Life Dimensions
February 2010
The Relationship Resource
Teaching the Dynamics of Healthy Relationships
In This Issue
Relationship Tip
Books In Review
Blueprint for Success
Quick Links
Marriage Fitness


Heart:  wholehearted, brokenhearted, kindhearted, hardhearted, faint-hearted, and stouthearted.


February is traditionally "heart" month.  Often that means Valentine's Day with expressions of candy hearts and flowers.  Upon reflection, I find the heart to have momentous importance!  First of all, the heart organ is central to our physical existence.  It is the muscular organ found in all vertebrates that is responsible for pumping blood throughout the blood vessels by repeated rhythmic contractions. 
Symbolically speaking,
the heart  is where love is centered.  It is also considered the center of the total personality especially with reference to intuition, feeling or emotion.  It is the center of emotion in contrast to the head as the center of the intellect.  It is the vital or essential part; the core. The great religions all reference the heart often in their ancient texts.  Poets, songwriters, theologians, and philosophers have written about the heart throughout the ages. 


In my work with individuals, couples and families, what seems thematic is the desire for a heart connection. People certainly can think differently based on their individual knowledge, experience, and genetic make-up, but what connects us as persons is the heart.  Those intimate relationships where we are known fully.  


If you haven't already seen the movie Avatar, I highly recommend it.  Without giving too much away, the blue natives have a way of connecting with each other by using the phrase, "I see you."   Isn't that what we all want?  To be seen, heard, affirmed, valued, known and loved.    People may remember brilliant thoughts, but what really speaks to us comes from the heart!


Moving time...

As of March 1, 2010 Life Dimensions will be at a new location: 1776 South Jackson, Suite 303, Denver, CO 80210. 


We will have the same phone number, 303-692-8006 and will still be at I-25 and Colorado Boulevard, now on the westside. 




He is the only man who has never been compared to the man she could have married.

He had no in-laws to drop in.

There were no Jones for him to keep up with.

There were no credit cards OR shopping centers.

He never had his dinner interrupted by window salesmen.

He got away with wearing a simple wardrobe.

He never had to shovel snow!

If he had gone bald, who would have known that wasn't normal.

There was no "standard weight and height" tables - and the word FAT meant good.

When God asked "Adam, where are you?" He replied, "The woman you gave me was reading the map."


Relationship Tip

Look at another person with "soft eyes."  See the other with compassion, acceptance and understanding. Intentionally notice the slight nuances of their appearance as if appreciating a fine work of art.  Let your eyes meet and smile!


Wild at HeartBook In Review

I really enjoy sharing the wealth when it comes to resources.  I finally read Wild at Heart by John Eldredge which had been recommended to me by several male clients.   Always on the look-out for helpful books concerning relationships,  I found this one useful when it comes to  further understanding men. 

As a female, it opened up some of my thinking about boys and men especially when it comes to their need for adventure, battle and beauty.  Eldredge uses a number of references from Scripture, literature and culture such as movies and songs to illustrate the masculine heart which is defined in the image of a passionate God.  He invites women  to appreciate the secret of a man's soul,  his strength and wildness.  As Eldredge writes: Life is not a problem to be solved;  it is an adventure to be lived.


Create in me a clean heart, O God.

                       --Psalm 51:10


Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.

                        --Proverbs 4:23


Let my heart be wise...It is god's best gift.

                        --Euripides, Medea (431 BC)


All knowledge, possess everyone can acquire, but my heart is all my own.



If I create from the heart, nearly everything works; if from the head, almost nothing.

                        --Marc Chagall, artist


Blueprint  for Success 

Blue Print for SuccessMary Ann Van Buskirk is a  keynote speaker and author and has been selected from a nationwide search to be featured in Blueprint for Success, a highly successful book series from Tennessee based Insight Publishing. The book features best-selling authors Stephen R. Covey (Seven Habits of Highly Effective People) and Ken Blanchard (One Minute Manager.) Van Buskirk, Blanchard and Covey, are joined by other well-known authors and speakers, each offering time-tested strategies for success in frank and intimate interviews.
Mary Ann Van Buskirk, M.A., M.Div. is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Colorado, a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, a Fellow in the American Association of Pastoral Counselors and co-founder of Positive Coaching with over twenty years of experience as a counselor, trainer and national speaker.  People who have worked with her report vast improvements in their abilities to relate in healthier ways at home and at work.  Success is a result of healthy relationships.


It is with the heart that one can see rightly, what is essential is invisible to the eye.

                        --Saint Exupery, The Little Prince


 For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

                        --Luke 12:34

Mary Ann Van Buskirk
Life Dimensions