News from Maggie Phillips, Ph.D.
November 2011

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In This Issue
* Teleseminar Schedule
* Special Conferences
* News You Can Use

Calendar of Training Events    

 

November 16 2011 Teleseminar with  Diane Poole Heller and Maggie
DARE to Create Healthy Adult Relationships  

 

December 8-12 2011 Workshop with Maggie in Phoenix, Arizona at the International Congress on Ericksonian Hypnosis & Psychotherapy 

  

December 16 2011 & January 13 2012 Teleseminar series with Laurel Parnell and Maggie
Using EMDR to Heal Childhood Trauma and Neglect

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Maggie Phillips, Ph.D.
2768 Darnby Dr.
Oakland, CA 94611
USA
510-655-3843

Greetings! 

 

November brings the season of Thanksgiving. I've always thought that this is good timing so that we acknowledge our blessings before we move into the stresses of the December holiday season! This month (November 16 is the live event) we feature a teleseminar with Diane Poole Heller on DARE to Create Healthy Adult Relationships. The bonus handouts for this program are spectacular, so scroll down to the next section and sign up right now! Our "News You Can Use" article is on Loneliness and Belonging (scroll down to find it or click on that section in the sidebar).

 

I hope your Thanksgiving experience is rich and inspiring.

 

Thank you for your support and participation in my online community,

Maggie Phillips
Teleseminar Schedule

 

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Diane Poole Heller joins me on Wednesday, November 16 from 9 am - 10:30 am Pacific Time (live event time) for DARE to Create Healthy Adult Relationships. Not only will we create rich content for the teleseminar itself, but you can also extend your learning with the following bonus handouts:

  • An e-booklet by Diane titled Navigating the Labyrinth of Love:  How Attachment Styles Sneak into Adult Relationships;
  • A handout from Diane on Creating Healthy Adult Relationships: Principles and Strategies;
  • Know Your Adult Attachment Style Mini Questionnaire, which you can use to help clients evaluate their attachment styles (and you can use it to evaluate your own attachment styles, too!)
  • A handout from Diane on The Top 10 Skills to Lessen Holiday Relationship Hassles and Deepen Meaningful Connection, a great handout for the holiday season; 
  • A 31-page edited transcript of our spring teleseminar on The Science of Relationships with Bonnie Badenoch, author of Becoming A Brain-Wise Therapist;
  • Two articles by Bonnie Badenoch: The Feeling of Attachment and Reconsidering the Nature of Trauma;
  • An article Expanding the Core Self, excerpted from Maggie's e-book (written with Claire Frederick) on Empowering the Self through Ego-State Therapy (2010).  

This is a fantastic learning package on attachment. To make sure you receive these high quality bonus handouts and articles, please go here now to register at  http://www.maggiephillipsphd.com/courses_teleseminars_dph.html. Remember that your registration also includes online audio replay and permanent download (in mp3 format) of the recorded teleseminar, available immediately after the live presentation, a study guide, and the opportunity to purchase CEU's for professionals and the Highlights edited transcript for a small additional fee. Don't Miss This Special Training Event!

 

 

Our last teleseminar of the year begins on Friday, December 16, from 8:00 - 9:30 am Pacific Time (part 1), and ends on Friday, January 13, from 9:00 - 10:30 am Pacific Time (part 2). We welcome Laurel Parnell on Using EMDR to Heal Childhood Trauma and Neglect  (for more about Laurel, go to www.emdrinfo.com).

Laurel  and I will present a two-session e-workshop to provide you with the opportunity for follow-up after you've been applying the strategies we share during the seminar. We know the holidays are a busy and stressful time, but with our permanent audio download feature, you can give yourself a gift to enjoy when you truly feel ready to receive it. We promise specific strategies for how to let go of old family wounds that often reappear during this time of year. Go to
http://www.maggiephillipsphd.com/courses_teleseminars_lp2.html to sign up now. 

Special Conferences


Interest is still strong for the special online conference Brief Solutions for Trauma, and it's not too late to sign up! My presentation is on "Healing Trauma Through the Body." The other outstanding presenters include: 

Bill O'Hanlon: "Healing Trauma without Drama"
Yvonne Dolan: "Solutions Focus for Trauma: State of the Art"
Ben Furman: "Enriching Your Client's Experience and Putting Trauma in its Place"
Gordon Young: "Dealing with the Dreaded Flashback"
Rob McNeilly: "Individualizing the Healing of Trauma:

In addition to six hour-long audio presentations, you will also receive bonus materials from each presenter to enhance your learning (mine include power point slides and an e-book on post-traumatic pain). Your purchase has 100% money back guarantee so you have nothing to lose. The price is amazingly low. Please click here

to learn more. US participants can receive 5 CEU's for a small extra fee.

 

 

website imageFinally, I hope to see some of you in Phoenix December 8-12  for the Eleventh International Ericksonian Congress on Hypnosis and Psychotherapy. For more information, visit  http://ericksoncongress.com.

 

News You Can Use
 

BELONGING AND LONELINESS

Our theme this month is attachment and how to create healthy, secure, and resilient adult relationships. The world these days can be a scary, alienating place to be. I draw my inspiration from many places but one constant staple in my resource library is the work of Brother David Steindl Rast. He has written several articles on Belonging, which is such an important issue this time of year. To read more, go to  http://www.gratefulness.org/t/belonging.htm.
 

Brother David cites a Basque proverb, which reminds us that "Mountains don't need mountains, but humans need humans." Whenever we forget our deep kinship with others, we struggle with loneliness. Especially during the stressful demands of the holiday season when we are surrounded by reminders of "perfect families and gifts to fit," it is easy to feel disconnected and to have the sense that we are broken and that we do not belong.

  

 

 

According to Brother David, loneliness is a "poignant homing instinct, like that of migratory birds." (And speaking of migratory birds, click here   to view a wonderful video sequence of starlings migrating in community). Again and again, we are guided to realize that we are not meant to live cut off from others, from ourselves, or from the Universal Source that infuses us with life.

 

When we feel rejected, or have suffered the deep loss of a loved one, we may feel that our heart is broken and that the sense of belonging we experienced has broken too. Brother David shows us that during these times when we struggle with the belief that our supplies of love are limited, we fear that they have been fully depleted. Yet if we can let go of this fear, we encounter the expansive truth that we have always belonged to something infinitely greater than our small selves. Our joys as well as our sorrows eventually teach us that we are loved at all times and in all circumstances.

 

As part of his presentation on belonging, Brother David also shares a story by Naomi Shihab Nye titled "Gate 4-A." This is a wonderful story about a woman who finds out that her flight has been delayed by four hours (a common enough occurrence these days!). A gate announcement asked anyone in the vicinity of her gate, 4-A, who understood or spoke Arabic, to come to the gate. She turned around to find an older woman in traditional Palestinian dress, crumpled to the floor, sobbing and wailing. The author knelt down and spoke some halting words in Arabic, discovering that the woman thought the flight had been cancelled altogether so that she could not reach the medical treatment arranged for her, which was the purpose of her travels.

 

They called the woman's son, who was to meet her at the airport, and explained the situation. As the woman became calmer, they decided to call her other sons just for fun and then the author's father, who spoke Arabic with her long enough to learn that they had ten friends in common. The author next decided to call some Palestinian poets of her acquaintance, and they cheered the woman further. By then, the older woman was happy and smiling and began handing out handmade powdered sugar cookies to everyone around her. All the bystanders accepted and enjoyed the cookies, each face covered with the same powdered sugar. The author then spied a potted plant sticking out of her bag and knew that the woman was carrying out an old country traveling tradition: "Always carry a plant. Always stay rooted to somewhere."

 

Such moments of belonging can happen anywhere and everywhere, and often at times when we least expect them. 

 

In order to share this theme of belonging further, and so that you can experience belonging to this online community, please post your own story on our blog. The winner of the best story about discovering bonds of belonging will win a pass to a free teleseminar of your choice. Come on, it's easy! Submit your stories directly to me at [email protected].

 

I hope you'll discover your own unique examples of belonging this month and "pay them forward" to others whom you meet.

 

My best Thanksgiving wishes,

Maggie

 

P.S. Please watch for the December newsletter and our announcements of a special holiday sale as well as coming attractions in 2012!

 
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