As I get older, I realize the lifestyle most people including myself desire in the later years is one of independence. By that I mean, independence to handle my own business and the health to be able to achieve that. So far, I have arrived at 5 elements or activities that will be me to achieve these. In my opinion, these are:

1. Getting enough "restful" sleep -
It makes such a big difference in how one feels and how I can deal with things, if I have at least 8 hours of undisturbed sleep - no getting up every 2-3 hours for a potty break or a drink of water. I have learned for me personally - no caffeine after 4 pm (stops the cramps and leg spasms), taking my calcium in the evening, no heavy meals at night, no liquid after 8 pm (helps on potty breaks), spray my pillow with lavender spray (relaxing), sometimes take melatonin, have a notebook by bed to make notes for tomorrow so my brain isn't constantly working on them, only read or watch pleasant things after 9pm (if you want to watch a show, tape it) and a warm bath right before climbing into bed for restful sleep.

2. Exercise -
Walking does not require a lot of time, very little equipment (good shoes), and is very helpful with losing weight, helps heart and mind, and also helps with sleep.

3. Attitude -
The serenity prayer is very helpful to remember when people start pushing your buttons. I used to tell my children - "You are sitting here - angry (or with hurt feelings) - the other guy is over it and out having a good time. Who do you think is the winner here? Don't allow your own emotions to make you a victim. Don't allow the other person to make you a victim and make you change who you really are. You hand them all the power over you and your attitude when you do that." A positive attitude helps your body deal with illness, healing, and stress. It gives it a boost.

4. Eating Right
Try to eat light in the evening. Try to avoid a lot of sugar and fat (I know today's recipes don't help ... what can I say? My Mom loved her sweets!) Try to snack on fruit, vegetables, and nuts. Eat breakfast. Eat your fruit, don't drink it as juices. Juice loses a lot of your nutrients and fiber. Avoid eating a lot of foods with additives and preservatives. My doctor told me once - "Eat it the way God made it for you. Fast food wasn't present in the Garden of Eden."

5. Have Goals
Personally, if I have goals - especially positive goals - I have a better attitude about the work needed to achieve them. I feel a strong sense of accomplishment when goals are met. Goals let you know where you're headed and how the journey is going. So much of today's society is lost to the moment, they have no stronger plan than to just get through today. I do understand that. My goal is to also get through today. I just want to do it, be happy I did it, and enjoy the journey. Best wishes to you on your life and journey.