The Queen's Chronicles
Inspiration for an Influential, Passionate and Powerful Maturity
March 2010
In This Issue
Calendar Girls
Audrey Hepburn's Beauty Tips
On Beauty and Age
Before I Begin

Queen Mama Donna


Donna Henes is an internationally renowned urban shaman, award-winning author, popular speaker and workshop leader whose joyful celebrations of celestial events have introduced ancient traditional rituals and contemporary ceremonies to millions of people in more than 100 cities since 1972. She has published four books, a CD, an acclaimed quarterly journal and currently writes for the Huffington Post and UPI (United Press International) Religion and Spirituality Forum. Mama Donna, as she is affectionately called, maintains a ceremonial center, spirit shop, ritual practice and consultancy in Exotic Brooklyn, NY where she offers intuitive tarot readings and spiritual counseling and works with individuals, groups, institutions, municipalities and corporations to create meaningful ceremonies for every imaginable occasion.

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Henes has a new land for us ladies who want more from life and it's called 'Sovereignty in Midlife.' If you haven't become Queen of yourself yet, this is a must read book."
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My dear sister Queens,

Writing The Queen's Chronicles is a joy and an honor - a labor of true love - but, the fact remains that it takes a great deal of time and effort and requires the services of a techno-cyber Queen to be able to offer it each month. Consequently, after two years of publishing, the royal coffers are sadly diminished and in desperate need of replenishing.
Your donations will allow me to continue to provide you with a monthly offering of information and inspiration for an influential, passionate and powerful maturity.
I thank you so much for your royal support. With your help, The Queen's Chronicles can maintain its mission to promote meaning, moxie, magic and majesty to women in midlife.
With regal blessings,
xxQueen Mama Donna


I can't thank you enough for holding my hand and guiding me across the big divide between my old confused and depressed self to the Queen of my own life who I have become.
-Denise, OR
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The transition from Maiden and Mother to Queen can be a difficult one, fraught with hard lessons and lots of loss. It takes great determination and courage to confront and embrace the changes brought about by the midlife passage.

It can be really helpful during this confusing time to have the inspiration, advice and encouragement of a counselor/coach/mentor - someone who has been there and done that and is ready to help you do the same.

Queen Mama Donna offers upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity.



Further information: www.thequeenofmyself.com
Click on Individual Consultations.

Sessions are available in person and by phone. To make an appointment, call 718-857-1343 or email the Queen at TheQueenOfMySelf@aol.com

As you begin to understand the immense power and love you hold inside, you will find an unending surge of joy, light and love that will nourish and support you all the days of your life.
- Susan Jeffers

A Queen Event
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Conference Queens


MARCH 1-31
1/3 off reading for March Birthdays. In person or by phone.
For info: 718-857-1343


APRIL 1-30
1/3 off reading for April Birthdays. In person or by phone.
For info: 718-857-1343

**TELESEMINAR: SPIRITUAL SPRING CLEANING: Detoxing Body, Mind, Spirit, and Home  
A Spirit Support Skills Workshop 
Learn how to detox and declutter in order to sweep away the detritus that clogs your body, fogs your brain, and bogs you down. Purify and sanctify your body, mind, spirit, and living/working space.
$25 per seminar.
$60 if you register for all 3 teleclasses in the series**

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APRIL 13, 2010
Radio interview with Maryanne Comaroto on Maryanne Live!
APRIL 14, 2010
Radio interview with Raven Blair Davis on Woman Power Talk Radio

A Spirit Support Skills Workshop 
Learn the basics about the tarot. This beginners workshop will be required for future tarot classes.
Mama Donna's Tea Garden
Park Slope, Exotic Brooklyn, NY
For info: 718-857-1343
$50. If prepaid 3 days in advance
$60. At the door.

APRIL 29 - MAY 2
Mama Donna is a guest workshop leader and ritualist. Hosted by the Panthean Temple.
For information: 203-660-1369

MAY 1-31
1/3 off reading for May Birthdays. In person or by phone.
For info: 718-857-1343
A Spirit Support Skills Workshop 
Learn simple body/mind/spirit techniques to help you keep your perspective, sanity, clarity, equilibrium, good cheer and positive attitude intact during the toughest of times.
$25 per seminar.
$60 if you register for all 3 teleclasses in the series**

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MAY 13
A Spirit Support Skills Workshop 
Learn the basics about the tarot. This beginners workshop will be required for future tarot classes.
Mama Donna's Tea Garden
Park Slope, Exotic Brooklyn, NY
For info: 718-857-1343
$50. If prepaid 3 days in advance
$60. At the door.

MAY 22
(rain date: May 23, Sunday)
Mama Donna will conduct a participatory Hudson River cleansing ceremony as the grand finale of the Hudson River Pageant (1-5PM). Calling all blessers - send an email to join Mama Donna's Blessing Band.
Gansevoort Street at the river,
For info: 718-857-1343

JUNE 1-30
1/3 off reading for June Birthdays. In person or by phone.
For info: 718-857-1343
JUNE 2 - 6
Mama Donna will be hosting an entire Queen Weekend! Including several workshops and rituals at this annual gathering. She will also have her Spirit Shop there and be available for Tarot readings.
Information and registration:

DREAM WISDOM: Deciphering the Messages From Your Soul
A Spirit Support Skills Workshop 
Learn how to access and make sense of the symbolic language of your dreams and visions, and how to recognize the truths and lessons that they offer.
$60. if you register for all 3 teleclasses in the second series++
(June 9, July 7 and August 4)
For more info, click.


MONDAY morning,
7;15 AM event starts
7:28 AM Solstice moment
A sizzling Celebration of Summer. Drum up the sun!
Pier 16 South Street Seaport
For info: 718-857-1343
A sizzling Celebration of Summer. A family friendly event. Bring kids, dogs, drums and lots of spirit.
Socrates Sculpture Park
32-01 Vernon Blvd., Long Island City, Queens
For info: 718-956-1819



JULY 1-31
1/3 off reading for July Birthdays. In person or by phone.
For info: 718-857-1343

SETTING IT WRITE: Journal Keeping for Healing, Sanity, Clarity & Wisdom
A Spirit Support Skills Workshop 
Learn how to track your innermost feelings, ideas, plans, goals, ambitions, aspirations and experiences, and turn them into your own psychic support system.
$60. if you register for all 3 teleclasses in the second series++
(June 9, July 7 and August 4)
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1/3 off reading for August Birthdays. In person or by phone.
For info: 718-857-1343

NOTING THE PROCESS OF THE NOTING THE PROCESS: Keeping Track of Your Transformation
A Spirit Support Skills Workshop 
Learn how to organize and make sense of the patterns created by the signs, symbols, impulses, omens and instinctual messages from your personal inner guidance so that they can help you create a more meaningful, effective and satisfactory life.
$60. if you register for all 3 teleclasses in the second series++
(June 9, July 7 and August 4)
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Have Crown,
Will Travel!

To discuss booking Queen Mama Donna for a reading, presentation, ritual, workshop or a keynote address in your area, call her at 718-857-1343 or e-mail her at TheQueenOfMySelf@aol.com

"Mama Donna Henes is the embodiment of earth mother and brings comfort to people from all different walks of life. She has been a speaker at the NYC Chapter of the Women's Wellness Society on two occasions and we've enjoyed some of our best attendance for the events she's headlined. Her practical, grounded approach to spiritual issues makes them accessible to all types of people, whether they have been exposed to her brand of work or not. For example, there is one woman from a professional medical practice who asks eagerly each month whether Mama Donna will be speaking. Mama Donna has a wise, dry wit, an insouciant twinkle in her eye and an easy way with her audience that they resonate with and enjoy. I will continue to invite her to events and recommend her with the highest regard."
- Jennifer Jackson, President
Women's Wellness Society
New York Chapter CT

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The Queen's Oil of Empowerment is a dandy little ritual. Every morning I bless my Self before going out into the world. It helps me stay in a place of personal sovereignty.
- Charlene, UT
My women's group starts every meeting by blessing each other with power.
- Faye, ME

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The Queen
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Regular Columns:

Always in Season
The Huffington Post

Ask Your Mama
Pagan Pages
The Oracle
New Age Journal
UPI Religion and Spirituality

Recent Articles about QMD:

National Public Radio
Columbia Daily Tribune
The Daily Beast

Recent Articles by QMD:
USA Today

Recent Radio Interviews:
Weaving the Web of the World Radio
Dispelling the Myths Radio

Amazon Author Page:

Wikipedia listings:
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  Hail Queens!

  My maternal 
  died at 80. This
  was pretty old
in her day. My mother died just short of her 80th birthday, which pains me to this day. She was not old. She did not look or act old. But she felt old. She lost interest in what had always pleased and sustained her, and thought that she was too old to pursue other interests. Really, she just gave up. I shouldn't say, "just." She did have cancer. But she gave up caring.
The Great Depression had robbed her of the college education that she craved. Once she became a mother and then a divorced woman with two kids to raise and no child support, she was too busy to think about developing her own passions. And by the time my brother and I were off on our own, she had gotten out of the habit of aspiring for inner growth. She did take a painting class once and when she had finished decorating her apartment, she quit.
And that is how she died. She quit. She simply quit in her spirit. She was tired and she gave in. However on her deathbed, she felt her regrets. How incredibly sad to hear a really smart, successful, independent, dynamic woman bemoan the fact that she had not done this, that or the other thing that she had wanted to do.
My mother was a great role model for me in many ways, both positive and negative. Her midlife reinvention for herself was an inspiration to me that contributed to the formulation of the Queen archetype for mature women. She was an extraordinary Queen in her middle age. Exemplary!

Ad (Mom)
 My Mother, Adelaide Trugman

But I think that she thought that she had to give up her crown in old age. She saw nothing appealing about being a Crone. She hated her aging body and considered it a traitor. Nothing seemed to peak her enthusiasm. She worried about being debilitated and dependent. She did not seek, recognize or value the gifts, the huge benefits of enhanced self-awareness and esteem presented to us during the aging process.
This is one debilitating attitude that I do not wish to emulate. My resistance to identifying myself as a Crone, while still in my middle years is not born of a fear of aging - especially considering the alternative. I am not afraid of aging. I am afraid of not aging! As Woody Allen put it, "I don't want to be immortal through my work. I want to be immortal through not dying."
I have absolutely every intention of being a very, very old woman. hopefully, the oldest woman who ever lived! My goal is to reach 100 years of wise age - with the caveat that I want to know that I am 100! I absolutely want to be a Crone. Just not yet.
Actually, I look forward to my tenure as a delightfully outrageous, brazenly courageous Crone, living her golden years to the hilt. And believe me, I practice daily to achieve that romantic and ambitious end.
When I grow up to be a Crone, I want to be a Grandma Moses, a Louise Nevelson, a Georgia O'Keefe, a Martha Graham, a Mother Teresa, a Maria Sabina or a Delaney sister - a truly stellar elder whose visionary influence extends far into the future. A wise and wooly sage who is wholly engaged.
But for now and the foreseeable future, I glory in my Queendom. I do plan to move on someday, probably in my 70s, to the august domain of the Empress Crone. And you better believe that I will be taking my crown with me.
With best blessings for a long and well-lived life,

R.I.P. Granny D

Granny DDoris "Granny D" Haddock died at the age of 100 on March 9, 2010, one day after International Women's Day.
A former housewife and office assistant in a shoe factory, Haddock had been happily retired for over twenty years until her husband died, leaving her in need of a good reason to live after having devoted herself to nursing him through Alzheimer's Disease for ten years.
She had once been a community activist and she still felt passionate about the importance of struggling for one's ideals. So after some soul searching, at the age of 90, she laced up her sneakers and walked across America to rally against the influence of big money in elections.
She walked 3,200-miles from Los Angeles to Washington, DC - ten miles each day for fourteen months - to demonstrate her concern for the safety of our democracy in a corporate-run world.
Chasing my hat again through cacti, the idea of walking across the United States at my age seemed a less than perfect idea. I was being foolish: The country is too big for an old New Hampshire woman with a bad back and arthritis and emphysema and parched lips and a splintered hat ... So many people, even in my own family, had said I wouldn't get fifty miles. I would just think of that and let myself get a little angry. That would give me a boost.
As another American shero, Peace Pilgrim, had done 35 years before her, Queen Doris traveled as a pilgrim, walking until given shelter, fasting until given food. Her faith in the generosity of the strangers she met along the way was well-founded and she never went without a meal or a bed.  
She trekked through over 1,000 miles of desert, climbed the Appalachian Range in blizzard conditions and even skied 100 miles after a historic snowfall made roadside walking impossible. When she arrived in Washington D.C., Granny D was met by 2,200 supporters representing a wide variety of reform groups. Several dozen members of Congress walked the final miles with her.
Her epic journey galvanized popular attention to a political system gone awry, but for Granny D the walk was only a warm up.
After the defeat of Senator McCain and Senator Feingold's first attempt to remove unregulated "soft" money from campaigns in 1995, Doris became interested in campaign reform and led a petition movement. It took two more years to gain passage of the McCain/Feingold bill, during which time Doris engaged in walking fasts around the Capitol, organized rallies in many states, and held demonstrations that twice landed her in DC jails.
In 2003, Doris had her eyes on the upcoming election, and so she drove around the country on a 22,000-mile voter registration effort targeting working women and minorities. This trek was cut short in June 2004, when Doris heard that the presumed Democratic nominee for U.S. Senate in New Hampshire had dropped out of the race days before the filing deadline.
At 94 and still fed up with politics as usual, she leapt into the race "raise a little hell" with just four months until Election Day.

Run GrannyHer insurgent, grassroots campaign defied all expectations. Queen Granny D and her motley crew of political aces and amateurs worked against all odds and crafted a feisty campaign that personified her democratic ideals of a government of, by and for the people. She won 34% of the votes.
Politicians and pundits alike have lauded the work of this indefatigable great-grandmother of sixteen:
I believe she represents all that is good in America. She has taken up this struggle to clean up American politics. Granny D, you exceed any small, modest contributions those of us who have labored in the vineyards of reform have made to this Earth. We are grateful for you.
- Senator John McCain
Doris Haddock is a true patriot, and our nation has been blessed by her remarkable life.
-Jimmy Carter
The problem with Granny D is that she makes the rest of us look like such schlumps.
- Molly Ivins    

A Senior (I Should Be So Brilliant) Moment

This is the Letter of the Year from The Times of London:
A elderly lady actually wrote this letter to her bank. The bank manager thought it amusing enough and sent if off to the Times to be published. This newspaper thanks him most sincerely.

Dear Sir,
I am writing to thank you for bouncing my cheque with which I endeavoured to pay my plumber last month. By my calculations, three 'nanoseconds' must have elapsed between his presenting the cheque and the arrival in my account of the funds needed to honour it. I refer, of course, to the automatic monthly deposit of my Pension, an arrangement. which, I admit, has been in place for only thirty-eight years. You are to be commended for seizing that brief window of
opportunity and also for debiting my account 30 by way of penalty for the inconvenience caused to your bank.
My thankfulness springs from the manner in which this incident has caused me to rethink my errant financial ways.
I noticed that whereas I personally attend to your telephone calls and letters, when I try to contact you, I am confronted by the impersonal, over-charging, re-recorded, faceless entity. which your bank has become.
From now on, I, like you, choose only to deal with a flesh-and-blood person. My mortgage and loan payments will therefore and hereafter no longer be automatic, but will arrive at your bank by cheque, addressed personally and confidentially to an employee at your bank whom you must nominate.
Be aware that it is an offence under the Postal Act for any other person to open such an envelope.
Please find attached an Application Contact Status, which I require your chosen employee to complete. I am sorry it runs to eight pages, but in order that I know as much about him or her as your bank knows about me, there is no alternative. Please note that all copies of his or her medical history must be countersigned by a Solicitor, and the mandatory details of his/her financial situation (income, debts, assets and liabilities) must be accompanied by documented proof.
In due course, I will issue your employee with a PIN number which he/she must quote in dealings with me. I regret that it cannot be shorter than 28 digits but, again, I have modeled it on the number of button presses required of me to access my account balance on your phone bank service.
As they say, imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.
Let me level the playing field even further. When you call me, press buttons as follows:
1- To make an appointment to see me.
2- To query a missing payment.
3- To transfer the call to my living room in case I am there.
4- To transfer the call to my bedroom in case I am sleeping.
5- To transfer the call to my toilet in case I am attending to nature.
6- To transfer the call to my mobile phone if I am not at home.
7- To leave a message on my computer (a password to access my computer is required. A password will be communicated to you at a later date to the Authorised Contact.)
8- To return to the main menu and to listen to options 1 through 8
9- To make a general complaint or inquiry, the contact will then be put on hold, pending the attention of my automated answering service. While this may, on occasion, involve a lengthy wait, uplifting music will play for the duration of the call.
Regrettably, but again following your example, I must also levy an establishment fee to cover the setting up of this new arrangement.
May I wish you a happy, if ever so slightly less prosperous, New Year.
Your Humble Client
Addendum from The Editor:
IMPORTANT to REMEMBER that this letter was written by a 98 year old woman. DOESN'T SHE MAKE YOU PROUD!!!

I Am Luminous With Age
By Sister Joan Chittister

Meridel Le Sueur
Meridel Le Sueur
  "I am luminous with age," Meridel
  Le Sueur wrote. Her words give
  us pause, make us think, call us
  to the bar of judgment.
  The truth is that older people
  tend to come in two flavors -
  the sour ones and the serene  
  ones. The sour ones are angry at the world for dismissing them from the rank and file of those who run it and control it and own it and are not old in it. They demand that the rest of the world seek them out, pity them, take their orders, stay captive to their scowls.
The serene ones live with soft smiles on their aging faces, a welcome sign to the world of what it means to grow old gracefully. To have the grace of old age. They require us to go on growing more and more into ourselves as we age. It is of these that Meridel Le Sueur, an American author who lived to be 96, wrote, "I am luminous with age." Luminous. Not painted. Not masked. Luminous!
There is an important part of the aging process that lies in simply getting accustomed to being older. Part of being a vigorous older person demands, first of all, that we learn to accept it for what it is, a new and wonderful - but different - stage of life. We must admit, even in our own minds, to being older in a culture that is so youth-oriented that age is something to be hidden rather than celebrated.

The process of maturing is an art to be learned, an effort to be sustained.  By the age of fifty you have made yourself what you are, and if it is good, it is better than your youth. 
~Marya Mannes

"Me?" we say. "Sixty? Impossible." One can almost hear the tone of shame that goes with it. It burrows into the center of us and an alarm sounds in the heart. How could life be almost over, we worry, when were just beginning to understand it, to enjoy it, to love it. And with the fear of age, if we succumb to the notion that being older is some kind of obstacle to life, comes the loss of one of life's most profound periods.
The problem is that preparation for aging in our modern world seems to be concentrated almost entirely on buying anti-wrinkle creams and joining a health club - when the truth is that what must be transformed now is not so much the way we look to other people, as it is the way we look at life. Age is the moment we come to terms with ourselves. We begin to find more strength in the spirit than in the flesh.
The way we view ourselves changes from period to period in life. It is not a steady-state experience, and its most impacting definition comes in middle age. Then, we all get some kind of power, however limited it may be, just by virtue of seniority, if nothing else. We find ourselves in charge somewhere: in charge of our children, in a position of control on the job, in a position of preferment in the family, at a higher social level in the group. We have arrived.

But all of a sudden it seems, as
Joan Chittister
Sister Joan
quietly as I arrived, I am now just
as quietly dismissed. Power and control cannot be my definition of self anymore. I must now find in myself whatever it is that gives me a personal place in the world around me: I'm fun to be with; I care about other people; I have begun to live for deeper, richer, more important things than I have ever done before. I am caretaker, public watchdog, social advocate, companion now. Then, I begin to see myself differently. I begin to discover that, in many ways, I am far more important now than I have been all my previous life.
From The Gift of Years: Growing Older Gracefully

AAADD: Know The Symptoms

Recently, I was diagnosed with A.A.A.D.D. or
Age Activated Attention Deficit Disorder.
Thank goodness there's a name for this disorder.
Somehow I feel better even though I have it!
This is how it manifests:
I decide to water my garden.
As I turn on the hose in the driveway,
I look over at my car and decide it needs washing.
As I start toward the garage,
I notice mail on the porch table that
I brought up from the mailbox earlier.
I decide to go through the mail before I wash the car.
I lay my car keys on the table,
Put the junk mail in the garbage can under the table,
And notice that the can is full.
So, I decide to put the bills back
On the table and take out the garbage first.
But then I think,
Since I'm going to be near the mailbox
When I take out the garbage anyway,
I may as well pay the bills first.
I take my check book off the table,
And see that there is only one check left.
My extra checks are in my desk in the study,
So I go inside the house to my desk where
I find the can of Pepsi I'd been drinking
I'm going to look for my checks,
But first I need to push the Pepsi aside
So that I don't accidentally knock it over.
The Pepsi is getting warm,
And I decide to put it in the refrigerator to keep it cold.
As I head toward the kitchen with the Pepsi,
A vase of flowers on the counter
Catches my eye - they need water.
I put the Pepsi on the counter and
Discover my reading glasses that
I've been searching for all morning.
I decide I better put them back on my desk,
But first I'm going to water the flowers.
I set the glasses back down on the counter,
Fill a container with water and suddenly spot the TV remote.
Someone left it on the kitchen table.
I realize that tonight when we go to watch TV,
I'll be looking for the remote,
But I won't remember that it's on the kitchen table,
So I decide to put it back in the den where it belongs,
But first I'll water the flowers.
I pour some water in the flowers,
But quite a bit of it spills on the floor.
So, I set the remote back on the table,
Get some towels and wipe up the spill.
Then, I head down the hall trying to
Remember what I was planning to do.

Multitasking Queen by Beverly Naidus

At the end of the day:

The car isn't washed
The bills aren't paid
There is a warm can of Pepsi sitting on the counter
The flowers don't have enough water,
There is still only 1 check in my check book,
I can't find the remote,
I can't find my glasses,
And I don't remember what I did with the car keys.
Then, when I try to figure out why nothing got done today,
I'm really baffled because I know I was busy all damn day,
And I'm really tired.
I realize this is a serious problem,
And I'll try to get some help for it,
But first I'll check my e-mail...
Do me a favor.
Forward this message to everyone you know,
Because I don't remember who the hell I've sent it to.
- Sent in by the Queens from the New Bern, NC Queen Group 

The Queen's Court

moon goddess  The Queen's Court is a 
  gathering of sovereign
  women of a certain
  age - our dear peers - who
  graciously offer information,
  guidance, inspiration and
  encouragement to each

  We Queens know what we
  know. And we know a great
  deal. Our experience has
  made us wise. So, feel free to consult with our cyber council/counsel when you are need of sage advice or wish to explore a particular topic of interest.

I have taken our ongoing discussion about the definitions and descriptions of Queendom to The Queen of My Self Fan Page on Facebook.

This royal court of ours is off to a great start. What an amazing gathering of wise, wonderful sovereigns. The daily posts are enlightening and inspiring. Our exchange has proven the worth of our sovereignty. The participating members are mighty Queens, steadfast in adversity and generous in compassion. What an honor they bestow on all women everywhere!
If you are in need of inspiration and encouragement, the comments offered by our sister Queens offer an enormous wealth of both. Do join us and add your wisdom to The Queen's Court.
Q. As a follow up to the February Beauty Issue, I would like to know your thoughts about Age and Beauty. What are your experiences? Your personal-best breakthroughs? Are you, as I expect, better now than ever?
A: No, I'm not. I still look ten years younger than I am, but for the first time I can actually see age in my face! Yikes! I'm 53, and I do know how lucky I am, but it still freaks me out. I need to go to one of your workshops!
- Jessie, NY
A: Feeling the most confident and beautiful now that the hateful relationship with the ex is over. Yay!
-Donna, NY
A: Oh my! I think we need to circle round with cups of hot tea and ring the Tibetan bells, and then delve into the depths of this fertile ground. Right now, heading off to an appointment and just stopping by to give you all a big hug!
-Jacqueline, CA
A: Age has its own beauty. It's not easy to accept or feel good about youthful looks fading away, even if you are lucky to age gracefully, or luckier still to be able to hide your age. I keep thinking it would be nice to look the age I feel, and I relish being reminded that there are many ways to define beauty and many ways to feel beautiful. Learning to be comfortable with the way you look, and with your inner self is pretty damned important, at least to me. The older I get the more outrageous I become.
- L.a., PA
A: My mother is one of the most beautiful women. i'm biased, of course, but when she allowed the grey in her hair to slowly percolate through her dark brown/black hair starting in her late twenties, she provided a wonderful example of aging gracefully and accepting the gifts that gravity and age bestow upon us. My mother turns sixty-five this year. She has a full head of beautiful silver hair; i've just turned forty-seven and have lovely silver at my temples, a chin/neck that is beginning to wattle and a gift around my middle that had never been there before. I am loving and learning from what I call "gravities angels" about how to reign as a young Queen in my own domain. Throughout my twenties and thirties, I bridled when people said i was lucky to look younger than my age. I felt they overlooked my intelligence and point of view to focus on my appearance. I am feeling more satisfied these days to actually look my age! Don't get me wrong, i have my challenges with the wattle thing, but still try to find the gifts in it sent from gravities angels.
- Dawn, CA
A: The fact is, that I'm so grateful to have my body, a temple for my soul. I take very good care of it: Yoga, good food, meditations, cleansing out. I love life and I love my body.
- Zabrina, Germany
A: I really think that if we want to have less sexism in our society we ought to give ourselves a break and quit spending so much money. time and energy on trying to "hide" our age. We get older, that's a fact. If we're lucky, that is. Age shows, and that is a fact. The only thing I hate worse than male strangers who I don't know in the street or on the bus not showing any respect for me anymore, because yes, I show age in my face, is when women do that to me. Please stop! Consider all the money you will be saving, not to mention time and energy. You just might end up being more youthful by spending that time, money and energy on something other than your looks.
- Aimee, CA
A: There is a saying that age has its compensations. It does, experience being one, and a little wisdom, hopefully, too. When you think that not a century ago women of 50 more often looked 75+ if they managed to survive that long.
- Gerri, England
A: Here, here, lovely ladies! I agree with your thoughts on aging. The wisdom, patience and polish that comes with age cannot be replaced with the beauty of our outer bodies of younger years.
- Bea, IA
I would love to further this discussion. Do send in your definitions, descriptions and declarations of Queendom.

Please send your questions or responses to thequeenofmyself@aol.com. Your letters will be printed in the next Queen's Chronicles.

The Queen's Correspondence

 moon goddess
  Thanks so much for taking
  the time to respond to
  The Queen's Chronicles
  Please keep your 
  comments coming. And
  do feel free to make
  suggestions about  
  content you would like to
  see. Or anything else, for that matter. It is a joy to connect with you.

Letters In Response To
The February 2010 Issue:

You have outdone yourself in this newsletter! I always enjoy reading your thoughts as well as your focus on other women, past and present.  But this issue has really hit a new high! Thanks for Anne Lamott's article and the power of the Calendar Girls. Here in Hendersonville, a brave and bold group of women have started a "Bares It All" non-profit with our own calendar to support a cure for breast cancer. Those original calendar girls really started a ripple! Be Peaceful, Be Prosperous, Be in the Flow,
- Kate, NC
Congratulations! Your writing flows with a rhythm that transcends the page (or computer screen), and I believe you have created a tunnel through which spiritual energy may enter, this in addition to literally waking up hearts and minds. Well not a tunnel, more like a wormhole, helping to advance humanity's course through space and time, thereby speeding up our evolution. I suppose this is what all writers, all good writers, do.   
- Lisa, NY
Thank you for continuing to offer inspiration and uplifting articles! I am really enjoying connecting with your Huffington Post articles as well as The Queen's Chronicles! With all good wishes and grateful thanks!
- Margaret, England
I enjoyed the last issue thoroughly! So much encouragement and positive energy!
Cyndi, TX
- Alison, MI
Good job, Donna!
- Miriam, NY

Please send your responses to thequeenofmyself@aol.com.
Your letters will be printed in the next Queen's Chronicles.

Kudos to the Queens!

clapping hands rotated
  Creativity comes from trust.
  Trust your instincts. And never
  hope more than you work.
  - Rita Mae Brown

Helene Aylon, NY; c. bangs, NY; Stephanie Brody-Lederman, NY; Susan Corso, MA; Ilona Granet, NY; Annie Lanzilotto, NY; Susan Mogul, CA; Lorraine O'Grady, NY; Rachel Rosenthal, CA; Annie Sprinkle, CA; Sheriden Thomas, MA; Diane Torr, Scotland
and Martha Wilson, NY on the exhibitions of their work.
Jane Meredith, Australia,
Aphrodite's Magic: Celebrate and Heal Your Sexuality (Book); Mary Sharratt, England, Daughters of the Witching Hill (Book); Smoky Trudeau, CA, Observations of an Earth Mage (Book); Terry Wolverton, CA, Breath and other Stories (eBook) on their new publications.

Send your good news, achievements, accomplishments, successes and celebrations so that our international circle of sovereign sisters can send you blessings and accolades.
And we are glad to so. It is a joy and a privilege to share in the fortune of another woman. I recently heard Oprah say the saddest thing ever - "The hardest thing about being successful is having someone to be glad for you."

It takes a centered and confident Queen to break that pattern. There are 60 million thrones out there. One for each of us. There is plenty of purpose, passion and power for us all. May we use it well!

It is important that you recognize your progress and take pride in your accomplishments. Share your achievements with others. Brag a little. The recognition and support of those around you is nurturing.
- Rosemarie Rossetti

Circle of Concern

Helping Hands Circle 
  Please Offer Your
  Purest Thoughts,
  Prayers, Your Great 
Feelings, And
  Your Very Best
For Healing
  and Peace of Mind To:


Alice, NY; Amy, NY; Annie, MA; Betty, AL; Carol, NY; Cat, NY; Chrissie, NY; Deirdre, NY; Devidam, NY; Edie, PA; Ellen, NY; Erica, England; Gail, OH; Geraldine, ID; Glenys, Australia; Jane, NY; Jeanmarie, HI; Jill, PA; Jo, AZ; Kathy, RI; Kimi, NJ; Leslie, NY; Letitia, VA; Linda, NY; Linda, NY; Lisa, PA; Lucia, TX; Lynne, NY; Marcia, WA; Matild Cathy, NY; Naomi, DC; Pili, NY; Reid, DE; Shari, NY; Shirley, IN; Smriti, CA; Susan, NY; Terry, NY; Wai, NY
and Yvette, NY who are in the process of healing themselves from illness, accident, injury or surgery.
Amy, NY; Daile, NY; Kayla, NY; Lee, NJ; Lois, NY; Meryl, NY; Nancy, NC and Roslyn, NJ, the caregivers who are in weary need of care themselves.

May Their Spirits Rest in Peace:
Margaret Ann Case, NY

With Sincere Condolences:

Nancy Azara, NY
Darla Bjork, NY
Linda Marchisotto, NY
Weslea Sidon, ME

Nancy Passmore, MA, writes that the new offices of her acclaimed Luna Press Lunar Calendar is now under water thanks to the New England Flood of 2010. She has lost everything except one computer. Any assistance - financial, or moral -you can offer her will help to keep her afloat (as it were). She wrote:
I am writing to you from my neighbor Opal's computer, she is being so kind! Deadline for art and poetry will be extended. With help, we will get through this! The webmistress, Jan, will post pictures tonight or tomorrow at www.thelunapress.com.
Phone messages can still be left at (617) 327-8000; I can retrieve them remotely. The PO Box is above water!
Luna Press
PO Box 15511 Kenmore Station
Boston, MA 02215-0009 USA
- Nancy, MA

Please send your requests for physical and spiritual healing and positive energy so that the powerful women of The Queen's Court might send their prayers and blessings to you in your time of need.

People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
- Maya Angelou

Where the Queens Are

moon goddess


On Sunday March 14th I held a ritual event to mark my 50th Birthday and movement into being the Queen of Myself. (My actual birth date is March 10th). However, I did not simply place a shiny crown upon my head and proceed down a manicured path toward my throne.
No. There were weeks of searching and scratching, contemplating and crying. Asking, How do I do this? What is this? I sought guidance from two established Queens. And though I hoped they might show me what to do, I also understood that this process was mine alone to discover and to create. 
In the end, their greatest gift to me was their belief that I would and could do this. So, without a direct path to follow, I began gathering: Objects that felt right, people's writings, my own writing, being with the trees in the park, drawing and inviting an amazing group of women come to participate and celebrate with me.
I began to feel/know that I wanted this ceremony to take place in two locations, inside and outside. The intention became clear: To inhabit powerfully the space of myself. Seventeen women gathered in my small cozy living room.

Lauree Ceremony

The second part of the ceremony was in the park amidst a circle of 9 trees, where I wanted it. This felt to me to be a sacred Druid circle. Even the weather cooperated, mostly. The light rain enabled us to have the area in the park to ourselves.
Beforehand, I made a number of requests. I really needed help in order to prepare and organize the ritual and my dear friends and family showed up gracefully. Once it began I found myself open hearted and in the flow of power. 
We chanted Kali Durga in alignment with my intentions - To give up self-imposed torture and to clear the space for being present and living joyfully in my living room. Kali is the goddess who destroys anything which interferes with our perception of the truth. Each woman made an offering of what she wanted to let go of, and then I burned them.

A few women made my crown Queen Laureefor me that evening using the stems of live yellow/red roses woven together to which we affixed some tiny brown and turquoise "gems."

As Queen Lauree Joy Wise I declared, "WE ARE GOOD! Each one of us no matter what." 
This was the real deal! I do feel a shift and recognize the
active role I must assume in blessing, accepting and loving myself.
- Queen Lauree Joy Wise, NY

Please Submit Your Royal Reports

Tell us about your Self and/or your Queen Group: who, what, where, when, why?
What Queenly topics do you explore?
What projects do you engage in?
Describe some golden moments.
Send pictures!