A month or so ago, I started reflecting on my intentions and goals not just from 2010, but from many years gone by. I'll be honest with you, as I looked back, many of the same intentions repeated themselves year after year.  Then there were years I just didn't set any goals, because I used to tell myself "I never achieve them anyway."  On the surface it looked pretty "bad" and on any other day, I might have been incredibly depressed by my reflection and this time I wasn't.  I actually ended up celebrating!

The reason I was looking back on past visions and goals was because I'd learned something new about goal setting that I was fascinated by and I wanted to see if it held true for me.  It so did and now I want to share it with you during this powerful time of transition at the new year.

This fall I was listening to a sales expert named Blair Singer who shared his views on goals and how we interact with them and he gave me an entirely new perspective. When we don't meet a goal, Blair shared, there is often a deeper, more important goal that we did actually meet.  These deeper goals might be ones we were completely unconscious of and probably couldn't even articulate. 

What happens, Blair explained, is that when we meet that deeper, unconscious goal, we "let go" of our focus on the original goal and it isn't achieved, because it wasn't what we wanted on the deeper level anyway.  I was curious.  Was this true for me?  Could I find deeper goals that I did meet even though I didn't meet the goals I wrote down?  So I started looking, I was happily surprised!

With each goal, I hadn't met, I reflected... "What did I accomplish related to or on my way to this goal?"

Here's some examples I found from my life.  While I had a goal to be married and have children, I never had a goal to be deeply aware and conscious in my romance.  I have that now.  I never had a goal to love and respect myself enough to be transparently authentic and set clear boundaries in my relationships.  I have that now. I never had a goal to see the greatness in a man.  I so have that now.