Jody L Friesen Grande
PhD LICSW BCD
GemSoupe™ is a life enhancement program focused on motivational thoughts and action plans. To help you build lifeskills and mastery in attending to the challenges and opportunities of daily living--a connection of mind, body, and spiirit.
Gem is defined as something highly valued--YOU--unique, precious, and treasured.
Soupe represents the characteristics and traitis that are brought together in developing your
unique "being."
Enjoy your journey and remember to stop along the way to embrace the days gifts of love, happiness. harmony, surprise, laughter, and peace!
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Upcoming Events
June 23
Interpersonal
Effectiveness
June 24
Emotional
Regulation
June 26
Mindfulness in
Everyday Living
June 28
LlifeSkills for
Families Experiencing
Mental Illness
September 27
The Worry Trap:
Anxiety Management
FOR MORE INFORMATION
www.hopeallianz.com
or call
952.545.6966
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References
Intrapersonal Effectiveness
Learning to Love Yourself
by Jody L Friesen Grande
Learn to Handle
Criticism Like the Pros
http://www.hypnosis
downsloads.com
Receiving Criticism
with Confidence
http://www.encyclopedia.
com/doc1G1-10676188.html
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The Golden Nugget of Criticism
Criticism is defined as the expression of disapproval of someone or something based on perceived faults or mistakes. Criticism can come in many different forms:
It is human nature to want to be a "critic" and we are all capable of giving out criticism to others ... it is much more difficult to be on the receiving end of criticism. You do not like to be criticized and when it is given in a harsh, hostile manner it can become a traumatic blow to your being or sense of self. Criticism can be justified or not. Poorly handled and overly emotional response to criticism can rip away at your very being--destroying your self-esteem, confidence and increasing self-doubt.
It has been found that people who handle criticism well are simply employing a range of lifeskills that automatically take the power out of the critical statement. They remain calmer, are able to stay in the moment and "think" without reacting. As a result they find they have two alternatives:
- Realizing that the criticism is valid and deserved, thus deciding to act accordingly in a healthy manner.
- Realizing that the criticism is unjustified, thus choosing to ignore it.
Criticism can be a valuable personal development tool--the golden nugget of criticism. Your attitude needs to be one that if someone says something, it is not always an indicator that it carries any value. It may simply be a reflection of the person making the criticism. No matter whether the critical statement is valid or invalid, allow yourself to learn from the criticism. It can allow you to build your confidence, increase your growth and mastery, and give you insight to yourself, others, or a situation. The actress Helen Hayes says, "I like criticsm. It's the only way to grow."
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One must have the adventurous daring to accept oneself
as a bundle of possibilities and undertake the most
interesting game in the world, making hte most of one's best.
_Harry Emercon Fosdick_
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Turning Criticism from Foe to Friend
What critical statement/gesture did you receive?
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How qualified was the person in giving the criticism? __________
Rate from 1 to 10: 1 (not qualified) to 10 (very qualified)
What was the motive for the criticism? __________
Rate from 1 to 10: 1 (selfishness, jealousy, retaliation) to 10 (love, concern)
What was the manner in which the criticism was given? __________
Rate from 1 to 10: 1 (irritating, hurtful, abusive) to 10 (calming, caring, sincere)
Total (1 to 30): __________
Golden Nugget ... the truths that can be drawn from the criticism can help you to learn and grow. The larger the number the more you have to learn--anything below 15--let it go, usually having to do more about the other person. However, no matter whether the critical statement/gesture is valid or invalid, allow yourself to learn from the criticism. It can allow you to build your confidence, increase your growth and mastery, and give you insight into yourself, others, or a situation.
What are you learning? What is your Golden Nugget in this siutation? _________________________________________________________
Other questions to ask yourself:
- How did you respond to the criticism?
- Why did you respond the way you did?
- How could you have responded that would have been better for you, for your growth, and for your relationship with the person who criticized you?
- Action Plan: Write down the best ways you beliee you could respond to criticism in the future.
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No matter what you say or do to me
I am still a worthwhile person.
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Affirmations for Daily Focus
- I am turning criticism from foe to friend and growing in the process.
- I am taking responsibility for my life and making healthy decisions.
- I am focusing on positive affirmations mindfully today.
- I am giving myself credit for my growth and gains.
- I am operating from my values and experiencing life fulfillment.
- I am setting healthy boundaries with myself and others.
- I am recognizing my cheerleaders and heroes.
- I am embracing my purpose ... whatever it may be.
- I am developing goals based on my values.
- I am bringing it all together ... one step at a time.
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Upcoming Events at HopeAllianz
- DBT: Interpersonal Effectiveness--Winning at Relationships
Monday--June 23 from 4 PM to 6 PM for 10 weeks
- DBT: Emotional Regulation--Identification and Effectiveness
Tuesday--June 24 from 6 PM to 8 PM for 10 weeks
- DBT: Mindfulness in Everyday Living: Awareness of Self and Surroundings
Thursday--June 26 from 10 AM to 12 Noon for 10 weeks
If you are interested in participating in a DBT LifeSkills Groups, please call today to arrange for an intake (952) 545-6966.The cost for the DBT Programs are $128.20 per session. Fees may be paid privately or may be covered by insurance, Medical Assistance, Medicare. Payment plans are also available. We accept VISA and MasterCard.
- Wellness Workshop: LifeSkills for Families Experiencing Mental Illness; Healing Touch; Ambiguous Loss
Saturday--June 28 from 9 AM to 1 PM
- Wellness Workshop: The Worry Trap: Anxiety Management; Nature Connection; CALM amongst the Çhaos
Saturday--September 27 from 9 AM to 1 PM
Reservations requested, please call (952) 545-6966. The Wellness Workshops are held at French Regional Park in Plymouth (Rockford Road/County Road 9), Minnesota. The Wellness Workshops are provided to the community by HopeAllianz Inc at no charge to you and parking is free. Donations are appreciated to support the Wellness Workshop Series. Thank you!
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