How we listen to the words of another significantly impacts the
quality of the communication. When we listen and truly hear what
another has said, we can respond from a deeper and more conscious
space. The resulting exchange - whether it be an exchange of
information, feelings or even love - will have much more impact for both
people.
Do you know that most of us will keep talking, keep trying to restate
our position, or keep trying to get our point across
until we feel
heard. We might do this continually during a single conversation or
we might keep bringing up the same point or issue over a series of
conversations - sometimes over years, when we really don't feel heard. Have you ever had a conversation with someone and you simply did not
feel heard? How did that feel emotionally for you? Has your partner
repeatedly told you about the same hurt? He or she hasn't yet felt
heard. Period.
Why is it that we don't feel heard? Often it happens because we sense
that the other person knew their exact response before they even heard
the words we spoke. Or, it can happen when we speak and there is no
acknowledgment of what we've said or how we feel. Sometimes the other
person responds in a way that we feel wrong or judged for what we've
said. Again we feel as if we haven't been heard.
Have you ever noticed that while someone
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