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May Workshops and Trainings
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May, 2011 is bittersweet to me. I am going to London, England to do workshops for gay and lesbians couples, gay men and therapists dealing with clients struggling with internet infidelity. That is the good news.

 

The sad news is that I am losing one of my favorite shows and people on the air--Oprah! I found it helpful to write a letting go article that I will share with you to allow me to accept that she will no longer be on daily television. It is a bit tongue-in-cheek and yet it also is very meaningful to me.

 

Here is the article:   

 

Ladies and Gentleman: Joe-prah!

By Joe Kort, Ph.D. 

I have to admit, over the past 25 years, I've been a little obsessed with "Oprah." Okay, maybe not just a little bit-maybe a lot more than that. To be honest, I have been a major fan of hers from the very beginning.

In 1986, when I saw her on the air for the first time, I connected with her immediately. I couldn't believe that here, for the first time, here was a woman on television who resembled no one else I had ever seen on network TV. She talked about issues that clearly mattered to her. She showed her true emotions, was overweight-and she was black. Before this, each of these traits by itself might have spelled low ratings and quick cancellation for any TV personality. But not for Oprah-she was authentic.

How come I identified so closely with Oprah Winfrey, especially since we have nothing in common? I'm a gay white Jewish male, now a therapist, who grew up in a lower-middle-class household. She and I didn't share the same gender, religion, race or profession, yet I felt a kinship with her, an understanding.

At that point, little did I know that we two had a lot in common!

To read more, click here...

Do you have an "ex" to grind? 

Here is my answer to someone who is in relationship with a partner who is friends with her ex-partners. 
http://www.365gay.com/video/ask-the-expert-lesbian-exes/

Am I undatable because I am HIV+? 

 

Question: I have a good job. I am athletic and health oriented. I am the boy next door. I live right outside of one of the largest and gayest cities in the world. I have awesome family and friends.

Oh, and I happen to have HIV.

Because of the latter, all the other traits I can bring to the table seem not to matter when it comes to dating. I have tried HIV dating websites and social events but I have been unsuccessful. Since my status does not define me and I do not like limiting myself to just HIV+ guys, I am open to dating anyone who fits into what I look for in a man. Although the statistics amongst gay urban males regarding HIV seem like this would not be an issue in 2011, it still is.

My question is how do I deal with HIV stigma and dating without giving up hope?

Signed,

Seriously single and losing hope.

http://www.365gay.com/news/ask-the-expert-am-i-undatable-because-im-hiv/?xrs=share_fb&sms_ss=facebook&at_xt=4daad2fe0c6db368%2C0

Vote for the gay couple: 

Robbie Cronrod and Allen Artcliff want to win Crate & Barrel's Ultimate Wedding contest - because they want a nice ceremony and because they want to shine a national spotlight on marriage equality.

Robbie Cronrod and Allen Artcliff need your vote. The Los Angeles couple are in the running to win a $100,000 wedding in Crate & Barrel's Ultimate Wedding contest, and if they gather enough votes (they're currently in second place) and meet enough of the furniture store's criteria, they could be the first same-sex couple to win the prize.  

http://www.advocate.com/Society/Marriage_Equality/More_Than_a_Wedding/


Vote here http://www.ultimateweddingcontest.com/entry/104050

May Workshops and Trainings

 

Reclaiming the Man in the Mirror: A Workshop for Gay and Bisexual Men on Sex, Love and Intimacy
Thursday, May 5, 2011
10 AM - 1 PM OR 7PM - 10PM
Location: Beauchamp Lodge, 2 Warwick Crescent, London W2 6NE, UK.
For information about the London workshop click here.

"Sex on the Download" Presenter: Joe Kort, Ph.D.
A one day workshop for therapists

May 6, 2011 Friday
9:30AM to 6PM
Location Beauchamp Lodge, 2 Warwick Crescent, London W2 6NE, UK

http://www.joekort.com/talks.htm

Click here to download the PDF flyer

 

Getting the Love You Want: Gay & Lesbian Couples

2-day couples workshop

London, England

May 7-8, 2011

http://www.joekort.com/GTLYWEngland.htm

 

Sincerely,
Joe Kort professional photo 2009
Joe Kort, PhD

Joe Kort, Ph.D, MA, LMSW, ACSW

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