StepFamily Life Newsletter The StepFamily Life Newsletter

April 2010

In This Issue
Ushering in a New Era for the Stepfamily
Mad Men & What NOT to Do After Divorce
Free Weekly Stepfamily Support Group
Upcoming Events
Saturday, April 25: Parental Alienation Day. Take time today to learn about parental alienation syndrome and how to successfully avoid it.
 
Tuesdays at 11 a.m.: Tune in weekly to Susan Swanson on Step for your free stepfamily support group. Write in or call with any questions so we can better support you.
TIP FOR APRIL
Summer is coming up and that often leaves stepparents stressed. Summer means more visitation, and more time with the kids home. When the kids are around, remember to take more needed time for yourself. Go on long walks, exercise, meditate and spend time with your friends. Then you will have more reserves for all the activity children bring into your lives! 
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Ushering in a New Era for the Stepfamily
 
When any one of us becomes divorced or ends a relationship and we have children, it is ridiculous for us to allow ourselves to fall in love and "hope" things will just work out. There is no possibility that stepfamily challenges and stepfamily dynamics will not occur in your family.
 
Knowing what those dynamics are is vital. If you don't learn about them, then when you decide to become vulnerable and fall in love again, you are handicapping yourself, whether you're the step or the bio parent.
 
We need to come into these relationships mindful, with emotional intelligence. I propose that all stepcouples make a commitment to focus on strengthening their relationship, tackling the issues of stepfamily life together and pledging to treat their new family as it should be treated - a stepfamily, and not a nuclear family.
 
Here are some Commitments for Stepcouples that you should review with your partner. What will result is not only a stronger coupling, but a stronger stepfamily.
Mad Men: The Perfect Example of
What Not to Do After a Divorce
 
Fans of Mad Men watched last season end with Betty Draper deciding to leave her philandering, lying, cheating, dishonest (albeit
absolutely gorgeous) husband Don.
 
True to the times that very few things of any emotional substance are discussed, this family, particularly Don, drinks his troubled feelings away. Betty, who also turns to alcohol, appears awkward as she moves through a life she cannot deal with. Shut down and cut off from her own emotions (and therefore disconnected from herself), she turned to someone else who pursued her -- a man who is willing, for her beauty, apparently, to take on three little children when he already has a grown daughter of his own.
 
How much have we learned to tune into our feelings about divorce since the era of Mad Men? Have we really become enlightened about communication and our feelings?
 
Susan Swanson on Step Can Help You
Navigate Stepfamily Life
Our radio show is going strong!!! Susan Swanson on Step is regarded as one of the most authoritative shows on stepfamily life! 
 
Tune in every Tuesday from 11:00 - 11:50 a.m. for discussions on challenges that every stepfamily faces. You will learn valuable information that will help you navigate stepfamily life.
 
If you missed previous shows or find yourself wanting to listen to a particular show again, you can find past shows in our archive
 
We hope you tune in for tips and advice on how to navigate your own stepfamily. We want this show to help you, so please submit any questions you'd like answered or topics you'd like discussed to leslie@stepfamilycenter.com.