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Greetings!
If you are new to the Kort Report, I welcome you to my newsletter. If you have already been a subscriber then I thank you for remaining interested in the work I do.
I hope you all had a great October and enjoyed Halloween as much as I did.
Over the last year I have been focused on the deaths of the gay teens who kill themselves over being gay because they are bullied and humiliated by their peers, families and schools. Nothing is being done for many of these teens to protect them. What continues to be done is blaming the victimized gay person and putting the responsility to stop the abuse on them which you can see here where this school is telling gay teens to, "act less gay." Imagine telling Jewish kids to, "act less Jewish" or African-American kids to, "act less Black" http://www.towleroad.com/2011/11/bullied-uk-students-advised-to-act-less-gay.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+towleroad%2Ffeed+%28Towleroad+Daily++%23gay+news%29
As many of you know who have read my books I was bullied and humiliated on a regular basis for being gay.(Joe Kort on Bullying)
It isn't something you ever completely get over--you learn to work through the trauma and reduce the ways it interferes with your life.
People say it gets better and that it is better for gay teens but I disagree. It isn't better before they come out. The same fears, worries, shame and loss of control is experienced by gay teens as was experienced by those of my generation.
Yes, it is better after the teen comes out because they often realize their fears and worries do not come true. But they don't know that beforehand no matter how much their families and schools have gay positive messages. There still exists too much hostility and negativity in the media toward gays.
I am doing a talk next week at Roeper school in Birmingham, MI where I will be talking to parents about diversity and the need to help children feel more safe amongst their peers, in their places of worship and most importantly within the families.
Gay kids are like gay little spies, They listen to everything being said. The worst part of is that if a parent says something negative about homosexuality in front of--or to-- their child without thinking they're gay, the gay child remembers not just what was said, but that the parent meant it too.
I hope we all start and continue to remember that gay aduts were once gay children and gay teens and they need protection too.
Warmly,
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Great news! Gay Affirmative Therapy for the Straight Clinician is now available electronically!
Click here here to order!
 My first two books, 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives, and 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Find Real Love will be published again within the new two months both in print and electronically so stay tuned.
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Sure, It Gets Better... But How?
Dr. Kort is quoted in this article.
...At midlife, we're all too aware of everything we missed and still need to learn, or re-learn. And, it's precisely at this point that our youthful confidence falls away and we begin to look around for concrete advice on how to make this life better...
Click here to read article.
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What do you think of this kid who bullied a gay student, should he have received more than 3 days suspension?
A student at Union-Scioto High School in Chillicothe, Ohio was brutally beaten this week by another student for being gay. Class members watched as the bully waited for the student to arrive in the classroom, grabbed him, pushed him to the ground and punched him in the face several times. Click here to read article. |
Emotional Eaters Zone
E.E.Z. ~ Emotional Eaters Zone has been created as a resource for individuals that self-medicate using food. The purpose of this 8 week, 1 hour program, is to bring similar individuals together to explore their addiction with food and more importantly, learn about their underlying emotions that perpetuate this problem. E.E.Z. offers no weigh-ins, group support, understanding, and education about emotional eating. E.E.Z. is open to individuals from ages 18 to 100.
E.E.Z. for Men on Tuesdays from 7:00 - 8:00pm, November 29, 2011 to January 17, 2011.
E.E.Z. for Women on Wednesdays from 12:00 - 1:00pm, November 30, 2011 to January 18, 2012.
Cost:$25.00 per session
Contact: Deborah Mueller, MA, LLPC at 248-399-7447 |
Upcoming Workshops
Keeping the Holidays Happy - FREE workshop
http://crsh.com/workshops
Presenter: Deborah Mueller
Friday November 11, 2011 7-9PM
Happy Thanksgiving! Happy Hanukah! Merry Christmas! Happy Holidays! Whichever greeting you prefer, that time of year is upon us. Despite the true meaning of the season, the demands of decorating, gift giving, visiting friends and catching up with family can be stressful. Give yourself the gift of an evening filled with ideas of how to make this year more pleasurable for You! Deborah Mueller, MA, LLPC shares how the hustle and bustle of the holiday season can create stress, some of which is positive, such as excitement and anticipation. But many people also deal with negative stress, trying to do too much, spending too much, or be in too many places at once. Mueller provides ways to minimize and manage the stresses that accompany this time of year.
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Upcoming Workshops
Getting the Love You Want Workshop
For straight, gay and lesbian couples
http://crsh.com/workshops-and-professional-trainings
Click here to download the pdf flyer and registration form or register online.
November 12-13, 2011
Sat 9:30am to 9pm
Sun 9:30am to 6pm
Cost: $750 per couple
Fees include the workshop itself, workbooks, coffee and tea. Meal breaks and overnight accommodations are not included.
Location:
The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health
25600 Woodward, Suite 215
Royal Oak, MI 48067
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Upcoming Presentations
Psychotherapy Networker Symposium
Two Workshops presented by Dr. Joe Kort
Wednesday, March 21st - Sunday, March 25th, 2012
Washington, DC.
http://www.psychotherapynetworker.org/symposium/symposium-2012
Sex Addiction
After nearly 30 years of batting about terms like sexual addiction and sexual compulsivity to describe out-of-control sexual behavior, the panel for DSM-5 is considering formally recognizing hypersexual disorder. Yet therapists generally remain confused about the different behaviors that distinguish hypersexuality. This workshop will teach you how to diagnose and treat all types of out-of-control sexual behaviors, from having a high sex drive to sexual compulsivity to being a little kinky. You'll learn to differentiate between normative and non-normative sexual behaviors, and why sexual fetishes and paraphilia aren't hypersexual behaviors. We'll focus on up-to-date treatment techniques and approaches that'll help clients understand the grief, anger, humiliation, and powerlessness that can lie at the root of their sexual impulses, and discuss ways to help them replace shame with self-compassion and keep their sexual desires from dictating their lives.
Myth or Reality: Is Bisexuality Real? Bisexuality can be misunderstood by both gays (who sometimes perceive bisexuals as trying to maintain heterosexual privileges by keeping one foot in that world) and straights (who often view bisexuals as postponing coming out as gay). Numerous, contradictory research studies and theories about the prevalence, definition, and even the existence of bisexuality only add to the confusion. This workshop will help you understand bisexual orientation, including the contrasts between male and female bisexuality. You'll learn what differentiates sexual orientation from sexual fantasies and sexual behaviors, and how to assess whether someone is bisexual or is using the label as a bridge to coming out as gay or lesbian. You'll leave the workshop with a deeper understanding of how to guide your clients through bisexual and other sexual-identity issues.
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Warmly,
Joe Kort, Ph.D. 
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Joe Kort, Ph.D, MA, LMSW, ACSW
25600 Woodward Ave | Suite 218 | Royal Oak, MI | 48067
248.399.7317 | joekort@joekort.com
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