you call it,
it's powerful! There is nothing so life-changing as gut-wrenching
disgust!
2)
DECISION
Most
of us need to be pushed to the wall to make decisions. And once we
reach
this point, we have to deal with the conflicting emotions that come
with
making them. We have reached a fork in the road. Now this fork can be a
two-prong, three-prong, or even a four-prong fork. No wonder that
decision-making
can create knots in stomachs, keep us awake in the middle of the night,
or make us break out in a cold sweat.
Making
life-changing decisions can be likened to internal civil war.
Conflicting
armies of emotions, each with its own arsenal of reasons, battle each
other
for supremacy of our minds. And our resulting decisions, whether bold
or
timid, well thought out or impulsive, can either set the course of
action
or blind it. I don't have much advice to give you about
decision-making
except this:
Whatever
you do, don't camp at the fork in the road. Decide. It's far better to
make a wrong decision than to not make one at all. Each of us must
confront
our emotional turmoil and sort out our feelings.
3)
DESIRE
How
does one gain desire? I don't think I can answer this directly because
there are many ways. But I do know two things about desire:
a.
It comes from the inside not the outside.
b.
It can be triggered by outside forces.
Almost
anything can trigger desire. It's a matter of timing as much as
preparation.
It might be a song that tugs at the heart. It might be a memorable
sermon.
It might be a movie, a conversation with a friend, a confrontation with
the enemy, or a bitter experience. Even a book or an article such as
this
one can trigger the inner mechanism that will make some people say, "I
want it now!"
Therefore,
while searching for your "hot button" of pure, raw desire, welcome into
your life each positive experience. Don't erect a wall to protect you
from
experiencing life. The same wall that keeps out your disappointment
also
keeps out the sunlight of enriching experiences. So let life
touch
you. The next touch could be the one that turns your life around.
4)
RESOLVE
Resolve
says, "I will." These two words are among the most potent in the
English
language. I WILL. Benjamin Disraeli, the great British statesman, once
said, "Nothing can resist a human will that will stake even its
existence
on the extent of its purpose." In other words, when someone resolves to
"do or die," nothing can stop him.
The
mountain climber says, "I will climb the mountain. They've told me it's
too high, it's too far, it's too steep, it's too rocky, it's too
difficult.
But it's my mountain. I will climb it. You'll soon see me waving from
the
top or you'll never see me, because unless I reach the peak, I'm not
coming
back." Who can argue with such resolve?
When
confronted with such iron-will determination, I can see Time, Fate and
Circumstance calling a hasty conference and deciding, "We might as well
let him have his dream. He's said he's going to get there or die
trying."
The
best definition for "resolve" I've ever heard came from a schoolgirl in
Foster City, California. As is my custom, I was lecturing about success
to a group of bright kids at a junior high school. I asked, "Who can
tell
me what "resolve" means?" Several hands went up, and I did get some
pretty
good definitions. But the last was the best. A shy girl
from
the back of the room got up and said with quiet intensity, "I think
resolve
means promising yourself you will never give up." That's it! That's the
best definition I've ever heard: PROMISE YOURSELF YOU'LL NEVER GIVE UP.
Think
about it! How long should a baby try to learn how to walk? How long
would
you give the average baby before you say, "That's it, you've had your
chance"?
You say that's crazy? Of course it is. Any mother would say, "My baby
is
going to keep trying until he learns how to walk!" No wonder everyone
walks.
There
is a vital lesson in this. Ask yourself, "How long am I going to work
to
make my dreams come true?" I suggest you answer, "As long as it
takes."
That's what these four emotions are all about.
To
Your Success,
Jim
Rohn |