Article: Other Awareness 
Continuing our look at Conscious Relating, let's investigate the
second key component of conscious relating: other-awareness, or more
simply stated, seeing and listening to the person we want to relate
with. This outward focus and awareness on the other complements the
inward focus on ourselves that we discussed last time.
In conscious relating, other-awareness reminds us that there is more
than one person involved in our dynamic or relationship and that, if we
want to relate in consciousness with them, we must see them for who they
are and truly listen to what they want to express. This means that we
have to remember that life isn't all about us.
What
really defines the quality of our lives is the quality of our
relationships.
It's true that sometimes life gets crazy or intense and we feel like
there is barely time to breathe. Yet in those moments, we can forget
that those around us also have needs, challenges, feelings, and
desires. So, the key is to really stop, listen and truly take notice of
those you want to relate with.
You might think, "Of course I am aware of the person I'm talking
to." And I might ask you, "Are you really?" You see my experience has
been that so often in conversations, we are much more interested in
telling our story or getting our agenda across than we are in truly
hearing what the other person is feeling or needing. How often are
you already formulating your response in your head before the other
person even finishes speaking? What if you were to stop
"constructing" your next sentence and really listen (and watch) what is
being expressed. What if you stopped and really let the other person's
words sink into your being and then from that place of truly having
experienced their words, you let your response just arise from
consciousness?
We have many reasons for wanting to respond rather than listen. Sometimes...
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Weekly Practice: Practice Receiving
About 50% of us are good receivers and lousy
givers while the other half of us is great at giving and horrible at
receiving... a combination that leads to exhaustion! Let's practice
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