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If you are new to the Kort Report, I welcome you to my newsletter. If you have already been a subscriber then I thank you for remaining interested in the work I do.

 

As you read this newsletter I hope it offers you some insight and understanding about things that are happening in your life today or in your past.

 

Sexual issues as well as relationship problems are things people don't talk about publicly or privately. Coming to therapy should be an experience which offers you a chance to talk about these issues without judgment, shame or even advice.


Too often in my field. therapists give feedback about sex and relationships based on what they think is best not what is best for the client.

 

I don't operate this way nor do the therapists I have hand picked to work at my center.

 

While we as therapists have knowledge of research and clinical experience of what works and what doesn't work, that doesn't mean that it will or won't work for you

 

If you are going to a therapist who tells you that they know what is best for you, run for your psychological life!

 

Recently I did a talk on sexual fantasies and behaviors and a well-intended clinician raised her hand and said, "That behavior makes me so sad for that person". The behavior was not sad to the client and, in fact, they enjoyed it. That therapist said she saw the behavior as pathological. The reason, I told her, that she saw it that way was because of her judgments and own feelings about the behavior and that therapy should not come from that place but rather the research that exists and from what the client believes is best for them.

 

The same is true about relationships. No one should try to match their relationship happiness with what looks happy in others' relationships.

 

Every relationship is differerent!

 

There is no one right way to be in a relationship. It is what works for the couple. If it isn't working my job as a therapist is to help the couple get to a place that works for them, not for me!

 

The hope of the work I do is to help people make the best relationship and sexual life for themselves and not to please others--especially their therapist.

 

Happy February and Happy Valentine's Day!

 

Warmly,

 

Joe Kort, Ph.D., LMSW

Dr. Joe is now writing for Huffington Post

  

Blog Entries by Joe Kort, Ph.D.

 

What Cynthia Nixon Is Teaching Us About Sexuality
When actress Cynthia Nixon declared that for her, being gay is a choice, she received much negative backlash from the gay and lesbian community. I don't see her revelation as negative as much as I appreciate her giving us an opportunity to discuss a very complex concept of sexuality.

 

Read post here 

 

Confronting Your Childhood Bullies in Safe and Productive Ways

Lately we are seeing the negative and traumatic effects of bullying every day with the media's focus on gay teen suicides. The effects of bullying are enormous and have long-lasting effects on one's life. It leaves its victims feelings afraid, alone, angry, powerless, and hopeless.

 

Read Post here 

 

Joel Osteen: What He Fails to Realize When He Calls Gay People Sinners
When Pastor Joel Olsteen tells Oprah and his congregation that "homosexuality is a sin," I don't think he is considering the impact those words have on the millions of gays and lesbians -- especially the children and teenagers. The message isn't saying, "You have committed a sin"; rather, it says, "You are a sin." The gay or lesbian child and teenager listening to Olsteen believes that he or she is a sin.

 

Read Post here 

 

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Article from the latest Attitude Magazine in the UK:

 

The Ex Factor


Adam 'Beresford EXPLORES THE STORIES OF FOUR COUPLES WHO MADE THE LEAP FROM RELATIONSHIP TO FRIENDSHIP. HE STARTS WITH HIS OWN STORY

 

How do you respect an ex when he tells you he needs a period of no contact with you?  Says Dr. Joe, 'By complying!  It is normal to need, and take, time away from each other.  Research shows that this allows the brain to detach from your ex and find new neuropathways to resolve the hurt and anger.  I highly recommend time with no contact, especially when the break-up is very emotionally painful.' 

 

Read more here
Dr. Joe's Upcoming Workshops, Teleclasses and Trainings

 

Understanding your sexual fantasies and behaviors
Rowe, MA

  

I will be at Rowe Camp and Conference Center 
Feb 24th to 26th, 2012

http://www.rowecenter.org/events.php?event=58


Gay and bisexual men, who are more inclined than straight men to act out their sexual desires and fantasies, are often confused about what is positive and self-affirming and what is not healthy.
For more information and to register click here 

 

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Psychotherapy Networker Symposium
March 21-25, 2012 Washington, DC.

 
Sex Addiction: Myth or Reality?

Friday Morning
After nearly 30 years of batting about terms like sexual addiction and sexual compulsivity to describe out-of-control sexual behavior, the panel for DSM-5 is considering formally recognizing hypersexual disorder. Yet therapists generally remain confused about the different behaviors that distinguish hypersexuality. 

This workshop will teach you how to diagnose and treat all types of out-of-control sexual behaviors, from having a high sex drive to sexual compulsivity to being a little kinky. You'll learn to differentiate between normative and non-normative sexual behaviors, and why sexual fetishes and paraphilia aren't hypersexual behaviors. We'll focus on up-to-date treatment techniques and approaches that'll help clients understand the grief, anger, humiliation, and powerlessness that can lie at the root of their sexual impulses, and discuss ways to help them replace shame with self-compassion and keep their sexual desires from dictating their lives.

Myth or Reality: Is Bisexuality Real?

Saturday Morning
Bisexuality can be misunderstood by both gays (who sometimes perceive bisexuals as trying to maintain heterosexual privileges by keeping one foot in that world) and straights (who often view bisexuals as postponing coming out as gay). Numerous, contradictory research studies and theories about the prevalence, definition, and even the existence of bisexuality only add to the confusion. This workshop will help you understand bisexual orientation, including the contrasts between male and female bisexuality. You'll learn what differentiates sexual orientation from sexual fantasies and sexual behaviors, and how to assess whether someone is bisexual or is using the label as a bridge to coming out as gay or lesbian. You'll leave the workshop with a deeper understanding of how to guide your clients through bisexual and other sexual-identity issues.


Click here for more information 

 

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Teleclass  

 

The Myths and Realities of Sexual Addiction: Teleclass for Therapists 

 

March 27, April 10, April 24, May 8, 2012 -- 1 pm EST

 

With Dr. Tammy Nelson, author of, "Getting The Sex You Want" and the upcoming, "New Monogamy".

 

Week 1 - Shame: Cause or effect? Does it turbo-charge hyper-sexuality or decrease desire?
Week 2 - Addiction: When is it an excuse? Differentiate and develop a concise treatment plan.
Week 3 - Love: Helping partners heal: Trauma, abuse, and its long term effect on relationships.
Week 4 - Recovery: Who defines it? Short and long term prognosis for both individuals and couples.


Click here for more info.

 

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Mid Atlantic Imago Therapist (MAIT)


April 27, 2012


SEX ON THE DOWNLOAD: When the internet disconnects you from your relationship


This presentation will discuss how to help couples face the crisis when one partner discovers that the other is secretly using pornography or connecting to potential partners online. We will explore its significance to the user and define limits. Finally, we'll talk about helping the spouses develop empathy and validation, ultimately creating a more differentiated sex life.


For more information contact: Sharon Nalley MAIT Admin. 301-526-3018.
 

http://www.imagoma.org/
Sex Addiction: Myth or Reality? 


 
Friday, May 4, 2012

8:30 AM - 4:00 PM

 

The Battleboro Retreat

 

For more information, click here.

The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health
Center for Relationship and Sexual Health has new groups and trainings! 


 

Partners of Sex Addicts Group Therapy
http://crsh.com/partners-of-sex-addicts-group-therapy 
 
 
6 week group for partners of sex addicts and those having experienced affairs and sexual betrayal in Royal Oak, MI call 248-399-7447

Tuesdays 6-7:30PM run by Deborah Mueller, MA (author of Sadistic Love)

 

Men's Sexuality Group Therapy

http://crsh.com/mens-sexuality-group-therapy

Thursdays 5:30 to 7:30PM run by Felix Paulick, MSW

 

Gay/Bisexual Men's Group Therapy

http://crsh.com/gay-mens-group-therapy
Tuesdays 5:30 to 7:30PM run by Joe Kort, Ph.D.

 

CRSH Trainings for Mental Health Professionals for CE's

 

What's Up Down There? Working with Sexual Dysfunction and Pelvic Pain Disorder in Women
Elana Gottfried, MSW
2 CE Hours


Sadistic Love: Women in Relationships with Sexual Sadists
Deborah Mueller, MA
2 CE Hours


Working with Today's Men in Therapy: Addressing Culture and Gender Issues in Your Practice
Felix Paulick, MSW, MBA
3 CE Hours


Counseling Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual or Transgendered (LGBT) Parents or Prospective Parents
2 CE Hours
Kellie Weller, MA


Differential Diagnosis of Hypersexuality: Sexual Addiction, Sexual Compulsion or Sexually Impulsive
2 CE Hours
Joe Kort, Ph.D.


For more information go to http://crsh.com/workshops-and-professional-trainings 

 
Warmly,
 
Joe Kort, Ph.D.
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Joe Kort, Ph.D, MA, LMSW, ACSW

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