This sadhana, organized by the worldwide Kundalini yoga community, involves 4,000 people (yes, four thousand) in 65 countries who have officially signed up to participate. The whole world is crackling with group energy and here I am, sitting on my mat, missing out on that sense of utter oneness and peace. I've had that connection happen before -- in fact, many times. But not lately.
Frankly, it's bugging me. I mean, I teach this stuff - shouldn't I be wrapped up in the bliss? Maybe I'm a fraud. Maybe I should skip the teaching gig, including the Bits, so as not to inflict my mediocrity on others...It's not supposed to be this way! I'm supposed to be feeling the love! In the groove! Blowing my mind! Right?
Not necessarily.
These assumptions are the by-product of avidya, the Sanskrit word used in the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali to describe false perception. Avidya is made up of four branches: asmita, expressed in ego-driven thoughts of superiority or righteousness; raga, expressed in making demands out of entitlement or greed; dvesa, expressed in rejection of things painful or unfamiliar; and abhinivesa or fear, expressed in too many ways to mention.
My doubt and frustration indicate how avidya is influencing my understanding and also expose a persistent character defect that I know plagues many of us: perfectionism. As a recovering control-freak overachiever workaholic egomaniac, I typically want my every action, thought and breath to be superlative. So I bring expectations into everything I do -- including my yoga practice -- and if I can't be perfect (whatever the hell that means), then forget it. Sheesh. Can you say asmita?
Even though I want to let go of my perfectionism, it's not easy for me. In fact, I suck at it, which must be why I keep bumping into thwarted expectations wherever I go. But consistently showing up to my mat is an exercise in self-awareness and commitment. The commitment keeps me coming back even when I am swimming in avidya-inspired boredom, defeat or distraction. Rather than running away from the discontent, I am able to recognize the false perception and, ideally, change my understanding.
By releasing my expectations, I'm able to be present in my meditation. Then I am humbly reminded that the purpose of my experience is not to condemn or praise it. The purpose of my experience is to experience it.
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