April 2011 Newsletter SuccessfulCollegeParenting.com
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When you are more successful in your parenting your student is more successful in life! TM

 

 Greetings!  

 

Kay Kimball GruderI am just back from co-presenting a session, Keeping Parents in the Picture, at the American College Personnel Association's National Conference in Baltimore.  The organization has around 8,500 members including graduate and undergraduate students enrolled in student affairs/higher education administration programs, faculty, and student affairs professionals, from entry level to senior student affairs officers.  Cory Booker, the Mayor of Newark, NJ was the main presenter on the opening evening and he said something that I think is worth conveying to our sons and daughters.

 

He spoke about how we spend hours in front of our screens watching scenes from various disasters and human injustices, cringing and shaking our head in disbelief as each occurrence surfaces and pushes the other one out of the way. He said, "Democracy is not a spectator sport. It is a full contact participatory endeavor."  In that moment I wondered what else we might do in our parenting, to engage our student in the very real communities that exist outside of our doors.   

All the best in your parenting,
-Kay

Kay Kimball Gruder
Founder,
Successful College Parenting
M.Ed. & Parent Coaching Institute™ Certified Parent Coach®
College Parenting Expert, College Parenting Magazine   

The Best Choice:  Isn't There Really

More Than One

 

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Read The Best Choice

Have you ever decided on something as your best or first choice only to have it fall through? 

 

During the college years your student is in the position of regularly making significant choices.  Interestingly, most of the research reveals that the majority of students actively seek advice from their parents.  So what does this mean for you? 

 

Read more to learn how students often consider their choices, and to think about what role you might play.

In This Issue
The Best Choice: Isn't There Really More Than One?
When You Suspect Your Student Needs Help
What Employers Expect
April Parent Education Webinars
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NEWS! - On demand webinars will be available throughout the summer.  You will be able to register for a recording and watch it when you want.
 

- What's My Role:  Effectively Parenting Your Student the Summer Before College

 

- Know Where You Are Going: Parenting Through College Visits

 

Cost per registrant: $35.00 (your spouse or parenting partner joins you for free).

  
Contact Kay to learn more about 60-minute customized webinar topics for groups of college or high school parents. Group rates available.
 
Kay's News

Consider reading my April 2010 article - A Sense About Cents or my April 2009 article - Decisions, Decisions, Decisions

 

Half-day pre-conference proposal selected for 34th Conference of the Association on Higher Education And Disability, Seattle, WA

 

 

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Communication Central  - When You Suspect Your Student Needs Help

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There is perhaps nothing more difficult than when you suspect your student needs help, but you can't really assist him or her in the way he or she needs.  Ultimately, your student must desire assistance in order to be able to respond to your guidance.  Sometimes questions or prompts, instead of pure advice, can induce your student to seek help.  Consider asking or proposing some combination of the following: 

 

  • Who else do you notice experiencing similar things that you are?
  • What would a best friend advise you to do?
  • What would you advise a best friend to do as a next step in a similar situation?
  • Who in your environment might provide assistance to students who are experiencing what you are experiencing?
  • Let's look on-line at a few different campus offices and see how they help students and who best you might contact.
  • Ask your student to describe how he or she wants things to turn out.
  • Remind your student about the skills that he or she used to get through other challenging situations.
If your student is experiencing a significant crisis that could lead to harm of one's self or others, then contact Public Safety at his or her college or university.  The Counseling and Student Life offices are also valued resources in critical situations. 
Did you know...What Employers Expect

 

Success

Hart Research Associates interviewed 302 employers who reported that 25% or more of their new hires held either an associates degree from a two-year college or a bachelor's degree from a four-year college. The employers "see a positive benefit in educational innovations that foster active learning and research skills."

 

The percentages below indicate how many identified that a particular educational practice would "help a lot/fair amount to prepare college students for success."

 

84% Expect students to complete a significant project before graduation that demonstrates their depth of knowledge in their major AND their acquisition of analytical, problem-solving, and communication skills

 

81% Expect students to complete an internship or community-based field project to connect classroom learning with real-world experiences

 

81% Ensure that students develop the skills to research questions in their field and develop evidence-based analyses

 

73% Expect students to work through ethical issues and debates to form their own judgments about the issues at stake

 

65% Expect students to acquire hands-on or direct experience with the methods

of science so they will understand how scientific judgments are reached

 

60% Expect students to learn about cultural and ethnic diversity in the context of

the United States

 

58% Expect students to learn about the point of view of societies other than those

of Western Europe or North America

 

50% Expect students to take courses that explore big challenges facing society, such as environmental sustainability, public health, or human rights

 

 

The survey among employers was conducted for The Association Of American Colleges And Universities 

 

 

Enjoy this month's newsletter and please email me with topics you'd like to learn more about. SuccessfulCollegeParenting.com is your resource for enhancing your child's college experience and reducing your stress. Visit the website to read this month's article and to access the archive of articles.

Sincerely,
Kay Kimball Gruder, M.Ed., Parent Coaching Institute™ Certified Parent Coach®

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