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"[A coach] is part advisor, part sounding board, part cheerleader, part manager, and part strategist."
-The Business Journal
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Three Phases of Change
Many people just go through the motions in life disengaged from their true passion. Once they choose to take action toward living the life they desire, they become more engaged in life and more conscious about what is affecting their life. Things begin to change: their judgment and stress decrease and pleasure, productivity, fun and feeling of purpose and fulfillment increase.
To begin this change, set up a three-step plan to find the success you desire.
Phase One: Awareness
Find your starting point. Once you find where you stand in life, you will be able to design a course for your change or direction you wish to travel. There are many ways to become aware of your starting point: assessments, interviews, reading, or just good honest self-reflection.
Phase Two: Acceptance
Decide if you like the place you're at. If you like everything about where you are, wonderful. Congratulations on living life just as you wish. However, if there are things you would change, you will want to move on to phase three.
Phase Three: Action!
Create some S.M.A.R.T. goals--more on this later--and set up an action plan to go and get those goals. Start small--get a few successes under your belt and then go for progressively larger goals. During this most difficult phase, you'll need a lot of raw determination to achieve the life you desire.
When you are ready for change, set up a plan with these three phases and you will be on your way to the new you!
S.M.A.R.T. stands for Specific, Measureable, Achievable, Reasonable, and Time-oriented. It is good practice to test your goals against this acronym to make sure they will get you what you want.
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Is It Fate?
In the last issue of the Bullseye, we discussed Self-Mastery and how resonating at a high level of energy attracts what we want into our lives with little or no effort.
What holds people back from living the lives we desire? Some people think its fate- that their lives are somehow "meant to be" the way they are. Many people don't like the concept of fate because it negates free will. But what if neither the traditional concept of fate, nor free will really existed? An unusual concept called "self-fate" helps explain why so many people don't have what they really want.
Self-fate is the idea that the past dominates our thought processes and because most people are not consciously living in the moment, the past actually creates the future. People make choices based on their past experiences so they cannot change their future unless they relinquish control of the past and choose the now instead. Self-fate really means that for most, fate does exist and there is no free will. People create their own fate because they are imprisoned by the past. There are pre-determined choices that people are programmed by the past to make.
Think about a woman who is unhappy with her relationships and says that she seems to meet the same kind of men over and over again. She complains that men are all the same and looking for the same thing. She believes that she's never going to find a relationship that is mutually respectful and serving, unlike her past relationships where she's been emotionally abused. It's no wonder she feels this way because she's had many experiences that have created those beliefs. In fact, it's quite normal that she believes what she does. This poses a real challenge--since she sees men as disrespectful, abusive, and manipulating, she is putting out "victim" energy. She is being a victim to the beliefs she has. And what is the result? The energy she emits is picked up by those whose energy matches her beliefs: men who will take advantage of her. To them, she's an easy target. She creates her future relationships and will continue to do so unless she changes her sense of self, or, who she is being, in relationships.
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