Life Dimensions
October 2009
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kindnessKindness I have been intrigued by the notion of kindness for years. I love to receive it and I feel so much better when I offer it to others--those whom I am closest to on a regular basis and to people I'll likely encounter only once.   Being kind to others makes us not only feel better, but be better persons.  Pass it on! 
Research studies show that when one is kind to another person, serotonin levels (neurotransmitters in the brain that make us feel good) increase.  Moreover, the recipient of the kindness also has his or her levels increased.  Most important, however, is those who observe the kind deed have their levels increased as well. This is truly an example of positive expanding positive.
A father was approached by his small son who told him proudly, "I know what the Bible means!" His father smiled and replied, "What do you mean, you "know" what the Bible means? "The son replied, "I do know!" "Okay," said his father.  "What does the bible mean?" "That's easy, Daddy." the young boy replied excitedly.  "It stands for "Basic Information Before Leaving Earth."
Children's answers to a science exam:
Q. Name the four seasons
A. Salt, pepper, mustard and ketchup.
Q. How is dew formed?
A. The sun shines down on the leaves and makes them perspire.
Q. How can you delay milk from souring?
A. Keep it in the cow. 
Book In Review the power of kindness


The Power of Kindness: The Unexpected Benefits of Leading a Compassionate Life by Piero Ferrucci, 2006.  Ferrucci is a brilliant transpersonal psychologist from Italy whose books include: What We May Be, Inevitable Grace and his latest, Beauty and the Soul.  


Ferrucci maintains that kindness has to do with what is most tender and most intimate in us and when it is not expressed, we suffer.  By touching this nucleus of tenderness, we enliven our entire affective world and we open ourselves to countless possibilities of change. 


Kindness is needed more than ever in a culture that he refers to as "global cooling."  Human relations are becoming colder with communications more hurried and impersonal.  To show kindness in our daily endeavors can reflect a variety of elements such as honesty, warmth, forgiveness, contact, trust, mindfulness, empathy, humility, patience, generosity, respect, flexibility, memory, loyalty, gratitude, service, and joy.  This book inspires kindness!

        being kind 

Love is patient, love is kind.   --1 Corinthians 13: 4
My religion is kindness.   --Dalai Lama
Kindness it is what brings forth kindness always.  --Sophocles
Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle.   --Philo of Alexandria
"Take time to be kind" is one of the best assurances for a happy life.  There is a kind way to do everything. And, usually, that is the right way.  Kindness is compassion. It asks no return.  It is an expression of inner peace and spiritual grace, which gives itself freely as the sun gives light, or as a bird sings.  It exists only for others.  It blesses wherever it touches.  It is immortal because it lives forever in the hearts of those who have experienced it.      

 --Laurel Elizabeth Keyes  

Blueprint  for Success 
Blue Print for SuccessMary Ann Van Buskirk is a  keynote speaker and author and has been selected from a nationwide search to be featured in Blueprint for Success, a highly successful book series from Tennessee based Insight Publishing. The book features best-selling authors Stephen R. Covey (Seven Habits of Highly Effective People) and Ken Blanchard (One Minute Manager.) Van Buskirk, Blanchard and Covey, are joined by other well-known authors and speakers, each offering time-tested strategies for success in frank and intimate interviews.
Mary Ann Van Buskirk, M.A., M.Div. is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Colorado, a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, a Fellow in the American Association of Pastoral Counselors and co-founder of Positive Coaching with over twenty years of experience as a counselor, trainer and national speaker.  People who have worked with her report vast improvements in their abilities to relate in healthier ways at home and at work.  Success is a result of healthy relationships.
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