Jody L Friesen Grande
PhD LICSW BCD
GemSoupe™ is a life enhancement program focused on motivational thoughts and action plans. To help you build lifeskills and mastery in attending to the challenges and opportunities of daily living--a connection of mind, body, and spiirit.
Gem is defined as something highly valued--YOU--unique, precious, and treasured.
Soupe represents the characteristics and traitis that are brought together in developing your
unique "being."
Enjoy your journey and remember to stop along the way to embrace the days' gifts of love, happiness. harmony, surprise, laughter, and peace!
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Upcoming Events
November 4
··· Election Day ···
Let Your Voice
Be Heard
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Nov 21 - Nov 30
Thanksgiving
Office Closed
Dec 19 - Jan 4
Holiday Season
and New Year's
Office Closed
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DBT Groups
starting in
January 2009
Call today to schedule your intake appointment -- space is limited!
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Mental Health Professionals
Radical Acceptance: Balancing Unworthiness and Narcissism
January 2009
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FOR MORE INFORMATION
www.hopeallianz.com
or call
952.545.6966
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HopeAllianz's
Mission Statement
To inspire and empower individuals to create an authentic quality of life through the design, development, and implementation of a personalized lifeskills program™ within a holistic and mindful environment promoting mental, physical, and spiritual health.
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References
Are You Resisting or
Accepting Change
by Kathleen Gage
Coping.org: Tools for
Coping with
Life Stressors
Thirty Thousand Days
A Journal for
Purposeful Living
The ToDo Institute
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What is Change?
Change is a verb suggesting action to make or become something different. Change is:
- A break in the normal routine or expectation.
- A threat to our safety and security--what we know to be true.
- The unknown, the ambiguous, the uncertainty.
- The challenging of beliefs, attitudes, and values.
Feelings often associated with change include: fear, caution, concern, intimidation, discouragement, anger, unsettled, depression, threatened, unbalanced, confusion, avoidance, anxiety, insecurity, anticipation, uncomfortable, inhibited, dread, disappointment, challenged and excitement.
M Scott Peck author of the Road Less Traveled says, "The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers."
When change occurs there are two things that we can do -- resist or change. When we resist we tend to move into a desperate state of mind. The energy of desperation usually comes from the unwillingness to trust that all things are as they should be ... or it is our unwillingness to let go of control and "flow" with the mystery of life. Resistance makes us less resourceful, unable to make healthy decisions, lose sight of what is truly important, blame others, and as a result, we become immobilized and stuck.
Life is a mystery--don't waste your time trying to figure it out. Life is going to happen. You can either choose to resist what is happening or you can accept it and make decisions about what to do about it. Acceptance does not mean approval or disapproval. Acceptance means seeing and acknowledging your situation, whatever it may be, without judging the events or criticizing yourself or others. The goal of acceptance is to actively connect to your personal experiences--directly, fully, and without defense--while behaving effectively and making the best possible choices of what to do. As Anais Nin says, "and the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom."
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When we are no longer able to change a situation --
we are challenged to change ourselved.
_Viktor E Frankl_
Austrian Neurologist, Psychiatrist, and Holocaust Survivor
Founder of Logotherapy a form of Existential Analysis
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Action Steps for Change
(1) Determine what change is most likely to occur. In determining what the change is, answer the following questions:- When will this change take place?
- How will the change affect my life (e.g., personal, family, work, relationships)?
- What material things in my life will be affected by this change?
- What are the benefits to me of fully accepting this change?
- What are the consequences if I do not fully accept this change?
- What information do I need in order to accept this change?
- What personal beliefs, opinions, attitudes, or behavior will need to be adapted in order for my acceptance of this change?
(2) Once you have answered the questions, describe the change with which you are dealing with.
(3) Now that you know what the change is, create a visual image of yourself six months from now having fully accepted the change. In this visualizatio--picture yourself as successfully coping with the change. Include the following variables in your visual image:
- You as a person, how are you feeling, how are you acting
- Your spouse/partner and family
- Other people
- Material objects
(4) Visualize the change as accepting and positive--in a relaxed state for up to 30 minutes. Repeat this visual imagery at least once a day until you begin to believe and act in a way that reflects your full acceptance of the change in your life and your adaptation to it.
(5) If you are still unable to accept or adapt to the change, perhaps you never realized exactly what the change would be (e.g., personal values vs external concerns). Perhaps you are immobilized due to your resistance. Be patient with the process ... find common ground ... or a portion of the change which is acceptable for now. When in doubt the Serenity Prayer is most helpful.
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God grant me the
Serenity to accept the things I cannot change
Courage to change the things I can and
Wisdom to know the difference.
God grant me the
Serenity to accept the people I cannot change
Courage to change the ones I can and
Wisdom to know it is me.
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Affirmations for Daily Focus
- I am learning to live fully in the moment--with (not in spite of) my past, with my memories, with my fears, and with my sadness.
- I am learning to let go and knowing that I am safe.
- I am learning to breathe--life is forever changing and I am ok with that as I embrace my growth along my journey,
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Upcoming Events at HopeAllianz
- DBT: Distress Tolerance and Clutter Clearing:
Acceptance of the Here-and-Now
Monday--January 5 from 4 PM to 6 PM for 10 weeks
- DBT: Mindfulness in Everyday Living:
Awareness of Self and Surroundings
Tuesday--January 6 from 6 PM to 8 PM for 10 weeks
- DBT: DBT & ACT for Professional Men
Wednesday--January 7 from 4 PM to 5:30 PM for 10 weeks
- DBT: Interpersonal Effectiveness: Winning at Relationships
Thursday--January 8 from 10 AM to 12 Noon for 10 weeks
If you are interested in participating in a DBT LifeSkills Groups, please call today to arrange for an intake (952) 545-6966.The cost for the DBT Programs are $128.20 per session; the Men's DBT program is $96 per session. Fees may be paid privately or may be covered by insurance, Medical Assistance, Medicare. Payment plans are also available. We accept VISA and MasterCard.
- Wellness Workshops
Are being scheduled for March, June, and September. Watch for further details
Reservations requested, please call (952) 545-6966. The Wellness Workshops are held at French Regional Park in Plymouth (Rockford Road/County Road 9), Minnesota. The Wellness Workshops are provided to the community by HopeAllianz Inc at no charge to you and parking is free. Donations are appreciated to support the Wellness Workshop Series. Thank you!
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Thanksgiving Thoughts
Albert Schweitzer stated, "At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us." This Thanksgiving ... take a moment to to offer a prayer of gratitude for all those that have touched your life.
I wish for you this Thanksgiving ... the flowing of boundless blessings!
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