I was having a very interesting conversation with a friend where the question came up; "How do you define success?" Now I wrote down my answer to this question and my friend's response was "Success to me, is getting what I want." I shouted, your kidding me? That is exactly what I wrote down.  It is such an easy answer to a seemingly complex question. 

The trick now, naturally is defining what you want.  How do you know what you want? Fortunately for me I have a very vivid imagination. I have always known what I want and I have a relentless passion for refining it and charging towards it like a bull.  I drive myself mad sometimes in my pursuit of the perfect life. But I have fun with it and I wouldn't have it any other way.  In other words, I would rather know what I want and be moving towards it, even if I am very far off, than not knowing what I want at all.

One of the benefits of coaching, for my clients is they get to sit on their laurels a little bit, while I sell them on a vision of the future based on what they are telling me. Together we refine that vision and then we get to charge like bulls at it together.  Once you are fired up for your dreams with passion, it is so much easier to jump out of bed, who cares if you are there yet, you are loving the process.   

I try as best I can not to use jargon, we tend to get dumped on with the usual stuff like write out your goals, put them on your fridge, create boards of pictures of fancy cars and all that goop. I find the easiest way to connect really is to go for the feeling and not so much the picture.  Whenever I am feeling especially awesome, I just say to myself, YES, it feels like this. I want more of this feeling right here. Then how I go about getting more of that feeling just seems to manifest in images at the perfect time I need them. 

So, I will pose a question to you, and it is not, "What would you do if you knew you could not fail?" Because you have heard that already, and so far, what good is it doing? It is not doing me any good, cuz, like I said I charge forward, and fail over and over again. I don't really care too much about failure or success. I live on the feeling. So, that is going to be my question to you.  I am going to ask you a question, that will get you to want more of life.  

When you start to think about what you want, here is what I want you to do. I don't want you to write a list of goals and dreams and laundry lists of things to buy and accomplish. I want you to go for the feeling of it.  I want you to ask this question:

"If I were successful, how would that feel?"

I want you to relentlessly search around in every fiber of your being, for the feeling of success. What does that feel like, all the way to your core? I want you to connect with that feeling so strongly that as if you were on drugs, that feeling itself creates the pictures for  you. Then, you can get your paper, and write out the vision.  Now when you wake up each morning, connect to that feeling, and like magic, your life is transformed.   Success on your own terms, as you define it.