February 2010
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Whatever Happened to "Awe?"

by Phil Swihart, Ph.D.

   As we move farther forward into this new year, and new decade, perhaps it iswise to reflect on the secularized "cultural drift" in which, as Christians, we find ourselves drawn. One troubling symptom is the increasing diminishment and dilution of a true sense of "awe" toward the sovereign God of all creation whom we serve.  The very word "awe" itself seems to be old-fashioned, or out-of-fashion, in a PC world. One definition of  "awe" is that of an OVERWHELMING  feeling of profound reverence, admiration, wonder, astonishment, encompassing respect and affection mingled with fear and veneration, inspired by indescribable majesty, authority and power.   

   Two stark expressions of this "drift" come to mind.  In our daily lives we are awash in the amalgamation of the sacred and the profane; no more evident than in the constant, cavalier and obscene violation of God's command that His name not be used in vain and His admonition that if we do so, He will hold us accountable. This is not up for negotiation or compromise. This willful choice to treat the Third Commandment as though it were merely the 79th whining and muttering dictum of the day from a senile old man, seems a denial of reality - a form of spiritual illness, if not mental illness. Each and every time His name is used as a profanity is to show abject contempt for the Lord's majesty, for His power, for His holiness and sacredness.  It is, in fact, the absolute antipathy of a sense of "AWE."  I remember as a boy when my father returned from World War II,  I never recall him using profanity or the Lord's name in vain but his language had otherwise become quite salty from his time with the army in the jungles of New Guinea.  He felt this was not something to just let slide as a bad example to his children so he would give my brother and me a penny for every "cuss word" we caught him saying. My brother, Judd, recalls that "we got pretty good at it" (a penny was worth more then).   However it was not the coins that were important but rather storing away the lesson that as Christians we cannot excuse wrong behavior by appealing to the idea that it is a "habit" we cannot break,  but rather, that we have choices to make for which we are accountable. How dare we, who identify ourselves as Christians, allow ourselves to passively adopt the slang of the unbelieving world around us - "godd---ed" this or that, or "g--" or "oh g-" or "Oh My g--!" or "Oh My lor_" or the phrase of frustration "well, Jesus H. Chr---."  It is the absolute antipathy of a sense of "AWE." On each such occasion, this is, in fact, tantamount to spitting right into the face of the Almighty God, Sovereign Lord of all.

   The second example of this dumbing-down of "awe" within our Christian family is the treatment seemingly increasingly accorded to the sacrament of communion, at least in some of our churches.  Communion in certain fellowships has become a mere ritual that somehow must be included in the order of service every month or so, at least for the sake of form.  This is accompanied by a casualness within a void empty of reverence that verges on the vulgar.  This to a point, at the extreme, that communion begins to resemble more a cocktail party than a consecrated, sacred part of worship. There is no sense of "awe" at all, and certainly no sense of "AWE."

   The question is why any of us would want to brazenly, profoundly disrespect our Savior with the misuse of communion, insult and offend our Father by failing to heed "Hallowed be Thy name," and grieve and quench our Holy Spirit with blatant, or more subtle, unrepentant sin.

  This is meant as a reminder to us all, myself included, to return to and to cultivate a greater sense of "AWE" in this new year.
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Phil Swihart is a Phil Swihart, PhDpsychologist and the Director of Counseling Services and Community Relations at Focus on the Family.  For more information about Focus, visit www.focusonthefamily.com.


NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTIONS SOLUTION


by Angie Witman, LCP, LCMFT


     By now, many of you have broken your New Year's resolutions, whether you were trying to lose weight and get into shape, read your Bible and pray everyday, or get your house decluttered and become organized.  Why do we do this?  Why do we make promises to ourselves and then break those same promises shortly thereafter?  Although the answers to this question are likely as numerous as our various resolutions, I'd like to focus on one main reason and one main solution - autopilot and intentionality.

     I often talk to my clients about their tendency to go on "autopilot" mode.  I define autopilot as when people do what they do because that is what they have always done.  Whenever people are trying to make changes in their lives, whether they are trying to diet and exercise or whether they are trying to speak more lovingly to their spouse and kids, there is a tendency to start out well but end up doing exactly what they do not want to do.  The apostle Paul spoke to this in Romans 7:15 when he said, "I do not understand what I do.  For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do."  Thus Paul struggled with human nature, as we all do.  Can we change our bad habits and our unhealthy ways of interacting?  I believe we can because we are told in Philippians 1:6 "being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus."  We know our sinful nature hinders our positive changes, but God promises to help our positive changes become lasting changes.

     So what obstacles get in our way?  In my own personal journey on the road to change and in counseling many who want to do things differently, it seems most people struggle with giving up familiarity and comfort.  For example, when we are sleeping, we do not usually roll over until we are uncomfortable.   Discomfort is often the motivator for change.  However people like familiarity; even though it may be unhealthy, it is comfortable.  Thus people gravitate to doing what they have always done because it is comfortable, and this is when they find themselves switching over to autopilot mode.  Additionally, stress, fatigue, and not having basic needs met, will tempt people to go on autopilot.  While autopilot mode may be great for pilots, it is often not a healthy mode to be in as individuals.

    We know scripture states we can change for the better, but how do we combat autopilot mode?  One of the answers is intentionality.  Being intentional is being mindful about what we are thinking, doing, saying, choosing, etc.  In 2 Corinthians 10:4-5, Paul said, "The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world.  On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds.  We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ."  I believe God wants us to be very mindful of what we are allowing ourselves to think, because our thoughts will largely influence our feelings, choices, and behaviors.  To make positive changes, we have to often remind ourselves to think differently so we can act differently.  If we wake up ready to be thoughtful and intentional throughout our day, and if we are mindful of being intentional even when stressed, hungry, and tired, then eventually, we will make the lasting changes for which we are striving.  Prayer is a weapon to which Paul is referring.  Asking God to enable us to stay intentional, focused, and strong throughout the process of change will be powerful.  Try asking God to make you a little more or a little less (of whatever you are wanting) today than you were yesterday.  In time, your intentional positive changes will not only have accomplished your New Year's resolutions, but they will also be your new and improved autopilot mode.
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Angie Witman is a licensed clinical psychotherapist and a licensed clinical marriage and family therapist.   She has been a counselor for 18 years and has worked for 11 years at Meier Angie WitmanClinics in Goodland and Colby, Kansas.  Angie continues to receive much fulfillment in helping people achieve happiness and wholeness.  She has been married for 17 years to Travis, a high school social studies teacher and junior high football and basketball coach.  They have a 14 year old son and an 8 year old daughter.  They are all active in school, community, and church activities.





A New Year's Resolution You Can Actually Keep:

Make Each and Every Day an Opportunity for Growth

 

  The New Year brings with it a tradition of looking towards new possibilities. This time is a chance for renewal - for with a new year is an opportunity to embrace change and use the season of new beginnings as a way to ignite our good intentions by developing resolutions to guide us on our journey to new places. Unfortunately, many promises we make to ourselves are broken fairly shortly after they are set. The intention may be good, but actually reaching goals on this basis can be very difficult to achieve. For example, individuals may not really want to give up or change an element of their lifestyle deep-down (i.e., may not have "hit bottom" with it), but may make the commitment to do so because they think it is the "right" thing to do. Still others may want to make the change, but may not plan for it in the most effective way. 

   By remembering a New Year's Resolution is simply a goal we decide to declare at the start of a new year, and taking appropriate steps, these resolutions can be realized. The following elements are key to reaching your goals:

·         Make specific, non-broad goals

·         Commitment with a plan of action

·         Set clear and achievable steps within this plan of action

·         Allow other people to help

·         Believe in a power greater than yourself

 

   It is healthy to want to change our lives for the better on January 1st, but we must not forget it is also healthy to want to improve our lives on February 1st, May 12th, December 30th, or any other day, and we must describe our goals in specific terms. It helps to seek the guidance of someone who has successfully achieved what we are trying to achieve. Real and lasting change comes from the experience of awareness, acceptance and then action. Every moment holds the possibility for positive change, not just the beginning of the year. In fact, Timberline Knolls would like to suggest the first New Year's resolution on your list - to make each and every day an opportunity for growth. Look unto this day, for it is life.


Timberline Knolls
 

Meier Clinics provides Christian counseling services at Timberline Knolls for those residents and their families who request it.  For more information on Timberline Knolls, located in Lemont, IL, visit them at www.timberlineknolls.com.







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