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The Joydancer Weekly Word and News
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Looking for Love in
All the Right Places
April 12, 2012
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Hello!
I'M HAPPY TO SEE YOU HERE ONCE AGAIN! This week I'm thinking about Emotional Intimacy. I wrote something about it below, and I look forward to sharing with you about it Sunday evening on my weekly radio show on the HumanSpirit Radio Network.Please join me for my radio show this and every Sunday evening, 7:00 pm PDT.
SEE THE VIDEO OF THE WEEK AT THE BOTTOM
THIS WEEK: "Emotional Intimacy" On the radio show we've laid the foundation for conscious relationships, and now we're in a series of shows on "Relationship Issues." Last week on Easter Sunday, the show on Forgiveness was pretty darn good. You can listen to the archived show here. This week, the 15th: Emotional Intimacy. No show on the 22nd, I'll be driving from Mexico to my home in northern California for the summer season. The Joydancer Weekly Word:
"Emotional Intimacy"
Being intimate is probably the most desired and feared of all human experiences. We long for the closeness and safety of others, we desire to be known and accepted as we are, and yet we are afraid of the experience at the same time. If your childhood experience of closeness and being known lead to a fear of intimacy, the fear will conflict with the desire for adult human closeness, and the stronger emotion will prevail.
It was generally our emotional experiences that were ignored, punished, or otherwise rejected when we were little. Our anger, hurt, joy, and/or sadness were made wrong. We learned to deny some or all of those emotional experiences in ourselves as children, and when we left home, nobody said: "Hey, okay, good job, you learned not to be emotional or have feelings so you could get along our family. Now it's time to leave home, so you can leave that baggage at the door and go out and have a wonderful, passionate life! Enjoy!"
As adults seeking connection and closeness with others, we just might have to learn a new relationship with our emotions. We may need to become intimate with our own inner emotional life. We need to learn to recognize, value, and share these inner experiences. The danger the child within fears is being rejected when we do-- he or she hasn't forgotten the parental lessons of childhood.
For us to be emotionally intimate with others, therefore, we need to be emotionally intimate with ourselves. I define this intimacy as "the willingness to be open and present with our feeling truth in each moment -- and share that truth with others as appropriate." Of course, when we live like that, we risk the danger of being rejected. As adults, I believe we need to be willing to tell our emotional truth in our close relationships and release our attachment and control of the outcomes. It can be challenging...and rewarding!
We'll talk about these subjects and much more on Sunday night. For more about intimacy, conscious relationships, and speaking your emotional language, go to the articles section of Joydancer.com here. Remember, if you can't join me on Sunday, you can listen to the archives any time, HERE. There's good stuff there.
Allan ~~~~~~~~~~~~oo000oo~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
I enjoy your feedback: allanh@sonic.net Or (707) 206-7623 (rings through to Chacala from northern California toll free).
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VIDEO OF THE WEEK
AN INTERVIEW WITH ALLAN ON
"A DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE" Pt 1 of 2
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I'm so grateful to be able to share with you here. My life and work and Joydancer and TACO (my online Toltec spiritual and networking community) are all dedicated to helping us learn and remember the truth of our oneness as the Divine essence that creates and animates this universe... and each part of it in each moment. Including you and me!
I am available by phone, Skype, and e-mail if you would like support for your life journey. I look forward to hearing from you.
Allan Hardman
Joydancer.com
Santa Rosa, CA Office: 707-528-1271
Chacala: 707-206-7623 - rings through from northern California toll free.
allanh@sonic.net
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