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When your spouse or partner has a secret sexual life
When couples come into my office I usually do a few things immediately.
First, I help calm both partners' initial reactivity. Usually the partner who has been discovered on the Internet is experiencing a tremendous amount of shame for having their secret sex life exposed.
They are often defensive, angry and blaming of their partner. The men often say they don't know why they are viewing the porn or became involved in Internet chatting and want to stop but have been unable to do so.
My work is to help them accept responsibility that for whatever reason they chose not to share their sexual activity on the Internet and that their partner has a right to their feelings of shock and betrayal.
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***NEW DATE****
Getting the Love You Want Couple's Workshop--Royal Oak, Michigan
APRIL 16-17, 2011
This workshop is for all couples straight, gay and lesbian. There is no unwanted sharing and this is not a group therapy. It is a psycho-educational workshop in which couples learn communication skills and conflict resolution. You will learn to talk through the hardest issues within the relationship and resolve conflict.
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Come to London, England for a Gay and Lesbian Couples Workshop
MAY 7-8, 2011
This is an exciting to learn from this amazing therapist. Although these workshops are becoming more and more available in the UK, this is the first time that this powerful workshop has been presented in the UK specifically for Gay and Lesbian couples.Through this workshop, you will have the opportunity deepen your connection and have new opportunities for bonding, creating a more positive and loving relationship.
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Come to London, England for a
Workshop for Gay and Bisexual Singles and Partners
Thursday, May 5, 2011
Also while in London I will be doing a workshop for gay and bisexual men on sex, love and intimacy.
This is for men both partnered and single.
There will be two 3 hour workshops so that if people cannot come at one time they can attend the other.
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Teleclass for clinicians on Internet Infidelity
HOW TO HELP THE PARTNERS AND SPOUSES OF SEXUALLY COMPULSIVE MEN AND WOMEN
Tammy Nelson, Ph.D. and Joe Kort, Ph.D.
"Sex on the Download" is a reflection of our current culture of internet relationships where the growing societal influence of connecting in cyber relationships can create real time intimacy, but may also lead to compulsive sexual behaviors, porn addition and compulsive infidelity.
"Catching my husband on the internet
is like finding him in bed with another woman"
Four Tuesdays: March 29, April 5, 12, 19, 2011
12pm - 1pm EST
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Spring Trainings for Clinicians in Washington D.C. and London, England
 March 25-26 I will be presenting on three different topics at the largest psychotherapist conference in the country in Washington, D.C. I love going to this conference as 3,500 therapists come from around the world to talk and listen to ideas and treatments on various topics and issues. My presentations include:
Treating Straight and Gay Couples: What's the Difference?
Erotic Logic: Understanding the Origin and Meaning of Sexual Practices
Depathologizing Porn: When Is It an Addiction?
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"Sex on the Download" A one day workshop for therapists Click here to download the PDF flyer May 6, 2011 Friday
9:30AM to 6PM
London, England
Location Beauchamp Lodge, 2 Warwick Crescent, London W2 6NE, UK http://ccpe.org.uk/space.html "Sex on the Download" is a reflection of our current culture of internet relationships where the growing societal influence of connecting in cyber relationships can create real time intimacy, but may also lead to compulsive sexual behaviors, porn addiction and compulsive infidelity. Is it inevitable that in the not too distant future we will ultimately download all of our intimate and sexual connections?
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Tell me how you were loved as a child, and I will tell you how you make love as an adult
--Esther Perel, author of Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Domestic with the Erotic
Sincerely, 
Joe Kort, Ph.D.
Kort Report
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