Spring awakens and enlivens all of nature. In this season we can notice the many ways that we are emerging, changing and becoming.
Take time to reflect on the way in which you are changing and growing. Consider where you feel stuck. This may be a good time to sow some seeds of change in your life. Lisa
"A single event can awaken within us a stranger totally unknown to us. To live is to be slowly born."-Antoine de Saint-Exupery
|How are you handling change in your life?||
Is your life going according to plan?
If it is, just wait, because it will change.
If not, hang in, it will change.
In a world of uncertainty, it does seem that the uncertain is the only unchanging reality.
We can plan, scheme, hope and dream, but life has this unnerving way of diverting us from the outcome or the destination that we believe is so certain. And, we don't like that.
I vividly remember how this lesson came to me on a rushing river. I had been thrown into the white water and found myself holding on to the sides of the river rock, determined not to be sucked back in. As the water pulled me with its fierce strength, I drug myself across the rocks to escape. Relieved, I collapsed on the bank, only to discover a coiled snake. I jumped into the river and let it carry me down stream, preferring the beating of the rocks to the snake!
In my own life, I have faced many situations in which what I expected would happen, did not. I thought I would be married forever. I wasn't. I thought I'd have three sons. I have two amazing daughters. I thought I'd have quiet cats for pets. I have two noisy boxers. I thought I could stay in the closet. I could not.
On and on it goes. Life never settles down. LIke a wild and winding river, it carries us along on a current of urgency that propels us into the future and often leaves us breathless with fear, uncertainty and wonder.
As your life carries you along, I wonder, are you holding on, dragging your heals, kicking and screaming? Are you sitting back and surrendering to the flow, even when it takes you right into a tough place?
I find that we experience the most pleasure and the highest possible adaptation to change when we live with an open heart. In my own life, change is always easier and often joyful to navigate, when I can find that open space inside myself that says ...yes, this is what is. This allows the truth in my own heart and soul to emerge and give me clarity.
The greatest pain I've experienced has come when I have refused the current, and held on to the outcome that change is sweeping away beneath me. It has been in those moments that I have had to look inward and see myself as my own captor. Only then, could I have the vision to release, let go and let the river carry me.
I continue to learn this lesson.
____________________________________________© 2010 Lisa Maurel, MFT, Lic. 32416
..."Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens." - Carl Gustav Jung
If you are open to reflection, you can observe the signs of resistance in your own life...
...staying in the closet...keeping the secret of your sexuality, gender or curiosity...
...drowning out your pain with television, alcohol, sex...
...holding on to a resentment, a grudge, that continues to wound...
...continuing a behavior that you know causes you or your loved ones harm...
...repeatedly trying to solve a problem with the same methods without results....
Ask yourself, what am I getting out of holding on to this way of being? If I were to stop doing this...what would change?
Often we find relief when we ask ourselves these questions. The pain is in the resistance. And stepping into acceptance, allows us the room to search, discover, and become more of our true selves.
Peace on your journey, Lisa
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