What complicates these relationships can be summed up in one word - competition.  While you want the best for your peers, you want the best for you too.  If you or your peers come from a mindset of scarcity - only so many promotions or raises or customers or success to go around - then you will find yourself creating competition amongst instead of collaboration across the people that you work with.

 

In many organizations, this competition takes on the addition layer of tribes - groups of peers competing against other groups of peers to win the favor of the senior-most leaders.  Sometimes tribal wars are even launched from the top by creating the perception of a favored group.   However it starts, competition is a win-lose game therefore when played inside an organization versus outside against ones real competitors, both the wins and losses are on your own scoreboard making real gains incremental at best.  

 

Organizations, leaders and individuals who come from a place of abundance - my success does not come at the expense of another or I will do well if the organization does well - are the ones who will experience quantum success.   Individuals who come from abundance are focused on the good for the total organization - not themselves, their group or their tribe.  They are the first to publicly notice the good work of their peers, to support those who might be struggling and to do whatever it takes to get the job done without posturing themselves to take the credit.  They are also the first to receive the support and influence of their peers in the many moments key to quantum success.

 

Coming from an attitude of abundance, not having your own agenda and collaborating across your peers for total win-wins are the ways to gain the cheers of your peers!  To do this effectively, you must approach your work with a healthy dose of self-confidence, ego management and life balance.  If you confuse your work with your life, you will be too emotionally attached to step back and see that it is not really all about you.   

 

The bottom line is that the most effective way to ensure your personal success is to approach it selflessly for the good of something bigger than you.   Once you can do that, you will not only be able to stand in your best to perform at your best, but you will have the best support and cheers, not jeers, of your peers!