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The Power to Act From Real Choice

December 4,  2011 

 


My husband likes to stop and indulge in an Italian dessert at our local gelato shop.  On any given day there may be thirty different varieties of gelato on display.  New and untried flavors, such as mango/lime, are frequent.  My husband usually asks to taste five or six flavors before deciding on two scoops.  "How can I make a choice unless I know what I'm choosing?" he says when I wonder out loud why he feels a need to "try" so many flavors. 


But it is true.  Unless we have knowledge of what we are choosing, how can we choose?  Without knowledge, a choice is more like a gamble or a lazy way to move to the next thing.  Without knowledge, our decisions may place us in positions that we never imagined, and that we may not want to be.  Ordering the mango/lime gelato without a sample might have you wishing you ordered chocolate instead, or thinking that you threw your money away.

 

When we can choose something because we know we like it, we might even call the experience the beginnings of love.

 

Choice requires a series of experiences for all of us, child or adult.

 

When working with children we sometimes confuse the act of choosing to satisfy curiosity with the act of choosing based on knowledge and experience.

 

Choosing out of curiosity--like tasting samples at the gelateria--helps create knowledge and experience.  Once we have knowledge and experience, we have a new found power, the power to act from real choice. When we know that we like mango/lime, chocolate, strawberry and caramel pecan, we can act from a vantage point that allows true choice.  Curiosity is factored out of our decision.

 

We should offer our children experiences as just that; experiences that can create knowledge that will allow them the power to act from real choice.  Otherwise, our children's behavior may appear to be like running from toy to toy in a huge store, or like taking a bite of every chocolate in the box and never eating one.

 

Experience doesn't have to be a long drawn out affair. It can be like a taste sample at the ice cream store.  We need to offer our children a wide variety of simple experiences with clear and accurate information so that they gain knowledge.  Using the correct word for items, for example, cardinal instead of red birdie, is one help.  Offering small tastes of new foods is another.  Giving a short demonstration on how to do a task, such as turning a page.  Smells, textures, shapes, movement, sounds, temperatures are only a few areas of experience where small bits of information will help children gain precision.

 

The power to act from real choice begins with curiosity being satisfied with clear and accurate experiences.  The knowledge gleaned from that will allow our children to truly choose what they like and like what they choose, in all aspects of their life, from activities to friends, to careers to vacations.

 

As well as in selecting a scoop of gelato.  

 


Next time:
   Listening and Following The Adult

 

 

 


The Understanding Montessori Newsletter is  written  by Maren Schmidt and is part of of her award winning Kids Talk weekly syndicated newspaper column.  

Ms. Schmidt is founder of a Montessori school and holds a Masters of Education from Loyola College in Maryland. She has over twenty-five years experience working with young children and holds teaching credentials from the Association Montessori Internationale. She is the author of two books, Understanding Montessori: A Guide for Parents and Building Cathedrals Not Walls.


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