We've all heard the term unconditional love and yet many of us wonder, what does that really mean?  Can I really love unconditionally? 

Don't most us of put conditions on our love?  In our humanness, most of us look at our partners and say, I'll love you as long as you never... or I love you, but if you ever...  Or, sometimes we feel "I love her (or him) because she is beautiful, or successful, or athletic, or any other characteristics we love about our partners" and then unconsciously, some part of us knows that if those characteristics changed we might not feel the same way.   Unfortunately, this conditioning has become a "normal" part of the way we relate.  What if it were different?

What if you put love first?  What if, instead of seeing fault first or trying to prove our point and be right, we chose love?  I know this may not sound easy and yet, didn't you get into relationship in the first place because you loved this person and thought they were great?   Why is it then that we chose conflict over love?

What if you put love first?

As one of my teachers once said to us, "Would you rather be right or be in love?"  I know I'd rather be in love.  Once I put this secret into play in my life, it was easy for me to relax when challenges arose.  I realized that I was definitely more interested in moving forward in love than staying in the pain of the situation.  And when I focused on returning to love, love came quickly flooding back.