1. What percentage of US teens say it would be easier to postpone sexual activity if they were able to talk more openly about sex with their parents?
2. According to a recent Youth Risk Behavior Survey in Massachusetts, what percentage of students reported that they had sex before the age of 14?
3. Teens spend more time in school than in front of the television screen.
4. Breast development is common among boys during puberty.
5. What are the passageways that carry an egg cell from an ovary to the uterus?
6. What is the number of sperm in an average ejaculation of semen?
The Talk: What Your Kids Need to Hear from You About Sex, by Sharon Maxwell, Ph.D. Penguin Group, 2008. A practicing clinical psychologist and sex education expert, Dr. Maxwell powerfully explains the need for better communication between parents and children regarding sex and sexuality. Maxwell helps parents define their own values about sex and shows parents how to make the connection between values and behavior. She addresses the social power that comes from looking sexy and helps teens accept personal responsibility to use that power appropriately. In addition, Maxwell tackles the potential dangers of the Internet and helps set family guidelines for safe use.
When faced with an adolescent's first invite to a dance or party, it can be a joyous yet challenging experience to watch our teens grow up! We want to protect them, inform them and help them make healthy and safe decisions related to relationships, self-esteem, sex and sexuality. Sometimes we need to take a pause, take a deep breath, and find those right moments to keep the conversations going.
My Daughter at 14: Christmas Dance
Panic in your face, you write questions
to ask him. When he arrives,
you are serene, your fear
unbetrayed. How unlike me you are.
After the dance,
I see your happiness; he holds
your hand. Though you barely speak,
your body pulses messages I can read
all too well. He kisses you goodnight,
his body moving toward yours, and yours
responding. I am frightened, guard my
tongue for fear my mother will pop out
of my mouth. "He is not shy." You giggle,
a little girl again, but you tell me he
kissed you on the dance floor. "Once?"
I ask. "No, a lot."
We ride through the rain-shining 1 A.M.
streets. I bite back words which long
to be said, knowing I must not shatter your
moment, fragile as a spun-glass bird,
you, the moment, poised on the edge of
flight, and I, on the ground, afraid.
"My Daughter at 14: Christmas Dance" by Maria Mazziotti Gillan, from Winter Light. © Chantry Press, 1985. Reprinted with permission.
Don't forget to visit our website at http://www.plannedparenthood.org/ma/for-parents.htm. Our website is updated regularly with helpful tips for talking, information about workshops, and much more. Don't miss an opportunity to be the primary sexuality educator for your children. Need help? Call our Parent Education Team at (617) 616-1658.
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