March 2011 Newsletter SuccessfulCollegeParenting.com
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Successful College Parenting Strategies

 

When you are more successful in your parenting your student is more successful in life! TM

 

Greetings!  

 

Kay Kimball GruderThe weather saying most frequently associated with the month of March is, "In like a lion out like a lamb."  The proverb is full of hope that although the March weather comes in raging like a lion, by the end of the month balance will be restored and it will go out calmly like a lamb. The saying reflects the ability of the human spirit to endure adversity, especially when it is believed that relief is on the way, and that things will change to a more pleasant state.

 

When I hear this saying I draw a parallel to parenting. 

In our toughest moments of parenting we may feel like we are engaged with the lion but, while that period of time can sometimes seem like eternity, the lamb will eventually emerge. 

 

Just as in nature, nothing stays the same way for very long with our college student. 

  

All the best in your parenting,

Kay Kimball Gruder
Founder,
Successful College Parenting
M.Ed. & Parent Coaching Institute™ Certified Parent Coach®
College Parenting Expert, College Parenting Magazine   

Subduing the Worrywart

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In the course of my work I interact with lots of parents and it is interesting how often I hear families use the phrase "You worry too much."  Sometimes it is a son or daughter saying it to his or her parent, or one parent saying it to another.  The person receiving the input usually responds in one of two ways, "I know." or "No I don't."

 

When we worry we transport our parenting into what I call the "what if" zone.  Our frame of thinking then influences what comes next -- our words and interactions with our student.  Worry is one of the most counterproductive mental activities in which one can engage when parenting a college student.  

 

Read more on ways to gain insight into the sources for worry and strategies to refocus your mental energy.

March Parent Education Webinars
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Enjoy a webinar in the comfort of your own home. View Kay's Parenting Webinars for March:

- What's My Role:  Effectively Parenting Your Student the Summer Before College

 

- Know Where You Are Going: Parenting Through College Visits

 

Cost per registrant: $35.00 (your spouse or parenting partner joins you for free).

  
Contact Kay to learn more about 60-minute customized webinar topics for groups of college or high school parents. Group rates available.
In This Issue
Subduing The Worrywart
Trust Your Instincts
Spring Break or Bust
 
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Communication Central  - Trust Your Instincts

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We place a lot of value on what people think, when it is often instincts or gut feelings that alert one to trouble.  It is that connection to the pit in one's stomach, a racing heart, or that little voice that can cause one to consider if something is right or wrong, safe or unsafe, or appropriate or inappropriate.  

 

Even though our college student's brain development now provides him or her with greater thinking and reasoning skills, our college student is more vulnerable than ever to making poor choices.  If we primarily engage our student from the point of what he or she thinks, we are missing an opportunity to consistently enhance our student's visceral sense about things. If you don't already do so, consider periodically asking your student,

 

"What is your gut telling you?"

Did you know...History of Spring Break

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In 1928 the city of Ft. Lauderdale, Florida built an Olympic size pool and in the 1930's competitive swim teams, particularly from the Northeast, would come down to practice.  The area was popularized by a movie called "Where the Boys Are" that came out in 1960 and focused on the "fun in the sun" atmosphere.  When the minimum drinking age was increased to 21 years of age, many college students then sought to travel outside the U.S. where the drinking age is lower.

 

Enjoy this month's newsletter and please email me with topics you'd like to learn more about. SuccessfulCollegeParenting.com is your resource for enhancing your child's college experience and reducing your stress. Visit the website to read this month's article and to access the archive of articles.

Sincerely,
Kay Kimball Gruder, M.Ed., Parent Coaching Institute™ Certified Parent Coach®

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