The past month I attended several holiday gatherings. Amidst the delicious food, festive music and welcoming hosts, I noticed a high level of stress. Many of us are now at the stage in our lives when we are caring for elderly parents. However, I also see significant stress with friends and clients who have young children.
One young mother said that she and her family had planned many fun activities for the holidays. She looked forward to the week off with great anticipation. She admitted that she had high expectations and somehow the week didn't pan out the way she had hoped. She was exhausted by the time I talked with her.
Another acquaintance told me that she too was exhausted from caring for her elderly mother. I asked what she did for herself during the holidays and she looked at me surprised. She realized that she had neglected herself. She had eaten too much and had not exercised as usual.
The holidays help us to see how we deal with tension and stress. We often spend time with our families, have high expectations, and eat lots of rich foods. We may have over-ambitious to-do lists, may spend more money than our budgets allow, may not take time to be alone, and may not get much exercise. All of these factors increase stress.
If you take a rubber band and play with it, you'll notice when you stretch it hard, it gets thin, tight, and might even break. When you relax the tension, it gets floppy and just sits there. Or, you can find the right balance of stretch so that it makes a pleasing sound when a friend twangs it with his finger.
Just like the rubber band, when we are pulled tight, we may be stretched too far (get sick, feel irritable, experience tension in the body). When there is not enough tension, we may be like a rag doll (apathetic, lazy, and unmotivated). With the right amount of tension, we are capable of "making music."
So how do we deal with the stresses of daily life so that next year during the holidays, we experience greater joy and peace?
One way is to set an intention for practicing stress reduction strategies. If we can learn strategies to deal with everyday stress, then we are more able to handle difficult situations.
Here are some strategies to include in your stress relief toolkit. Why not choose a couple and make an intention to practice them this week. Then let me know how they worked for you.
If you would like a partner to help you develop and follow-through with your stress reduction intentions, please give me a call.
Stress Reduction Strategies
- Start a mindfulness practice - try sitting still 5 minutes three times/week to get started
- Stand up and stretch your body twice during the day
- Take short breaks from work every 90 minutes
- Sing when driving in the car
- Turn off the talk shows and either listen to calming or lively music or be in silence
- Observe the transition times in your day - pause and take 5 deep breaths at these times
- Write or draw in a journal
- Think from another perspective
- Splash your face with cool water
- Try beginner's mind. Consider what it would be like if this were the first time you experienced this activity or thought.
- Laugh - watch a funny video on YouTube or keep a book of jokes or cartoons on hand
Happy New Year!
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