As we enter into or participate in any relationship, it's good to spend some conscious energy getting clear on our reasons for engaging in that particular relationship.  If we're really honest, maintaining a quality lasting relationship requires presence and attention from each participant.  That means we must consciously choose to spend our time and energy with this person (or group of people) and not spend it elsewhere. 

(Some of us get afraid of having to put any "work" into a relationship and let's save that discussion for another time... In this moment, let's just agree that being in any kind of a relationship requires us to expend energy if we want the relationship to last.)

One of the first questions we might ask ourselves about any relationship, and especially when contemplating building a new relationship is "what is my purpose or reason" for being in this relationship.  This question is as important for a romantic relationship as for a friend relationship or a business relationship.  Sometimes our purpose in building a relationship can have a short term and long term perspective.

Suggestion:  For the two relationships in your life that you spend the most time and energy participating in (whether you deem that time as great or not-so-great time), ask yourself "What is my reason or purpose for being in this relationship?"

Once you become consciously aware of your purpose or intention in each relationship, notice if your purpose or reason feels valuable to you.  Do you feel in integrity with your purpose?  Do you feel like you've been authentic with the other person about why you are in the relationship?