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 July 23 - 30, 2012  

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Grief Sucks
And that's putting it politely

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Life is glorious, but life is also wretched. It is both...Gloriousness and wretchedness need each other. One inspires us, the other softens us." 
-- Pema Chodron

Everyone who loves any of the 12 people killed in the Colorado movie theater this week has entered hell. Friday became Day 1 of what will probably be the worst year of their lives.

There are countless other unknown people whose loved ones also died that day. They didn't make headlines but they are shocked and suffering every bit as much. Maybe some random afternoon they'll bag your groceries or tutor your kid in math or stand in line behind you at Starbucks -- and you won't even realize the pain they're in.

Tears I know we are taught that we are supposed to get over things, find closure, and pull ourselves up by the bootstraps. To do otherwise is deemed lazy, weak or just plain pitiful. But intense bereavement doesn't give one tiny shit about anyone's expectations of positivity and determination, even yours. Because grief will kick your ass -- whenever, where ever and how ever much it wants.
And as for the idea of "how long" it takes to grieve, let's just do away with any pseudo-rules about that right now. It takes a long, long, long time to learn to live without a spouse, child, sibling, parent or best friend.

I realize that by affirming the misery of grief, I run the risk of being accused of encouraging people to wallow or feel sorry for themselves.

 

I don't care.  

 

Because I know what I'm saying is true. It's not the only truth about grief and anguish, but it does seem to be the one that is most taboo. So I guess I just felt like blowing the doors off the barn and letting this ugly horse run.  

 

Mourning is inconvenient. It's disruptive and unpredictable. It's isolating. It's confounding. It's unpopular, not to mention exhausting and tedious. Trying to ignore it doesn't make it less so.  

 

Now...what does this have to do with yoga? I don't know.  

 

Nothing. Everything.  

 

  

Join me for yoga this week:
Home studio, North Hollywood:
Tuesday 7:30 p.m., Saturday 10:30 a.m., Sunday 10 a.m.
Burbank YMCA:

Wednesday, 8:30 a.m., Thursday 8 p.m., Friday 10 a.m.

For more information about classes, email me or visit the class schedule on the Yoga Bits blog.
Sat Nam,
Mary

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