The Queen's Chronicles
The Newsletter of The Queen of My Self Community
August 2008
In This Issue
Queen of Peace
Pray For Peace
The Queen's Correspondence

Queen Mama Donna

Donna Henes is an internationally renowned urban shaman, award-winning author, popular speaker, and workshop leader whose joyful celebrations of celestial events have introduced ancient traditional rituals and contemporary ceremonies to millions of people in more than 100 cities since 1972. She has published four books, a CD, an acclaimed quarterly journal and writes a column for UPI (United Press International) Religion and Spirituality Forum. Mama Donna, as she is affectionately called, maintains a ceremonial center, spirit shop, ritual practice and consultancy in Exotic Brooklyn, NY where she works with individuals, groups, institutions, municipalities and corporations to create meaningful ceremonies for every imaginable occasion.

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if there were no dark valleys to traverse.
- Helen Keller

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A Queen Event
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Thursday, September 4
With Mama Donna
Leapin Lizards
449 Forest Avenue
Portland, ME 04101
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Thursday, September 4
A workshop with Mama Donna
Leapin Lizards
449 Forest Avenue
Portland, ME 04101
For info and reservations:
$45. (includes crown and amulet bag of royal treasures)

Friday, September 5
With Mama Donna
Leapin Lizards
123 Main Street
Freeport, Maine 04032
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Sunday, September 7
Mama Donna will also be leading the Closing Ceremony
Love, Light & Laughter Gathering
The Holiday Inn
700 Myles Standish Blvd.
Taunton, MA 02780
For information and registration:
(508) 265-7929

Monday, September 8
Heaven on Earth
Old Towne Square
1035 Bedford St
Abington, MA 02351
For information and registration:
(508) 265-7929


6 Mondays September 15, 29
October 6, 13, 20 & 27
Mama Donna's Tea Garden & Healing Haven
Park Slope, Exotic Brooklyn, NY




Saturday, October 18
Mama Donna's Tea Garden & Healing Haven
Park Slope, Exotic Brooklyn, NY
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Thursday, October 23
6PM Refreshments
7-9:30PM Workshop
A ritual workshop with Mama Donna Henes
Eve's Garden
119 W. 57th Street, 12th Floor
New York, New York  10019
Info: 800-848-3837
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$40. (includes: crown and royal amulet bag)

Sunday, October 26
Mama Donna's Tea Garden & Healing Haven
Park Slope, Exotic Brooklyn, NY
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Friday, October 31
Led by Mama Donna and her Blessing Band
Avenue of the Americas from Spring Street to West 21st Street
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Saturday, November 22
A ritual workshop with Mama Donna Henes
The Grace Within
195 Blue Point Avenue
Bluepoint, New York 11715
$100. (includes crown and amulet bag of royal treasures)

Sunday, November 23
With Mama Donna
The Grace Within
195 Blue Point Avenue
Bluepoint, New York 11715


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Kudos to the Queens!

C. Bangs, NY; Sheila Pepe, NY; on the exhibitions of their artwork.

Andrea Goodman, ME,
Lightning Holds My Hand; A Woman's Journal of Guidance; B. Lynn Goodwin, CA, You Want Me To Do What? Journaling for Caregivers; Ione, NY, Nile Night; Remembered Texts from the Deep;and Mary Thunder, TX, Something Inside So Strongon their new publications.

Wicki Boyle, NY,
on the production of her play, The Calling: An Opera of Foregiveness.

Smoky Trudeau, CA,
on her move and new home.

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Please Offer Your Purest Thoughts, Your Heart-Felt Prayers, Your Great Good Feelings, And Your Very Best Blessings For Healing and Peace of Mind to:

Amy, NY; Amy, TX; Berenice, NY; Carol. NY, Daile, NY; Deni, NY; Dominique, NM; Donna, NY; Edie, PA; Gail, OH; Geraldine, CA; Ilene, NY; Irma, FL; Jo, AZ; Joan, ME; Kimi, NJ; Letitia, VA; Linda, NJ; Linda, NY; Lynne, NY; Maude, NY; Naomi, NY; Nicky, RI; Roberta, NY; Sherli, NY; Susan, MA;
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Denessa Smith
U.S. Rep. Stephanie Tubbs Jones

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For those of us in the Northern Hemisphere, summer is sizzling at its most intense in August. This period is referred to as The Dog Days of Summer. Though named after the Dog Star, Sirius, this is the weather when, according to Noel Coward, only "mad dogs and Englishmen go out in the midday sun."

This summer has been especially bad, with extreme heat waves sweeping though much of North America. The temperature here in New York City didn't budge out of the 90s for seven weeks straight. And the humidity made it feel ten degrees warmer.

Most of the West and parts of the South have been subject to massive wild fires. Our tempers are on burn mode and even the most innocuous disturbance is enough to send us over the emotional edge. In fact, all disagreements are reaching a boiling point, as is evidenced by the ever-increasing and escalating geo-religious-political-economic conflicts around the globe.

The entire planet is heating up right now. Global warming is playing havoc with weather patterns, which in turn affect all plant and animal life. The debate about the greenhouse effect, fossil fuel, renewable energy and gas prices is also revved up to high.

Time out!

Cool down!

It is so damn easy to feel depressed, frustrated, disillusioned and pissed right now. These are terrible times of artificial division, manipulated resentment and palpable fear. The real dynamic being played out right now is not about warring religious, economic or nationalistic factions. Not even about war.

The struggle is actually between those who believe that the world is defined in terms of opposition - war or peace, right or wrong, rich or poor, with us or against us - and those who are able to see things in a more holistic, congruent manner.  

In these deciding times, it is imperative for those of us who see the big picture to decide, to commit, to make a concerted effort to reach out in ever-expanding circles of affinity and embrace. Now is the time to turn our attention to positive solutions and focus our thoughts and actions toward creating healthy, functioning networks in recognition and in honor of our mutual state of being and our common fate. 

Because there really is still a chance for peace - and that chance will definitely increase if we each do our piece. It is ultimately up to us, each one of us, all of us, individually and together, to create the kind of world in which we want to live - starting right here, right now. With each step that we take, we must walk our talk, speak our truth and put our money where our mouth is.

Yours for inner peace and peace on the planet,


I am only one; but still I am one.
I cannot do everything,
but still I can do something.
I will not refuse to do something I can do.
-Helen Keller

Queen of Peace

peace pilgrim on the road Peace Pilgrim devoted almost 30 years of her life to walking and talking for peace. Born Mildred Lisette Norman in 1908 on a small poultry farm in Egg Harbor City, New Jersey. She was the oldest of three children in a loving, close-knit, extended family of nine.

The Norman ancestors had fled Germany for America in the mid-19th century to escape conflict and militarism. Her parents instilled a strong peace ethic in their children, encouraging discussion of social and political issues, and pursuit of moral questions. The family considered themselves "free-thinkers" who sought answers through reason and logic. 

After her high school graduation, Mildred Norman took secretarial jobs. As a young adult, she led an active social life and at the age of 25 she eloped with Stanley Ryder, a businessman. They were very mismatched and the marriage was fractious from the start. Stanley wanted a traditional domestic life and children; Mildred did not. He liked to drink, Mildred did not. Stanley believed in war, Mildred did not. With each passing year, the couple grew further apart.

Ironically, during the Great Depression Mildred learned that making money was easy, and that spending it foolishly was completely meaningless. She knew that this was not her destiny, but did not know what was.

She did know, however, that she was dissatisfied with her life. She was increasingly uncomfortable about having so much while others were starving. In 1938 she spent an entire night walking through the woods praying for guidance to discover her calling, and she underwent a profound spiritual experience awakening,

I felt a complete willingness, without any reservations, to give my life - to dedicate my life - to service. "If you can use me for anything, please use me!" I prayed to God. "Here I am-take all of me; use me as you will. I withhold nothing." Then a great peace came over me. I experienced a complete willingness without reservations whatsoever, to give my life to something beyond my self.

Thus began a 15-year period of intense inner transformation. She said, "I tell you it's a point of no return. After that, you can never go back to completely self-centered living."

For the entire decade of the 1940s, Mildred searched diligently for the service that she felt she was called to undertake. First she worked with senior citizens and those with emotional problems. Then she volunteered for peace organizations: the Quaker American Friends Service Committee, the Philadelphia Fellowship Commission and the United Nations Council of Philadelphia and the Women's International League for Peace and Freedom.

As she entered her midlife, Mildred began to radically simplify her life. She decided to get rid of unnecessary possessions and frivolous activities. She dissolved her unhappy marriage. She became a vegetarian, disciplined herself to live on ten dollars a week, and pared down her wardrobe to two dresses. Her goal was to "experience and learn to appreciate the great freedom of simplicity."

She described this period as a time when she was engaged in a great struggle between ego and conscience, or between her "lower, self-centered nature," and the "higher, God-centered nature." She strived to overcome selfishness in order to attain inner peace and spiritual maturity.

Mildred joined the Endurance Hiking Club and took wilderness treks to increase her physical strength and to gain experience in simple living. In 1952 she became to the first woman to walk the entire 2,050-mile length of the Appalachian Trail in one season.

Life on the trail agreed with her. Hiking reinforced her belief in simplicity and confirmed her ability to live "in harmony at need level" for long periods of time, in all weather conditions. She managed to live outdoors for five months equipped with only a pair of slacks, one shirt one sweater, a blanket and two plastic sheets.

Her menu, morning and evening, was two cups of uncooked oatmeal soaked in water and flavored with brown sugar; at noon, she had two cups of double strength dried milk, plus any berries, nuts or greens that she found in the woods.

Her experience convinced her that material possessions were simply a burden, and that to achieve a daily state of grace, she would need to maintain that simplicity after she got off the trail. 

Her long walk led to a period of concentrated inner questioning about what she, one person, could do in the cause of peace. This midlife meditation culminated in her experiencing a powerful spiritual vision, an undeniable epiphany. She came to understand that it was her destiny to be "a wanderer until mankind has learned the ways of peace." 

I then saw in my mind's eye, myself walking along and wearing the garb of my mission...I saw a map of the United States with the large cities marked - and it was as though someone had taken a colored crayon and marked a zigzag line across, coast to coast and border to border, from Los Angeles to New York City. I knew what I was to do. I will talk to everyone who will listen to me about the way to peace. I'm even planning to wear a sign, the back of which will read, "Walking Coast to Coast for Peace" and the front, "Peace Pilgrim.

She gave away all of her possessions - including her name - and prepared to embark upon the incredible pilgrimage that she would maintain for the rest of her life.

Step by step. . .Mile by mile. . .Walking. . .Marching. . .Dancing
Becoming a moving force for peace.

On the morning of January 1, 1953 at age 44, Mildred Norman Ryder adopted the name Peace Pilgrim, put on a pair of sneakers, donned dark blue slacks, blouse, and a tunic - blue being the international color for peace - and set out from Pasadena, California to walk the length of the country. She pledged to walk until she was given shelter and to fast until she was offered food.

peace pilgrim mirror

She marched ahead of the Rose Parade where thousands of people could see her off on her way. Her tunic bore her name, Peace Pilgrim, on the front and the back was printed with her goal: 10,000 Miles for World Peace. She carried her few belongings - a comb, a toothbrush, a pen, some postal stamps and nothing else, not a penny - in its pockets.
Peace Pilgrim stepped out for peace on faith alone, and in so doing, undertook a daring and groundbreaking feat that represented enormous moral courage. On that first trip, in the midst of the Korean War, the Cold War, and at the height of the McCarthy era, she walked 5,000 miles from California to New York, from coast to coast and from border to border, sharing her message of peace.

No one walks so safely as one who walks humbly and harmlessly with great love and great faith. For such a person gets through to the good in others (and there is good in everyone), and therefore cannot be harmed. This works between individuals, it works between groups and it would work between nations if nations had the courage to try it.

She gave everyone she met a printed explanation of her walk that bore the simple message. "This is the way to peace - overcome evil with good, falsehood with truth, and hatred with love." She rarely missed more than three meals before she was offered food. If she was not offered shelter, she slept in fields, under bridges, and on more than one occasion, in jail.

During her 28 years on the road, Queen Peace far exceeded her original mile-goal. When she passed the 25,000-mile mark, she stopped counting, but she continued to walk for 17 more years. She went through 29 pairs of sneakers, averaging 1500 miles per pair. At that rate, she walked about 43,500 miles.

By the time of her death in 1981, she had walked across the United States seven times, visited ten Canadian provinces and parts of Mexico, spreading her hopeful message of peace and inspiration to the countless thousands of folks who crossed her extraordinary path. 

Peace Pilgrim is my shero. I can only pray for the wisdom and determination to follow in her footsteps.

To attain inner peace you must actually give your life, not just your possessions. When you at last give your life - bringing into alignment your beliefs and the way you live - then, and only then, can you begin to find inner peace.        
Pray For Peace

Pray to whomever you kneel down to:
Jesus nailed to his wooden or marble or plastic cross,
his suffering face bent to kiss you,
Buddha still under the Bo tree in scorching heat,
Adonai, Allah. Raise your arms to Mary
that she may lay her palm on our brows,
to Shekinhah, Queen of Heaven and Earth,
to Inanna in her stripped descent.

Pray to the bus driver who takes you to work,
pray on the bus, pray for everyone riding that bus
and for everyone riding buses all over the world.
If you haven't been on a bus in a long time,
climb the few steps, drop some silver, and pray.

Waiting in line for the movies, for the ATM,
for your latte and croissant, offer your plea.
Make your eating and drinking a supplication.
Make your slicing of carrots a holy act,
each translucent layer of the onion, a deeper prayer.

Hawk or Wolf, or the Great Whale, pray
Bow down to terriers and shepherds and Siamese cats.
Fields of artichokes and elegant strawberries.

Make the brushing of your hair a prayer, every strand
its own voice, singing in the choir on your head.
As you wash your face, the water slipping
through your fingers, a prayer: Water,
softest thing on earth, gentleness
that wears away rock.

Making love, of course, is already a prayer.
Skin and open mouths worshipping that skin,
the fragile case we are poured into,

If you're hungry, pray. If you're tired.
Pray to Gandhi and Dorothy Day.
Shakespeare. Sappho. Sojourner Truth.

When you walk to your car, to the mailbox,
to the video store, let each step
be a prayer that we all keep our legs,
that we do not blow off anyone else's legs.
Or crush their skulls.
And if you are riding on a bicycle
or a skateboard, in a wheel chair, each revolution
of the wheels a prayer that as the earth revolves
we will do less harm, less harm, less harm.

And as you work, typing with a new manicure,
a tiny palm tree painted on one pearlescent nail
or delivering soda or drawing good blood
into rubber-capped vials, writing on a blackboard
with yellow chalk, twirling pizzas -

With each breath in, take in the faith of those
who have believed when belief seemed foolish,
who persevered. With each breath out, cherish.

Pull weeds for peace, turn over in your sleep for peace,
feed the birds for peace, each shiny seed
that spills onto the earth, another second of peace.
Wash your dishes, call your mother, drink wine.

Shovel leaves or snow or trash from your sidewalk.
Make a path. Fold a photo of a dead child
around your VISA card. Gnaw your crust.
Mumble along like a crazy person, stumbling
your prayer through the streets.

- Ellen Bass. From her book The Human Line, published by Copper Canyon Press, 2007
The Queen's Correspondence

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Letters In Response To The July 2008 Issue

I am really enjoying reading your newsletter. Thought you would like to know the Queen of Rock 'n Roll, Tina Turner will be touring again. We recently purchased tickets for her November concert in South Florida. Once a Queen always a Queen! Best,
-Eileen, FL

What a great newsletter and great stories about Lady Olivia and belly dancing and Tina Turner. They are all some of my favorites and it is great to see them written about so eloquently, to have their praises sung. Love,
-Glenys, Australia

Wonderful as always!
-Terese, NY

Thanks so much for The Queen's Chronicles. I really enjoyed reading it. You are a terrific resource. Aloha,
-Princess June, HI

Thanks for a fascinating newsletter.
-B. Lynn, CA
Letters In Response To The June 2008 Issue

Here is a wonderful radio interview with Linda Moulton Howe about the bees in crisis, the resulting food crisis and the African attack bees considered for import to the U.S. She is well worth listening to.
-Tony, PA
On August 1, an amazing sight took place at my house. The house we live in is called the Hex because part of it, our bedroom in fact, is in a hexagonal shape. Please note that bees make the cells of their hive in hexes too. We have had a hive of honeybees living in our roof for some time now. On Lammas, the air was filled with hundreds and hundreds of bees. The bees were swarming to make a new hive. When the hive gets too big, there is a new Queen born and a new hive is formed. They all come out of the nest and fly together and then they gather into a mass of bees clinging to one another in a nearby tree. It really is an incredible sight. After that they find a new place to make a hive. I am not sure where they went. It may be that they just went to the other side of our roof. Our house is buzzing and the roof must be full of honey! At some point we would like to find a beekeeper who could move the hive for us to somewhere nearby on the property. In the meantime, we feel this is very auspicious and wonderful.
 -Kat, MI

One of the joys to me of my spiritual sisterhood (great intersecting circles) is the strong web of connection that is maintained all across this country and the world. I'm sure that you know what I mean, because you have a wonderful web of your own. My friend Kat (letter above) shared her bee story with me and I wrote the following poem in response. Thank you for being there to share the good news. As these blessings reach more women, the healing power of the blessing grows exponentially. A blessing for the bees and from them, a blessing for all of us.
-Winona, NM


She tells me about the bees.
I can see them as she describes
the swarm.

It's suspended in a solid form
"on the tree."
A restless shadow on a drowsy day.

And the bee is "disappearing"
so "they" say.

In Michigan this happens
In the USA
A body of so many
many, many
with a deafening "hum."

Heart mantra
Can you feel it, too?
These bees haven't heard the news.

They are so many that they
split in two!
Two queens now,
And a brand new hive
Persistent beings with a will to thrive.

Bless this first harvest.
this sight has seen, the ritual done.
Long live the Queen(s)!

Winona Fetherolf, NM

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Where the Queens Are


We celebrated the Queening of my best friend, Kat at a beautiful state park lodge out on the Mississippi River. Our other best friend, Melinda, and my sister Bonnie, were also there to help celebrate. I thought you might get a kick out of the Queening ceremony I wrote up for her, since you are the Queen of the Queens!

Here's the ceremony:
On altar, light pink maiden candle and red mother candle; leave purple Queen candle unlit.
Tonight we celebrate change!  For tonight our Kat enters a new realm in her life. Tonight Kat becomes Queen.
Tradition (and I use that term loosely) says women pass through three phases in life: maiden, mother, and crone.
But that tradition was developed by a man in the 1940s, a man who clearly feared the power owned by a woman in her midlife - the power of the Queen.
As maiden, Kat roamed the hills of southern Indiana, learning the ways of the natural world around her, hungry for knowledge of the world beyond.
That girl is gone. Extinguish pink candle.
As mother, she chose not to parent her own offspring, but rather to choose a career where she ensured that underprivileged and troubled children didn't fall through the cracks in our criminal justice and social service arenas. She mentors Sarah, she cheers Robin's dreams and ambitions. Kat is proof mothering isn't simply a matter of giving birth.
But now, the kids she mothered are grown; those who follow are mothered by a new generation. Extinguish red candle.
It is time for Kat to move on. It is time for Kat to assume her rightful place in this world, as Queen of Her Self. Light purple candle.
Kat, as Queen, do you solemnly (or not so solemnly) swear:
1. To let your kundalini energy rise and fill your entire being with juicy creative stirrings?
2. To take time for yourself to paint, to write, to express yourself fully?
3. To draw closer to the Earth through tending your garden, getting dirt under your nails, and rejoicing in the song of a lark or the wonder of a firefly's glow?
4. To never let the question "I wonder" go unexplored?
5. (Anyone want to add anything?)
Have Kat kneel, place crown on her head.

From this day on, you shall be known as Kat, Queen of Her Self. May your reign be long!
All sing, to the tune of "Hail to the Chief":
Hail to the Queen, she's the Queen and we shall hail her.
Long may she reign and her kundalini rise!
Hail to the Queen she's a goddess in her own right.
Let's toast the new Queen now
and party through the night!
 -Smoky Trudeau, IL

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It is my hope that as more and more women rise to reign in the fullest potential of our supremacy, we will harness our purpose, passion, and power and direct it toward creating a more balanced and peaceful world. This is the legacy of Her majesty.

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